Have you lived your entire life knowing that you deserved to receive tenderness as well as be tender? I lacked that for a long while and unfortunately it cost me two solid relationships. In honor of our humanity I decided to take a year exploring tenderness as a form of liberation and am sharing my thoughts with those of you signed up for the newsletter. You can sign up at any time by visiting here, scrolling down to the bottom and adding your best email address.

Today I'm talking about living a life with more tenderness plus I'm sharing a couple of updates. Press play and tap in.

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In this heartfelt rewind episode, I take you inside a quiet moment of reflection at a solo retreat where I finally let the tears come. I talk about what it means to give so much to others while constantly putting ourselves last, and why so many Black women — myself included — struggle to give the same love, softness, and support to ourselves.

I share:

• Why crying helped me realize what my soul is craving
• The emotional toll of always showing up for others
• Why some of us need to completely tear down our foundations and start over
• Why self-love isn’t selfish or soft — it’s necessary
• A question that might help you get closer to your own self-love

This one is for the woman who’s been giving everything but feels empty inside. You’re not alone — and you can rebuild.

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

In this episode of Brown Girl Self-Care, we're cutting through the noise and naming the truth:

Black women are not the problem — the systems are.

Capitalism, white supremacy, grind culture, and patriarchy have conditioned us to blame ourselves for exhaustion, financial struggle, and “inconsistency.” But that ends here.

We’re not just naming the harm — we’re talking about how to push back in 2025. From reclaiming rest, to doing less without guilt, to unlearning money shame, this episode is your reminder that healing and resistance can co-exist.

In this episode, I cover:

• Why rest still feels hard (and who benefits from that)
• How capitalism set us up to fail with money
• The truth about “doing the most” and what it costs us
• Real ways to resist — even if you're still tired, in debt, or just getting started

This is for you if:

• You’ve been feeling like you’re not doing enough
• You’re healing while still playing the game
• You’re ready to choose rest, ease, and clarity — without guilt

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

If you’re feeling heavy the day after Mother’s Day, this episode is for you. Whether the day brought up grief, frustration, numbness, or just left you feeling emotionally off, you are not alone. In this gentle episode, I’m holding space for the Black women who are expected to “bounce back” on Monday when their hearts are still tender. We’re talking about softening into the week, honoring your truth, and giving yourself permission to move slow. You’ll also hear a series of affirmations to carry with you as you reclaim your energy, one breath at a time.

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

First things first! I want to invite you to join me on May 14th at 7pm CDT for the "Take The Mic, Take up Space!" Podcasting 101 Workshop for Black women. You can sign up right here. This is a virtual event, being held on Zoom, that I'm hosting where I'll teach you how to get your podcast started, no more excuses. If you've been looking for a sign to start using your voice, this is it.

Now, onto todays episode. Have you ever been called boring or even a square? I have been several times and I allowed that to shame me into trying to be someone that i was never intended to be. I realized that the idea that I was too boring to show up or share parts of my life online (parts that I deem aren't too private or sacred) had a huge impact on my business and and even how I felt about myself. If this is you too, I'm sharing some takeaways I want you to consider.

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.

First things first! I want to invite you to join me on May 14th at 7pm CDT for the "Take The Mic, Take up Space!" Podcasting 101 Workshop for Black women. You can sign up right here. This is a virtual event, being held on Zoom, that I'm hosting where I'll teach you how to get your podcast started, no more excuses. If you've been looking for a sign to start using your voice, this is it.

Now, on to todays episode. I decided to let chatgpt give me a prompt that would help me do some self-reflection and it didn't disappoint. I wasn't sure that I would share this when I hit record because this was a personal note that I created for myself to process my thoughts on fear + self-worth. I'm sharing this because I want YOU to trust your voice. It's hard to trust your voice if you are searching for the perfect thing to say or the perfect thing to feel. Healing is not about an aesthetic, it's about being real, raw and unfiltered. Using your voice can be a great step to becoming a place of safety for yourself and this is so important.

Don't be afraid to use the prompt in todays episode to see what comes up for you.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.

In this episode I want to remind Black women of the importance of giving themselves their best. We have got to stop reserving our 'pretty' for others or future occasions. Black women have done enough, we have given enough, it's beyond time we utilize our best for our benefit before it is given away to others. On top of that, I'm tired of playing the supporting character in life so I share a bit about that, too. 2025 is about shaking tables and no longer hiding ourselves.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.

Overconsumption can be tearing down your self-identity and self-worth, instead of helping us take action on our inherent abilities and knowledge. You were put here to lead but your conditioning tells you that you need to consume more before you can take action. No matter your purpose, this episode is for you.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.

2025 is a pivotal year for me and for many other Black women who are sick of these systems and sick of laboring at jobs that deplete and exhaust us. Black women deal with societal systems every day that are not designed for us to thrive and I've come to realize that I have to break free from fear, perfectionism and imposter syndrome so that I can reject traditional 9-5 labor and instead do things that tap into my purpose and joy. Sound like you too? Press play!

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.

I've got a listener question today that came from my Instagram dm's. She wanted to know how I hancled/am handling my IRS debt. Listen in and I'll share the simple steps I took for my 13k of IRS debt as well as the mindset shifts I finally made regarding financial/struggle cycles.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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