Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Lady, by now you know the most uncomfortable part of your becoming is just that, the discomfort. The next version of you requires a shedding of all of the ways that kept you safe because those ways are likely now what are keeping you small. Knowing that doesn’t make the actual act of shifting your life any easier, which is why Terri and Dr. Dom stop by this week to offer some comfort and a few strategies to help you navigate these changes in a way that is authentic to you.

Whether it’s shifting a relationship by removing contact or allowing yourself to shatter your own worldview, there is a quiet power in making yourself comfortable in the liminal spaces in your life. So, how do you make the most of the vastness between the old and new you? Tune in this week for tips on how to cultivate a level of curiosity so that you can decorate your interior life with what feels real and true for you.

Lady, this life is a journey – a beautiful, bumpy ride ripe with opportunities for meaning, connection, and impact. What do you want this life to feel like? Once you are clear, you can know for sure, that it is yours to be had. Happy creating, lady!

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In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri help us understand how we may be dimming our light through real-life examples. Now is the time for us to stop playing small and start “Shining, Shining, Yeah!”

Quote of the Day:
"Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same."
- Marianne Williamson

Sylvia Salow’s 6 Secrets to Stop Dimming Your Light
1. Observe Your Body
2. Bring your awareness to your energetic field
3. Find Out Why You Dim Your Light
4. Find out how you would shine your light if no one is around.
5. Know Your Soul's Blueprint
6. Fill Yourself Up

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
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Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Lady, this week Dr. Dom and Terri ask you one very important question: who is holding you? When the days get long, and the load is overwhelming, are you the only person you can rely on? If that sounds familiar then grab your favorite throw blanket, get cozy and let this episode swaddle you in self-care and self-compassion.

There are many factors why the strong friend often gets overlooked when it’s time to be checked on or nurtured, but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t need or deserve the type of support she gives. Still, the strong friend can be her own worst enemy when it comes to receiving the care and tenderness she actually needs because she’s built a life of identifying silently suffering as a noble endeavor. And, when she finally looked around for who the adult in the room to help her she realized it was her.

Terri and Dr. Dom share real-life scenarios where they were thrust into adulthood, gave insight to how they handled those situations, and reflected on what they needed in those moments. The what I wish I had knowns of life are often bittersweet because sometimes without warning you are on a new path with new responsibilities and new expectations from people. It can be…a lot. And, it doesn’t mean that these situations will stop but there are things that you can do to advocate for yourself. Do you know what will make you feel held and supported? Maybe it’s a call from a friend checking in or maybe it’s a hot bath where you can soak and ease your worries. Once you identify what you need practice asking for what you need with the strategies provided in this episode.

Lady, you are your best investment so figure out what money can’t buy and build a life where you are held and held well.

Goal Mapping Starter Guide

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Resources:

Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice

Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.

Branding with Terri

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC

Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

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Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Lady! We know that not only are we living in interesting, unprecedented times but we’re also just living our regular lives and sometimes life be lifin’. Life is beautiful, abundant, and generous but it can also be raggedy, harsh, and tough. As much as we love being a part of the toolkit that helps keep you uplifted, you know that we always keep it real. That’s why in this week's throwback, Dr. Dom and Terri offer their grounded perspective about how to handle life when life is being a hot, ghetto mess.

Adulting is often fun and wonderful. There are days as an adult when ice cream for breakfast is a thing because you’re grown. But, for the days when the laundry is piling up, the bills are due, the internal monologue is putting you through the ringer, the deep pain within is spilling out, you’re sick, or you’re just tired it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and like you’re getting it all wrong. 

Fear not, Terri and Dr. Dom offer ten truth bombs to help you keep everything in perspective as you get up and figure it out – like you always do! Adulting is often described as a series of responsibilities and actions that one takes to be a functioning member of society. But, this week Dr. Dom and Terri remind you that often adulting is finding the tools to complete those mundane tasks to satisfaction when life doesn’t feel good. 

So, grab your Cultivating H.E.R. Space latte mug (find it and more in the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop), fill it with your favorite cozy beverage, and allow this episode to be the warm hug, kiss on the cheek, or pat on the back for getting through the patches when life feels hard. Lady, no matter what’s going on keep your chin up and remember that we’re rooting for you! 

10 Things to Remember When Adulting Gets Ghetto
1. Crying doesn’t mean you’re losing — It means you’re releasing 
2. You’re not weak — you’re carrying a lot right now 
3. Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you’re not supported 
4. It’s okay to miss people who are no longer in your life 
5. Your ancestors would be so proud of you 
6. It’s normal to grieve the life you thought you’d have by now 
7. You are always worthy of love, even when you think you're a mess 
8. You’re allowed to rest, even If nothing’s done 
9. Your dream isn’t too big — It’s just being built on divine timing 
10. Everything is going to be okay — even if it doesn’t look like it yet

Quote of the Day:
"Adulting is realizing that you have to take charge of your life, even when it's hard." 
– Unknown  

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Therapy for Black Girls 
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Hey lady! Have you ever been accused of being stuck-up, shy, rude, or flat-out a b*tch and you were simply existing? Other people’s projections land on you and suddenly you have a reputation for being anti-social or awkward while anxiety is beating your butt and you’re doing your best not to show it. Or, maybe you’re the one pre-emptively judging someone for their demeanor, creating stories about why they are behaving they way they are without pausing and finding a neutral space from which to observe the interaction.

