The Divorce Support Podcast

When Your Ex Starts Dating - And Why it Hurts


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When your ex starts dating someone new, it can feel devastating — even if the relationship ended months ago.

Your chest tightens. