Brown Girl Self-Care

This epside is for the eldest daughter who had to put her life and joy on hold to carry the weight of adult responsibilities on her shoulders.

Ok, so I stand corrected. The writings shared weren't about "sensuality" per se, but Erotic as Power. I still suggest you read it when you have time to linger this month. Here it is: The Uses of the Erotic by Audre Lorde

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I have a confession to make. A few days ago, my old survival brain started panicking about business metrics, and I frantically sat down to plan a massive, exhausting 90-day challenge. My plan was to force myself to show up on camera at 5:00 AM every single morning until the end of the year to feed the algorithm. That wasn't how I looked at it initially, but that's what it was.

Let's talk about the trap of the "unintentional scramble"—how fear tries to trick us into running back to the hustle when we make space to be still/slow down/do less, and why the most radical thing a Black woman in her midlife can do right now is refuse to be a mule for the system. Put your phone on do-not-disturb, grab your tea, and let's talk about how we are going to unlabor and choose peace for the rest of this year.

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Putting on my auntie/much older sister hat on for this episode. Got a listener question recently from a young mother. She is working, about to go to school, and raising a young daugher on her own. On top of that the father of her child is "not the nicest." In her question she asks if things will ever get easier.

You may be solo parenting, balancing an impossible load, or in the middle of a season where your energy is drained. This conversation is your reminder to remember your value and to also release the guilt you may be experiencing for decisions you made that didn't go as expected. Let's talk about protecting your peace around unhelpful co-parents, and practice practical "micro-self-care" when you have zero free time,

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Hey, hey!! The Fall Back Fall Challenge starts today and it's a call for Black women to intentionally do less during the last quarter of the year. Black women are socialized to over-give, do the emotional lifting, take care of everyone, give 175% on the job and WE ARE TIRED!! I'm talking about unlaboring as a way to pull back from these systems that drain Black women's energy and instead invest that bandwidth into ourselves, rest, community, creativity, joy and other things we care about. Trees shed/release in this season so let's be reminded that we can safely release, slow down and reserve as well.

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I've been on a bit of a summer break but I'll be back next Monday with a fresh episode!! In this replay episode I'm giving you a four question exercise you can begin using IMMEDIATELY in times of feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities and challenges straight from the book How To Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie.

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Happy Monday. In today's episode I'm sharing a little revelation I had while shopping at Costco recently. I have done some major healing in the last few years, but I still get disregulated. It's ok to not be perfect and it's ok to take a breath, raise your hand and ask for/receive help.

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Hey Beautiful Brown Girl!

Have you experienced moments of feeling...off, but don't understand why or how you got to that place? I definitely have which is why I do my best to check-in with myself everyday. Today I'm sharing six questions to start asking yourself daily or as needed.

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How can you begin to embody what it means to take up space? As a Black woman who worked in corporate America I can tell you that there were many, many times that I bit my tongue or hid my brilliance and based on conversations I've had, I am not the only one.

How do we embrace our value and begin to take up the space we rightfully deserve? Today I'm sharing three specific ways:

1. Honor your value

2. Own your words

3. Fill the space with your presence

Also, a bonus one is that everything we do doesn't warrant an apology (like I used to believe).

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Did you know that you can deepen your self-care practice by implementing the 4 S's? Silence, solitude, surrender and stillness can be used separately or collectively and don't have to be "perfected" in order to be of benefit. When your spirit feels dry and in need of moisturizing, it's likely in need of one of the 4 S's.

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Have you ever woken up completely drained, barely could manage work so blamed yourself for not being "productive enough"?

In this episode, we’re unpacking the dangerous lie that rest has to be earned and why so many of us confuse emotional and physical exhaustion with laziness. If you’ve been forcing yourself to function through burnout, overstimulation, or stress just to keep up with a routine, this episode is your invitation to drop the guilt, lower the bar, and give yourself grace.

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