This week, Dr. Dom and Terri show some love to the socially selective, the socially anxious, and the downright awkward among us so that we can understand these relational dynamics and hopefully offer more compassion to ourselves and others. Why? Because we’re all doing life for the first time and we do not all have the answers but we can make the effort to help each other along the way.

Have you noticed that certain situations trigger fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses from you? Dr. Dom offers an actionable toolkit to help you navigate those scenarios so you can enter spaces skillfully. And, Terri offers perspective about how you can give yourself grace because it is quite possible that you are reading the room accurately and acting perfectly appropriately even if other people misunderstand your behavior.

Terri and Dr. Dom share their real-world experiences and how they’ve been able to adapt to situations while also identifying when they’ve personalized a situation without enough data or proper context. Lady, doing that can cause unforced errors in an otherwise fruitful potential relationship, so do yourself a favor, head over to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop, grab your journal and spend some time with the reflection questions offered in this episode.

Lady, life is all about relationships so let’s expand our capacity to be in sisterhood by increasing our confidence and our understanding of our differences. We’re shaping this world into a beautiful one full of genuine authenticity!

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Goal Mapping Starter Guide

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:

Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice

Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.

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Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC

Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:

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We talked about John seeing Nia Long, the results of the Elite 8 of our 1996 bracket, our Dookie Butts of the Week, and more.

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Hey lady! Is there something on your heart, an idea you really want to get off of the ground, and you’re just waiting for the right time? Are you aware that there is no time like the present? Sure, maybe you’ve heard that old adage plenty of times, but it’s true. The only way to get better or even gauge where you are in the process is to start. In this week's throwback episode, Dr. Dom and Terri have a frank conversation about how they use fear to fuel their internal fire. This internal fire keeps them going to accomplish their personal and professional goals and it's one that you can cultivate for yourself. They offer game on some of the tricky instances that can trip us up along the way. And, in the Aftershow they offer tips on how to conquer them. This is a juicy, meaty episode with some useful additions to your toolkit. We’re here for our community so tap in and connect with us on Instagram and Patreon! 

Quote of the Day:
“The Sun will rise and set regardless. What we choose to do with the light while it's here is up to us. Journey wisely.”
― Alex Elle

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We talked about the 1996 Bracket ending, the fake 49ers player, and our Dookie Butts of the Week.

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Lady! Are you in the mood for love but feeling allergic to shared finances, living together, and faking the funk of marital bliss? Don’t worry lady, this isn’t an episode for the lovestung cynics, it’s an ode to the changing nature of romantic relationships.

Whether you eschew marriage altogether or you welcome long-term partnership but on your terms, we are thankfully in a time when new relationship templates are being welcomed and embraced by those who desire relationships.

Previous generations often married for survival or necessity but this generation gets to partner based on shared values and goals. So, do you know what you want or need to be in a healthy relationship? Dr. Dom and Terri share some of their business as they illustrate how they defined what healthy relationships mean to them. Don’t feel left out! They’ve created the H.E.R. Relationship test, an assessment that will help you check the health of your current relationship or help you establish a framework of how you want to show up in your future relationship. They also reinforce that you don’t need to be with anyone to feel complete and if you do, you might want to talk to the lady about it. Book a consultation with Dr. Dom to discuss any issues of self-worth, attachment trauma, or self-esteem issues.

Lady, the H.E.R. Relationship Test isn’t the only goodie in this episode but you’ll have to tune in to find out the other actionable items you can implement today to help you find a relationship that works best for you!

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Goal Mapping Starter Guide

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:

Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice

Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.

Branding with Terri

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC

Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

Instagram: @herspacepodcast

Facebook: @herspacepodcast

Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Hey lady! This week Dr. Dom and Terri discuss a touchy but necessary subject – how to deal with the office bully, especially when the office bully looks like you.

By now we all know that being a mean girl is wack, late, and played out, but it is still a reality for some people in the office. So, how do you, as a grown woman with tools and skills, deal with those sticky, tricky, and often nuanced situations where the mean girl is trying to make you feel a way?

Terri and Dr. Dom offer a few scenarios, from their lived and witnessed experiences, of how these experiences play out and how they can seriously impact your wellbeing. The good news is that there are strategies to deal with challenging work situations. So, when the skinfolk at your job are not acting like kinfolk, charge it to the game but keep your eyes open. How, you may ask?

Tap in for a few tools for self-reflection and self-assessment so you can be aware of when that energy is coming at you, or when you are the energy that needs to be corrected. Keep growing, lady!

We’re partnered with VB Health, a doctor-formulated supplement brand focused on sexual wellness you can trust.

Featuring Drive Boost (libido support for all genders). Most users report results after 1–2 weeks of consistent use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace

Goal Mapping Starter Guide

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:

Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice

Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.

Branding with Terri

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC

Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

Instagram: @herspacepodcast

Facebook: @herspacepodcast

Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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