Boundaries don’t always look like cutting people off or quitting jobs. The ones that actually keep you from burning out are the daily boundaries — the small choices that say: my time, my body, and my energy belong to me.

In this episode, I’m breaking down five daily boundaries that protect your sanity:

• Not answering texts right away
• Saying “I can’t talk right now”
• Blocking off the first 30 minutes of your morning
• Leaving when you’re ready
• Refusing to explain your “no”

These may look simple, but they’re radical. Because every time a Black woman says no to urgency, over-functioning, or people-pleasing, she’s also saying no to the systems that demand her exhaustion.

Listen in if you’re ready to stop being “on call” for the world and start saving your energy for yourself.

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We are out here building businesses, doing side gigs, dreaming about walking in our purpose, right? Yes! As we do this, there may be a pull for you to get out there and showboat just how well you are doing by flaunting your income while encouraging others to quit their job and "get like you." This episode is a reminder that this isn't the way to grow. There will be ups and downs in your entrepreneurial journey. Don't let the "highs" fool you into thinking you need to flaunt because things can change very quickly.

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I’m sharing what it looked like to move from bracing for the worst to making space for the best. This shift didn’t happen overnight, but it’s changed how I move through life, how I feel in my body, and how I trust myself.

We talk about:

• The moment I realized my trust was starting to change
• How my nervous system used to feel vs. how it feels now
• Why trust takes time to rebuild

Also, as mentioned: BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is where we sit together and put out the fires—whether it’s burnout from your job, the weight of family dynamics, being the go-to for everyone in your circle, community or church obligations, caregiving without support, or constantly feeling like you have to be the strong one—so you can reset and move forward lighter. You’ll leave with clarity and steps you can actually use right now. If you want to go deeper, we can work through the full BEING framework together. Book your session here.

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So many of us are walking around with an invisible contract we never agreed to—but we’re still out here living by it. It's the Superwoman Contract. In this episode, I’m naming what it is, where it comes from, how it keeps us stuck, and what it costs us to keep performing strength.

We talk about:

• What the Superwoman Contract actually is
• Why we feel obligated to carry so much
• How this “strength” is expensive
• What it could look like to void the contract and choose something else

Mentioned in this episode:

➡️ BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is support for Black women who are navigating reinvention, self-trust, and soft power after survival. If you’ve been carrying it all, this is your space to finally set it down. Book your session today.

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I'm turning 50 soon, and that shift is showing up everywhere. That includes Brown Girl Self-Care. In this episode, I’m sharing why Brown Girl Self-Care is now centering Black women in our 40s, 50s, 60s, and 70s. There needs to be wellness and self-care conversations for Black women who have entered middle-age. That is what this is.

We talk about:

• Why most wellness content doesn’t hit for us anymore
• What self-care meant before vs. what it means now
• The transitions we’re moving through in midlife
• Why this shift is necessary—not just for me, but for us

Mentioned in this episode:

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Hey, hey!

Back with an Eff The Cubicle Friday episode! Can we keep it real today? Straight without the chaser? Some of you listening to this episode will stay at that job you hate, not because you can't rock your gift but because you refuse to believe in yourself. Hit play and let's talk.

Also, as mentioned, if you have been doing way too much and can't get a handle on prioritizing your needs, book some time on my calendar right here! It's hard to figure out your needs or even what's next for you when life is full of people-pleasing, carrying the weight of family and the job, and always having to be "on." These sessions help you feel clearer, lighter, and more connected to what you need so that you can bloom.

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We romanticize the idea of creating space—clearing our calendars, releasing relationships, cutting ties with the noise. But what happens when you finally get the space you’ve been asking for... and it doesn’t feel good?

In this episode, I talk about the raw, often ignored reality of what spaciousness brings up: the discomfort, the second-guessing, the urge to fill the quiet. If you’ve made changes to protect your peace and now feel unsettled by the stillness, this conversation is for you.

In this episode:

• Why stillness can feel unsafe at first
• How your nervous system reacts to peace when it’s used to chaos
• The temptation to refill what you just cleared
• What to do when the quiet feels like too much

If you're in a season of stretching, releasing, or sitting in uncomfortable in-between moments, book a 1:1 B.E.I.N.G. session with me. It’s a space to process, reconnect, and move through what’s surfacing with care.

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Hey, hey!!

This is a replay episode from 2022 and I'm being very, very real about ways "I" was not a safe space for other Black women when I was younger. This is an eye-opening episode because we never intend to harm but if there is unresolved trauma, it's very possible that at some point we will.

Recording this episode humbled me but I 'm sharing because it's not about judgement or blame but about awareness and reflection as we continue leaning into community care and support for one another.

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*This episode is a little cussy so nsfw*

Hey, hey! In this episode of the pod I'm sharing some thing you need to hear about having your needs met. At the end I also provide a quick affirmation/reminder to carry with you this week.

Also, here is the information for the self-care guidance I mention in this episode. Every woman that books this month will lock in the promotional rate for life of $49/session. We all need space to be held. We all need space to unravel. We all need space to center OUR needs and to get guidance on ways to bloom. This is your space. Join me in the B.E.I.N.G. Space anytime.

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**** This episode has cussing and also goes into detail about childhood trauma/abuse****

It’s been one full year since I went no contact with my mother. In this episode, I’m reflecting on how I spent the day, the grief and grounding I’ve moved through, and three lessons I’ve learned since choosing distance over dysfunction. This isn’t about being strong or unbothered—it’s about what happens when you choose peace and refuse to shrink, even when people expect you to go back.

I’m sharing this episode for anyone who's navigating estrangement, emotional distance, or rebuilding themselves after breaking ties. You’re not alone. And no, you’re not wrong for choosing yourself.

In this episode, I share:

• How I spent the one-year anniversary
• 3 real lessons from going no contact
• The ways I’ve learned to honor myself
• How people will try to guilt you

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