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#119: When You Realize You Were the Toxic One

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In this episode, let’s discuss the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal growth. Reflecting on past conversations with coaching students, I explore three key signs that show how much you've evolved: pausing before reacting even when hurt, becoming open to alternative viewpoints, and feeling and validating your emotions. Alongside these insights, we discuss the impact of sharing emotions with safe individuals and re-evaluating your social circle for healthier relationships.  
 We have been very attuned to keep our focus on our shortcomings but rarely do we allow ourselves to celebrate the progress that we’ve been making in our inner work. 
 Tune in to learn how to acknowledge your progress, appreciate your journey, and break unhealthy patterns for a better tomorrow. 
 In this episode, we cover…02:49 The inspiration for this episode04:00 How labels from your past are keeping you stuck from growing05:16 Why you should give yourself credit for the progress you've made06:49 Why you need to pause before reacting09:15 Are you open to seeing alternative perspectives?10:21 A tool to use when you're triggered14:43 Example of seeing the alternative perspectives in dating16:41 Example of seeing the alternative perspectives in inner work18:38 Feeling your emotions and validating them20:15 Why people *don't care* about your emotions21:14 What to do when you don't have safe people around you
 Resources mentioned in the episode:Listen to Episode 208: How to Make Adult Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard JacksonReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.
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#247: 3 Signs You've Grown and Are Healthier

In this episode, I go over the 4 seasons of healing everyone will go through when healing from unresolved trauma and relationship issues. 
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#246: The 4 Seasons of Healing

In this episode, I review the first 3 steps to heal from love avoidance and the issues that get in the way. Click here to download the free roadmap 
 Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?  Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements   CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Website: Blackgirlsheal.org Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal TikTok: @blackgirlsheal Facebook: Black Girls Heal Website: Blackgirlsheal.org

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#245: The First 3 Steps of Healing Love Avoidance

In this episode, I talk about 4 examples of emotional abuse that may set us up to be vulnerable to love addicted and love avoidant relationships. 
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#244: 4 Ways Family Trauma Will Normalize Emotional Abuse

As a love addict, it can be easy to slip into pushing away the love we want by holding on a little bit too tightly. In this episode, I review 3 ways that love addicts accidentally sabotage their relationships. 
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#119: When You Realize You Were the Toxic One

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