On this episode we talk about pacing yourself when dated to give yourself time to see exactly who someone is. It is no benefit to us to move fast when taking our time could not only lead to the same results but more than likely better results.

Pacing your love because not everyone deserves it and sometimes we have so much of it to give too much of our love to people who are only there to use us up.

Taking your time when your dating and getting to know someone and asking yourself what is being invested in this dating phase

Is it just quality time?

Conversation?

Romance?

Is it consideration and thoughtfulness

Is it being intentional ?

What have they communicated that they are looking for or what their intentions are when with dating?

On this episode we talk about a few things and one of those things are the reason behind why it is easier for some of us women to give more grace to the men in our lives who have betrayed us but not to the women in our lives who we have built friendships with? Granted I do understand that there are complex situations, but in the scenarios where a conversation could have been had why did that not happen?

Thinking about the relationships that you have with women in your life is there anything that reminds you of the relationship that you have with your mother or other women in your life ?

How did they make you feel? Do you miss them and if you do what do you miss? What would have been an ideal outcome of the situation ?

If you’re tuned into this episode know that I miss you and am so happy and grateful that you all have been patient with me. But as I said, write down a few things that you do without blaming someone. Because there is always going to be someone who mishandled you, but I want you to focus on the emotions that you felt instead and how it has shaped you.

Also when I say “Why do you do the things you do without blaming other people” doesn’t mean that I’m not saying don’t hold people accountable or that they don’t deserve blame . I’m just saying for this specific thing I want you to do, I do not want you to involve those people.

Compassion, Not judging, creating and communicating real boundaries. These are a few points I talk about.

On this episode we have our special guest AJ McQueen. I ask him about growing up in St. Louis, mental health, relationships, his inner child, therapy and what does self care mean to him. The episode was really great and he dropped so many gems that people would be able to take away when it comes to how to show up for themselves, be confident and give themselves grace. Check out his music and tour dates below. My personal favorite song is Love Jones.

WATCH THE FULL VIDEO HERE https://youtu.be/zwQKyr7cl3U

TOUR TICKETS - AJTHEGREAT.COM/TOUR
APPLE MUSIC - https://music.apple.com/us/artist/aj-mcqueen/540889165
SPOTIFY - https://open.spotify.com/artist/5yQzq87Fu3ZTADxVWwWoj7?si=zXp1_iaeQHmvTHaw9b05-Q