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A single sentence—“When you choose you, you lose me”—can crack open the truth about why relationships crumble after betrayal. We take you inside that reality with a candid look at selfishness versus self-care, what safety actually feels like in the body, and how boundaries function as bridges instead of walls. From the first minute, we name the hard parts: gaslighting that reframes feelings as attacks, entitlement that calls harm “fairness,” and the slow burn of repeated deception that turns homes into places where nervous systems never rest.
You’ll hear why accountability starts where defensiveness ends, and how “sorry” changes shape when trust needs proof, not poetry. We pull from relationship research and lived experience to outline practices that work in the real world: clear boundaries that protect dignity, empathy that holds pain without correction, and routines that remove secrecy from daily life. We talk about the trap of tit for tat thinking, the power of saying what is true before it is comfortable, and the reason unresolved issues don’t disappear—they stack up until someone says stop. Faith meets psychology through a simple call from Zechariah: tell the truth, don’t scheme, and work for peace.
If you’ve wondered whether stepping back is unloving, you’ll find language for healthy detachment that creates space for real change. If you’re the partner seeking repair, you’ll learn how to listen to understand, respect boundaries as acts of love, and sit with pain without dismissing it as punishment. And if your gut has been your only compass, we’ll help you trust it while you build a plan that turns intention into consistent action. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs clarity and courage, and leave a review with the one boundary that helped you breathe again.
Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com.
Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps.
This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice.
Copyright ©️ 2025, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.
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By Kim CappsA single sentence—“When you choose you, you lose me”—can crack open the truth about why relationships crumble after betrayal. We take you inside that reality with a candid look at selfishness versus self-care, what safety actually feels like in the body, and how boundaries function as bridges instead of walls. From the first minute, we name the hard parts: gaslighting that reframes feelings as attacks, entitlement that calls harm “fairness,” and the slow burn of repeated deception that turns homes into places where nervous systems never rest.
You’ll hear why accountability starts where defensiveness ends, and how “sorry” changes shape when trust needs proof, not poetry. We pull from relationship research and lived experience to outline practices that work in the real world: clear boundaries that protect dignity, empathy that holds pain without correction, and routines that remove secrecy from daily life. We talk about the trap of tit for tat thinking, the power of saying what is true before it is comfortable, and the reason unresolved issues don’t disappear—they stack up until someone says stop. Faith meets psychology through a simple call from Zechariah: tell the truth, don’t scheme, and work for peace.
If you’ve wondered whether stepping back is unloving, you’ll find language for healthy detachment that creates space for real change. If you’re the partner seeking repair, you’ll learn how to listen to understand, respect boundaries as acts of love, and sit with pain without dismissing it as punishment. And if your gut has been your only compass, we’ll help you trust it while you build a plan that turns intention into consistent action. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs clarity and courage, and leave a review with the one boundary that helped you breathe again.
Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com.
Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps.
This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice.
Copyright ©️ 2025, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.