Hey lady! It’s the most wonderful time of the year! A time when, hopefully, life is slowing down, and you can spend time reflecting on your year and your life. This time is a great opportunity to take stock of where you’ve been, how you’ve grown, and dream up where you’re going. And, the beautiful thing about life is that as adults we have the power of choice to determine our futures. Chances are that if you’re listening to this podcast you are an adult or advancing into adulthood and have real world obligations and responsibilities. That’s why this week, Terri and Dr. Dom spend some time breaking down what established adulthood is and how you can make the most of every single day!

Established adulthood is a concept popularized by Dr. Clare Mehta and it describes the intersection of multiple significant responsibilities like marriage, parenting, and caregiving for aging parents while advancing in one’s career. These are the markers of life that can define what life is and how you operate in it. Dr. Dom and Terri explore what that really means when you don’t quite always feel like that adult and what it means when you know, for sure, that you are that adult.

This fun episode offers perspective on how to embrace your adulthood and how to shift those good vibes into positive action for an even brighter, more fulfilling future as we head into 2025.

Head to our Patreon so you can tap into the Aftershow for more insightful questions and tips on cultivating a life that lights you up!

Tips for Navigating Established Adulthood

1. Embrace Personal Growth and Identity Shifts 
2. Set Intentional Boundaries 
3. Develop a Flexible Relationship with Goals 
4. Invest in Health and Well-Being 
5. Make Space for Community and Connection 
6. Approach Failure as Part of Growth 
7. Live your best life

Quote of the Day:
“Adulthood is not about growing up but about growing into yourself.”
– Unknown  

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Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC  

Where to find us:
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Hey lady! This week, Dr. Dom and Terri welcome Dr. Maisha Standifer, Director of Population Health, The Satcher Health Leadership Institute at Morehouse School of Medicine to offer fresh information about HIV, AIDS, the trends she’s seeing in sexually transmitted disease infection rates and what Black women need to know about keeping themselves safe and healthy.

Dr. Standifer is a powerhouse of a woman and offers grounded perspective on the real issues that the Black community face in regards to HIV transmission and AIDS. The truth of the matter is that despite HIV/AIDS being known in the community for more than 40 years the stigma has transferred from white gay men to Black women and so much of that is because of a lack of information.

In fact, 50 percent of new HIV cases are Black women. Dr. Standifer doesn’t sugarcoat the facts about the fact if you are sexually active you are HIV possible. Armed with that knowledge, she offers solutions for prevention, resources for care should you contract the infection, and hope for a future where HIV and AIDS is eradicated from the community.

Tune into a powerful conversation chock full of valuable information. This is your one precious life, lady, treat it with the best care! 

Quote of the Day:
“Understand others and their experiences as you talk and interact with them.” 
- Unknown  

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Where to find Satcher Health:
Website: Morehouse School of Medicine
Website: Satcher Health Leadership Insitute
Instagram: @satcherhealth
Facebook: Satcher Health
LinkedIn: Satcher Health Leadership Institute  

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC  

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! Are you sliding headfirst into the holidays completely exhausted by work demands, life obligations, and the oppressive beatdown that was the 2024 election season, and compounding worldwide strife? That short list doesn’t even include some of the pop quizzes that life springs on you – you know the kind; the ones that require the remainder of your energy reserves leaving you spent? Hopefully you can get some rest soon as the country begins to ease into holiday cheer. We want to help turn down the volume of life this week so we have a very special guest to help usher in moments of calm and respite.

Jasmine Marie is a breathwork practitioner and founder of Black Girls Breathing, an online platform and community that features resources to help you regulate and heal your nervous system surrounded by like-hearted Black women providing support and encouragement in the journey. She’s also the author of Black Girls Breathing: Heal From Trauma, Combat Chronic Stress, and Find Your Freedom and she joins Dr. Dom and Terri for a beautiful conversation about all of the ways we’ve learned to keep it together and how some of them may be used to our detriment.

The work to not only unlearn and heal, but grow resiliency so that you can thrive is not easy but if you have a solid toolkit you can make it fun. Jasmine Marie offers practical wisdom on why building a strong, resilient nervous system is essential to living a healthy life as a Black woman and gives tangible practices, including a sample breathwork session, that you incorporate into your daily life. Listen to the end for an extra special offer for our listeners!

Quote of the Day:
"I am worthy of giving my heart, mind, and body the attention it deserves."
– Jasmine Marie  

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Where to find Jasmine Marie:
Website: Black Girls Breathing
Website: Sunday Balm
Book with Bonus: Black Girls Breathing: Heal From Trauma, Combat Chronic Stress, and Find Your Freedom
Book: Black Girls Breathing: Heal From Trauma, Combat Chronic Stress, and Find Your Freedom I
Instagram: @blackgirlsbreathing
Instagram: @thatgirl_jmarie
Twitter: @blackgirls_bgb
Facebook: Black Girls Breathing  

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC  

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

Lady! Have you ever been called the good girl? Are you perceived as dependable, reliable, and relatively harmless? Do people expect perfection from you and when you fall short from those expectations do, they make you feel shame and guilt? And, what happens to your good girl image once you decide to stick up for yourself or say no? Is the backlash swift and painful? If anything mentioned sounds familiar, then this week’s episode is for you. 

