In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into something that can shake your whole world—when someone you're dating suddenly goes quiet or starts feeding you breadcrumbs of attention. Whether they're ghosting you completely or keeping you hanging with "I'm just busy" texts, we're getting real about what this behavior actually means.

Through my years of coaching women through love addiction recovery, I've seen how these disappearing acts can leave us questioning our worth and replaying every moment trying to figure out what we did wrong. Today, I'm breaking down the manipulation tactics some people use to keep you attached, and more importantly, how to recognize them before they drain your energy.

In this episode, we cover…

• 03:31 Common manipulation tactics
• 14:24 How to break the self-blame cycle
• 26:02 Doing the inner work
• 31:33 How to communicate your needs
• 39:42 The truth about disappearing acts
• 43:18 Coping with no contact

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• How to Pick Partner Checklist: blackgirlsheal.thrivecart.com/how-to-pick-partners-checklist/
• Listen to Episode 253: The 4 Steps of No Contact: blackgirlsheal.org/podcast/steps-no-contact
• Listen to Episode 279: 4 Steps to Help Yourself Heal and Relationships to Flourish: blackgirlsheal.org/podcast/279-4-steps-heal-yourself-relationships-flourish 
• How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book: blackgirlsheal.org/books
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm breaking down the complete framework I use with my coaching clients to transform their relationship patterns — the Bloom Method. After years of helping women heal from love addiction, love avoidance, and love deprivation, I've developed this powerful approach that guides you from identifying toxic roots to cultivating lasting change.

Through my work at the Love Addiction Recovery School, I've seen how this method helps women restore their relationship with themselves and create deeper, more authentic connections with others. Think of it like tending a garden: we start by uprooting what no longer serves you, cultivate fresh soil for new growth, harvest the fruits of your work, and learn how to maintain your flourishing garden.

In this episode, we cover…

• 00:57 Overview of the Love Addiction Recovery School
• 03:24 The Bloom Method Explained
• 06:23 Step 1: Uprooting the Weeds
• 16:54 Step 2: Cultivating the Ground
• 25:14 Step 3: Harvesting the Fruits
• 29:46 Step 4: Tending and Maintaining

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Listen to Episode 278: The First Three Steps to Heal Love Addiction
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal  podcast, we dive deep into the topic of love addiction and explore the steps to break free from its cycles. Learn about the free downloadable resource “The Five Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction” and discover how to identify and detox from addictive relationships. We also discuss the importance of addressing unresolved childhood wounds and building a supportive network for effective healing. Whether you are dealing with love addiction, love avoidance, or love deprivation, this episode provides invaluable insights and tools to help you achieve a love-balanced life.

In this episode, we cover…

• 03:53 What is Love Addiction?
• 06:51 Steps to heal Love Addiction
• 15:42 Detoxing from addictive relationships
• 30:24 Why you need to clear toxic roots

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Stop your love addiction patterns in 5 steps using the Heal Love Addiction Roadmap
• Check out the How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something that many of us struggle with—protecting our individuality when new love enters the picture. You know that excitement when someone new comes into your life and suddenly you want to share every moment with them? Today, we're talking about why that impulse, though natural, needs some healthy boundaries.

Through my years of coaching women through love addiction recovery, I've discovered three powerful strategies that can help you maintain your identity while building meaningful connections. These aren't just tips —they're practical tools that can transform how you approach new relationships and protect your emotional wellbeing.

In this episode, we cover…

• 03:46 The importance of slowing down
• 05:17 Tip 1: Share your joy with friends first
• 14:52 Tip 2: Set scheduled times and dates
• 19:46 Tip 3: Hold off on sexual intimacy

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into how I personally use astrology as a powerful tool for healing and understanding relationships. As someone who was once skeptical and came from a Christian ministry background, I share how astrology has evolved from being something I dismissed to becoming an invaluable resource in my personal growth and coaching practice.

Through breaking down the basics of natal charts, planetary placements, and houses, I explain how astrology is far more complex and personalized than just your sun sign. We explore why your exact birth time and location matter, and how different placements in your chart can affect everything from how you communicate to how you experience love.

In this episode, we cover…

• 02:00 - Breaking down astrological basics 
• 14:00 - Understanding houses & planetary placements 
• 31:00 - The importance of birth time & location 
• 42:00 - Breaking down the four key placements 
• 54:00 - Venus & love relationships 
• 01:07:00 - Practical applications in daily life

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• CafeAstrology.com
• Astrology for the Soul by Jan Spiller
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a game-changing tool that's about to transform how you evaluate potential relationships - the Availability Scale. Drawing from my new book 'How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts,' we're breaking down the seven levels of availability that determine whether someone is truly ready and able to show up in a relationship.

We're getting practical about how to identify where potential partners fall on the scale, from those who are fully available for deep, meaningful connections (what I call BLP - Best Friend, Lover, Partner availability) to those who present critical dangers to your emotional wellbeing.

In this episode, we cover…

• 04:26 The Seven Levels of Availability
• 08:45 Signs of Availability and Unavailability
• 13:13 Best Friend, Lover, Partner Availability
• 29:39 Good Friend Level Availability
• 34:51 Stranger Danger and Other Dangerous Levels

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Order How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book.
• Join the Dating to Win for Love Addicts program.
• Check out the No Contact Support Kit.
• Watch the FREE Masterclass: 4 Ways to Pick Better Partners as Love Addicts
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're kicking off 2025 with a powerful conversation about building stronger, healthier relationships - and yes, we're having this talk even through a 103-degree fever because that's how important this message is!

Whether you're dealing with love addiction, love avoidance, or just want to level up your relationships this year, we're diving into three game-changing strategies that you can start implementing right now. No more waiting for the "perfect time" or the "right moment" - your journey to better relationships starts today.

In this episode, we cover…

• 01:29 Three ways to improve your relationships
• 03:20 How to assess availability in relationships
• 06:03 Stop waiting for the perfect time
• 14:26 Why you should forgive yourself and allow space for growth
• 22:49 Be open to changing your mind
• 26:35 News about upcoming Black Girls Heal events

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Get your own copy of the How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book.
• Join The Healed and Loved Woman Retreat
• Join the How to Make it Work workshop
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

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Fear of abandonment can create a lot of insecurity and conflict in a relationship. In this episode, we break down 3 signs to look out for to add to your recovery plan for healing.

Get the New Book here on Amazon

Register for the How to Make it Work Between Love Avoidants and Love Addicts Workshop here

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In this episode, I will go over 3 green flags of availability for healthy partners for love addicts pulling from my new book, How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts.

Get the New Book here on Amazon

Register for the How to Make it Work Between Love Avoidants and Love Addicts Workshop here

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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On top of the normal holiday overwhelm, it seems like many of us are dealing with fatigue that we just can't catch a break. In today's episode, I give 3 tips to help support where you are.

Enroll in the 60 Day Love Avoidant Rehab

 

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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