On this episode I talk about how it pays for you to take things slow and really get to know someone. Dating for a week and then it turning into sex and then hanging out at your place or their place is not dating. That’s just laying up. I give my opinion on what I feel like dating should look like, how to be intentional with the questions you’re asking and how to not waste your time or have someone save you for later.

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On this episode I talk about so many different things. Settling, knowing your worth, being exhausted trying to make a relationship work and spreading yourself thin. This was a really good episode. I’m also going on tour and would love to see yall there here are some links for what I have going on!

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Happy muvas day to every woman, mother or not. Todays episode I honor a few different dynamics of mothers, sisters and daughters and what it means to be a mother. Today is also my first show of the year on Mothers day and in NY how ironic for it to be today of all days? I am so excited, you can still get tickets to join us using the link below. Enjoy.

https://citywinery.com/new-york-city/events/maui-the-writer-pfd9al

On this episode of who do you love I talk about nurturing other relationships outside of our romantic ones. I challenge you to prioritize the things that are important to you and that you enjoy doing with the same enthusiasm used to plan a date with your man. We neglect so many aspects of who we are to show up for other people, we stop spending time with friends and family or even self development things like working out or our hobbies. How can you incorporate both things in your life so neither has to be neglected ? Lets talk.

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This episode I talk about seeking validation from our friends and partners. Making our own decisions and being comfortable with the choices that we make. It is so easy to get caught up in how we think other people are viewing us or their perceptions of us. Making choices you are happy with unapologetically. I have a mother’s day poetry show coming up in New York and have also included the ticket link. The show is for everyone not just women. But the line up of poets will be women.

https://citywinery.com/new-york-city/ticket-selection?eventId=maui-the-writer-pfd9al

Are you entertaining transactional relationships by overextending yourself, people pleasing or associating your worth with being needed? Some people love of for what we do not who we are and what we can offer that benefits them . The quote goes “judge a man by his patience when he has nothing and his attitude when he has everything” People tolerate more when they need someone it’s not until they are in the position where they feel they don’t need someone or can no longer benefit that they show their true colors .

The poem in the beginning is called

“you ain’t never loved nothing”.

This episode I talk about letting go, being uncomfortable, celebrating yourself and all that you have. I had a conversation yesterday where I mentioned this, but this has always been a theme in my life. Not celebrating myself or my journey just always focusing on what I need to do next or be better at. Look around, you so far from where you started. Honor that. Appreciate that. Thank God for it.

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Today I talk about Ramadan and fasting. Fasting from social media and people. Starting a 30 day self care challenge. Prioritizing your time so you can take care of yourself and not make excuses for all the stuff you need to be doing. How would you feel if you realized the biggest distractions In your life were the people you are around? Are you not able to juggle it all, are you being a follower or are you just not prioritizing your time correctly?

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It’s been a while and I have missed all of you. I have still been going to therapy and now back to working on my psychology degree. Being a mom of 3 has been dragging me by the hair but I’m doing my best!

On this episode I touch on a few topics

Forgiveness

Being mindful of who you take advice from and tell your business to

Being mindful of when you are wasting your advice on people who are committed to their own narratives.

Building a relationship with God and fasting from things.

On this episode we talk about pacing yourself when dated to give yourself time to see exactly who someone is. It is no benefit to us to move fast when taking our time could not only lead to the same results but more than likely better results.

Pacing your love because not everyone deserves it and sometimes we have so much of it to give too much of our love to people who are only there to use us up.

Taking your time when your dating and getting to know someone and asking yourself what is being invested in this dating phase

Is it just quality time?

Conversation?

Romance?

Is it consideration and thoughtfulness

Is it being intentional ?

What have they communicated that they are looking for or what their intentions are when with dating?