Terri and Dr. Dom share their experiences with being the good girl and why those perceptions and thereby responsibilities can be harmful as we mature into adulthood. Whether you are the oldest child, or you came from a strict family, or you had to figure out your upbringing on your own; we’ve all experienced the societal burden of being the good girl. The good news is now that we’re grown women we have the power of choice and can choose to untangle the deleterious programming we’ve been surrounded by through family, media, and society.

Dr. Dom and Terri outline some of the harmful effects of the good girl mindset this episode. Don’t be surprised if some of the impacts are so subversive that they touch a tender spot in you. But, you know how we do. Check into the Aftershow for tips on how to heal and improve your life now that you know that you can be amazing, badass, and awesome without the low mantle of being good.

Lady, this internal work can tough but it is necessary for growth and self-actualization. Check out our Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop for journals, pillows, latte mugs, and apparel to ease some of the awakenings you’re having while listening. They also make for great gifts this holiday season!

Quote of the Day:
"Being unapologetic means that I will be all of me. I will no longer shrink or compromise myself by playing small so others will not feel insecure in my presence.”
– Lisa Nichols  

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Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice 
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC  

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! Can you believe that we are already at holiday time? This time of year, can be sweet and full of joy or rife with anxiety, tension, and heavy emotions. And, let’s be real, the current times we’re in can add in an additional layer of complex feelings that can trip up even the most internally sturdy among us.

That’s why, this week, Terri and Dr. Dom offer strategies and tips on how to navigate an often energetically charged time of the year. Have you thought through how you’re going to enjoy this holiday season? Whether it’s optimizing technology to get the feast organized or discerning the appropriate boundaries when dealing with family members, you have options to make this season as comfortable for you as possible.

You also have the power to decide to acknowledge any pain the holidays may bring and start a new tradition special to you and your loved ones.

Lady, we wish you comfort, rest, and peace however you choose to spend this season. And, remember, we love our community and we’re here for you in the archives and on our Patreon! 

Quote of the Day:
“Life is short, and it’s up to you to make it sweet.” 
– Sadie Delany  

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Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC  

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! *Cue Beyonce* All my single ladies! Well, you know the rest. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri dive into all of the reasons why being single gets a bad rap and why it’s actually something that can be celebrated.

In today’s modern dating climate women are finding themselves with autonomy and choice, which is a delicious and beautiful feeling. Even with all of that personal power, let’s not pretend that society doesn’t still place a stigma on singleness; especially if you are a woman. But, there are so many reasons why being single is the bomb and Terri and Dr. Dom want you to know all about them.

Whether you have closed up shop and are totally invested in the happiness of you and your community, or you still long for love but know that life is what you make it – there are plenty of reasons to feel excited about a life of freedom. 

Terri and Dr. Dom explore the nuance that comes with being a woman who is free of bitterness because she’s accepted and embraced the gift of time she has to build a life of purpose and meaning so that she can leave a legacy of her choosing.

Did you notice the key word in this episode? Happiness is a choice and we hope this episode inspires you to choose only the best for yourself because lady – you’re worth it! Holla at us on Instagram and tell us how you maximize your fly ass single life. And, tune into the Aftershow where the dynamic duo let their hair down in the realest of ways.

Quote of the Day:
"Single? No, I'm just in a relationship with freedom."  
– Unknown   

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Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC  

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! It’s Fall, which means the temperature is dropping and there is an invitation to turn inward to reflect, recharge, and restore. The frenetic energy of the past few months is now slowing down and we can collectively use this time to check-in with ourselves and ask, “hey girl, how are you doing?”

This week, Dr. Dom and Terri tap into their higher selves and offer some of the strategies that they use to replenish and nourish themselves during the beautiful quiet of the Fall and Winter months. Whether it be planning a luxurious spa day or setting boundaries around your cozy reading time it matters how...you do you.

As with everything, take what you need and leave the rest as you grow your self-care toolkits. Hit us up on IG and let us know how you plan on tending to yourself during the cozy, cold months? 

Fall into Wellness: 7 Ways to Rest and Recharge Before the New Year
1. Nature Walks and Hikes
2. Digital Detox
3. Cozy Reading Sessions
4. Mindful Journaling
5. Practice Self-Care Rituals
6. Indulge in Nostalgia
7. Practice Gratitude

Quote of the Day:
“Every season is one of becoming, but not always one of blooming. Be gracious with your ever-evolving self.” 
– B. Oakman  

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC  

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey lady! It’s Fall and for many, it’s officially homecoming season; the season when they’ll reunite with old classmates to reminisce on the fun times of their youth, but this week Terri and Dr. Dom want to focus on a more personal homecoming, one that is universally more accessible to all.

Dr. Thema Bryant, a friend of the show and two-time previous guest, discusses the power of finding a path home to yourself on her podcast The Homecoming Podcast. She offers wisdom on all of the various ways we lose ourselves as we journey through life and provides strategies on how to cultivate the tools needed to journey through life with wholeness. Dr. Dom and Terri draw inspiration from her podcast and dive deep into the elements that make a personal homecoming something you can delve into at your own pace.

Bittersweet undertones run through homecomings because they often come from tough lessons, but the glory and self-respect that you can generate from making the decision to return to yourself is often the greatest reward. 

Dr. Dom and Terri offer tips to help you usher in your personal homecoming. Whether it’s your first self-awakening or the latest chapter in an incredible story you have the tools to write the most beautiful scenes yet. 

8 Ways You Can Come Home to Yourself
1. Engage in Self-Reflection: Take time for introspection through journaling or meditation. Reflecting on your thoughts and experiences helps clarify your values and desires, fostering a deeper connection with your authentic self. Research shows that expressive writing can significantly enhance self-awareness and emotional health.
2. Practice Mindfulness: Incorporate mindfulness techniques into your daily routine to cultivate presence and self-awareness. Mindfulness meditation can reduce anxiety and increase acceptance of your thoughts and feelings, promoting self-compassion.
3. Set Healthy Boundaries: Learn to say no and prioritize your own needs. Establishing boundaries is crucial for self-care and maintaining your sense of self in various relationships.
4. Nurture Your Inner Child: Engage in activities that bring you joy and creativity, reminiscent of your childhood. This process can heal past wounds and foster a sense of freedom and authenticity, allowing you to reconnect with who you truly are.
5. Build a Supportive Community: Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Having a network of like-minded individuals can reinforce your self-worth and provide encouragement on your journey of self-discovery.
6. Prioritize Self-Care: Make time for activities that promote your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Regular self-care practices can lead to increased self-love and help you reconnect with your desires and needs.
7. Pursue Your Passions: Identify and engage in hobbies or interests that ignite your passion. Pursuing what you love enhances your self-identity and fulfillment, allowing you to express your true self.
8. Embrace Change and Growth: Recognize that personal growth often requires stepping out of your comfort zone. Embracing change fosters resilience and helps you adapt to new aspects of yourself, ultimately leading to a stronger sense of self.

Quote of the Day:
“Homecoming is a return to authentic living that is based on truth, self-acceptance, and an aligning of action with values and purpose.” 
–Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis, Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self  

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
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Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC  

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

Lady, today we’ve dropped a special bonus episode, and if you’ve been enjoying our podcast, this one’s especially for you. We’re at a crossroads, deciding what’s next for Cultivating H.E.R. Space, and we need your voice to guide us.

This platform was created with you in mind, and your input is what keeps it meaningful, vibrant, and real. If our podcast has ever inspired, supported, or positively impacted your life, we’d be incredibly grateful if you’d take a moment to share your thoughts.

Please click here to complete our survey — your feedback will help us shape future episodes, community events, retreats, and deeper ways to connect with you.

Thank you for being part of this journey. Let’s keep this movement going together! ✨

Love,
Terri and Dr. Dom

Quote of the Day: “Sometimes the best breakthroughs come from the moments we feel like giving up—stay the course.”

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Hey lady! You know that we love grown woman conversations here at Cultivating H.E.R. Space podcast, which is why this week Terri and Dr. Dom are delighted to welcome Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons, a leading expert in sex research and the author of Good Sex: Stories, Science, and Strategies for Sexual Liberation, to discuss why good sex can lead to a healthier nation.

What does she mean by that? You’ll just have to tune in to find out not only that, but also why putting some thought into your sexual “wishlist” and your “absolutely not” list are worthwhile endeavors for any sexually vibrant woman. Dr. Hargons offers perspective on what good sex is and why deeply meeting yourself can increase intimacy and communication with your partner or help you feel comfort and ease as you slow down your sexual activity. Whatever the reason you have for your sex life always remember that the best sex is the kind where you feel valued and respected – even if that means loving on your body is a solo activity. 

So, tap in ladies and cheers to good, ahem…vibes! 

Quote of the Day:
"My book is giving nerdy Black girl sex researcher with a ratchet brilliant mind and oldest daughter becomes therapist vibes."
– Dr. Candice Nicole  

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Where to find Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons:
Website: Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons
Book: Good Sex: Stories, Science, and Strategies for Sexual Liberation
Instagram: @dr.candicenicole  

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC  

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com