Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Lady! This week, Dr. Dom and Terri expand this year’s theme of community into the members of our community that may be on the margins. Dr. Niki Elliott, a clinical professor and director of the Center for Embodied Equity and Neurodiversity at the University of San Diego’s School of Leadership and Education Sciences and author of Heart-Centered Connections: Seven Essential Skills for Helping Neurodiverse and Marginalized Children Thrive, joins the podcast to discuss the importance of making space for those who are different than us – especially the children in our community.

Loving and caring for children living with neurodivergence requires a level of intentionality and self-awareness that is only now becoming mainstream. Some of the skills needed will call for the parents, caregiver, and community member to dig deep into themselves and address their unmet needs so that they can get out of the way and put the needs of the child first.

Dr. Niki provides a holistic approach to supporting children with neurodivergence needs and the first step is by offering compassion, not only to the child but also to the caregiver. Lady, you’ll want to tune in for actionable strategies you can begin to incorporate today that will shift your perspective in how you show up for the neurodivergent young people in your life…and, maybe even yourself too! Dr. Niki shares why helping young people train their nervous systems for resilience can help them navigate the world more skillfully.

It wasn’t all business this episode! Head over to Patreon for a special Oh You Blatchet! segment with Dr. Niki. She’s spilling the tea about her business and having fun doing so! We’ll catch you there!

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Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Where to find Dr. Niki Elliott:

Website: Dr. Niki Elliott

Book: Heart-Centered Connections: Seven Essential Skills for Helping Neurodiverse and Marginalized Children Thrive

Instagram: @iam_drniki

Resources:

Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice

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What are you most afraid of? Have you shared that with anyone? What have you done to address the fear(s)?  No worries, if you have not taken any steps. Hopefully, listening to this episode will motivate you to take action. In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Guryan Tighe. Guryan is Founder and CEO of, Fourage, that's courage with an F. As an Executive Coach who specializes in helping people address their fears, Guryan joins Dom and Terri to discuss fear and communication. Each of the ladies opens up about something they are afraid of and Guryan utilizes her expert coaching skills to facilitate the discussion and offer best practices. Then Guryan provides tips on how to engage in healthy communication with partners and parents. Some of her tips may surprise you and you will definitely want to take notes. Let’s make fear our greatest teacher.   

Quote of the Day: "FOURAGE is courage spelled with an F. We believe your fear is the gateway to your courage." - Guryan Tighe

Connect with Guryan: 
Fourage.io [email protected]

Resources: 
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today  

Where to find us:
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With the fall film festival season (mostly) in the rearview and release dates set through the end of the year, Adam and Josh hold a Fall Movie Preview Draft that sees them largely ignoring obvious picks like Avengers: Doomsday and Dune: Part Three in favor of battling over some of the most intriguing indies still to come. Plus, a review of Aaron Sorkin's The Social Reckoning and Massacre Theatre.  

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‘26 Fall Preview Draft (00:02:26-0:25:19)

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Preview Draft, cont. (00:31:26-1:02:41)

The Social Reckoning (1:02:42-01:30:58)

Massacre Theatre (01:30:59-01:36:46)

Credits / New Releases (01:36:47-01:44:01)

Notes:

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-Yes, for some reason James Caan appeared on a Fall Preview cast list for “Cliff Booth” along with his son. No, it didn’t occur to Adam that he was dead. (He is.)

-”The Family Guy” has the famous “It insists upon itself” joke – not “The Simpsons.”

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Lady! This week, Dr. Dom, Terri and their super producer Chisom have a lively discussion around the Black classic, Love and Basketball. Now, 26 years after its release, the movie has a special resonance for the crew as they look back from both a nostalgic lens and from the perspective of grown women. Join us for a trip down memory lane and explore some of the deeper meanings that are applicable to life still to this day.

The ladies go quote for quote and drop some bars as they dive deep into the lessons shared in the movie and leave you with an important question – when it comes to love, what guidelines are you using to write the greatest love story of your life, the one with yourself and how are you using that love story to guide you into greater intimacy with another?

We want to hear from you! Meet us on Instagram and let us know your favorite part of the movie!

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Goal Mapping Starter Guide

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:

Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice

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Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC

Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

Instagram: @herspacepodcast

Facebook: @herspacepodcast

Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Lady, more than likely you will be at home for the next few weeks. Before you begin catching up on all of the missed episodes of the podcast, take a trip down memory lane with us. For those of you who were coming of age around the 99 year 2000, this is an episode for you. Join Terri and Dom as they dive into some of their fun memories from the 80s, 90s, and 2000s. From music to food to TV shows and so much more! Shout out to our New Orleans families and Philly natives!

Be sure to join us on Instagram to share your memories, @HERspacepodcast.  
Quote of the Day: "Recalling days of sadness, memories haunt me.  Recalling days of happiness, I haunt my memories." - Unknown

Takeaways:
Fresh Prince of Bel-Air Seasons 1-3 https://amzn.to/3cGDw1L  
Gullah Gullah Island: Season 1 (3 Discs) https://amzn.to/2Izp9ys  

Relevant Episodes:
S2E2: Play-Deprivation: What to Do When Fun Is Not Your Ministry  
S4E7: Myths and Beliefs We Need to Unlearn

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC  

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Email: [email protected] 
H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

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Hey lady, welcome to Fall! This season is perfect for sweaters, soup, and shedding. As the temperature cools and you find yourself drawn inward, you can now use this time to shed some of the survival programming and strategies so that you can return to the true you.

This week, Terri and Dr. Dom lovingly discuss how they’ve endured seasons of straight survival without even realizing it. Lady, hindsight is absolutely 20/20. One day you look back at the past couple of years you grit your way through despite not letting it show that you are going through it and say to yourself wow! The amount of life-changing, truly transformative events can blow your mind. But, once you get past the wave of emotions that may come up you now have an amazing opportunity to chart a course – one from a place of wholeness and abundance, not scratching and surviving.

Tune in for strategies on how to optimize your time and your life now that you are in a place to do what you want to do, not only what you can or have to do.

And, girl, if you are not a member of our Patreon you are missing out! We have exclusives, first look content, and real sister friend camaraderie that will help you expand both your mind and your community. We’re waiting for you!

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Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA.

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Goal Mapping Starter Guide

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:

Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice

Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.

Branding with Terri

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC

Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

Instagram: @herspacepodcast

Facebook: @herspacepodcast

Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Lady, are you in control of your life? In today’s throwback episode, Jasmine Green joins Terri and Dr. Dom to share with us how we may not be in alignment with our purpose and steps we can take to get into alignment. No matter how your journey started, as we hear from Jasmine, does not have to be the route you continue to take. The internal experience of the entrepreneur we see is a powerfully vulnerable story and Jasmine shares with us how to transmute our energy. Through visualizations and personal examples we learn concrete steps to manifest the life we deserve.

Quote of the Day:
"You can only receive what you're actually ready for AND... You will only allow yourself to have what you believe you deserve."
- Jasmine P. Green

Takeaways:
Three phases of Manifestation
True manifestation is when you master being it vs wanting it
1. I want it because I recognize what I don’t have
2. Close your eyes and visualize where you want to be ”this is mine”
3. Whatever you believe you deserve you can have- you have everything you need to get/receive it.
 
FB: JasminePaigeGreen
IG: Jasminepgreen

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: herspacepodcast.com
Email: [email protected]
H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

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Lady, by now you know the most uncomfortable part of your becoming is just that, the discomfort. The next version of you requires a shedding of all of the ways that kept you safe because those ways are likely now what are keeping you small. Knowing that doesn’t make the actual act of shifting your life any easier, which is why Terri and Dr. Dom stop by this week to offer some comfort and a few strategies to help you navigate these changes in a way that is authentic to you.

Whether it’s shifting a relationship by removing contact or allowing yourself to shatter your own worldview, there is a quiet power in making yourself comfortable in the liminal spaces in your life. So, how do you make the most of the vastness between the old and new you? Tune in this week for tips on how to cultivate a level of curiosity so that you can decorate your interior life with what feels real and true for you.

Lady, this life is a journey – a beautiful, bumpy ride ripe with opportunities for meaning, connection, and impact. What do you want this life to feel like? Once you are clear, you can know for sure, that it is yours to be had. Happy creating, lady!

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Goal Mapping Starter Guide

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:

Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice

Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.

Branding with Terri

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC

Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

Instagram: @herspacepodcast

Facebook: @herspacepodcast

Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri help us understand how we may be dimming our light through real-life examples. Now is the time for us to stop playing small and start “Shining, Shining, Yeah!”

Quote of the Day:
"Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same."
- Marianne Williamson

Sylvia Salow’s 6 Secrets to Stop Dimming Your Light
1. Observe Your Body
2. Bring your awareness to your energetic field
3. Find Out Why You Dim Your Light
4. Find out how you would shine your light if no one is around.
5. Know Your Soul's Blueprint
6. Fill Yourself Up

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Lady, this week Dr. Dom and Terri ask you one very important question: who is holding you? When the days get long, and the load is overwhelming, are you the only person you can rely on? If that sounds familiar then grab your favorite throw blanket, get cozy and let this episode swaddle you in self-care and self-compassion.

There are many factors why the strong friend often gets overlooked when it’s time to be checked on or nurtured, but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t need or deserve the type of support she gives. Still, the strong friend can be her own worst enemy when it comes to receiving the care and tenderness she actually needs because she’s built a life of identifying silently suffering as a noble endeavor. And, when she finally looked around for who the adult in the room to help her she realized it was her.

Terri and Dr. Dom share real-life scenarios where they were thrust into adulthood, gave insight to how they handled those situations, and reflected on what they needed in those moments. The what I wish I had knowns of life are often bittersweet because sometimes without warning you are on a new path with new responsibilities and new expectations from people. It can be…a lot. And, it doesn’t mean that these situations will stop but there are things that you can do to advocate for yourself. Do you know what will make you feel held and supported? Maybe it’s a call from a friend checking in or maybe it’s a hot bath where you can soak and ease your worries. Once you identify what you need practice asking for what you need with the strategies provided in this episode.

Lady, you are your best investment so figure out what money can’t buy and build a life where you are held and held well.

Goal Mapping Starter Guide

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:

Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice

Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.

Branding with Terri

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC

Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

Instagram: @herspacepodcast

Facebook: @herspacepodcast

Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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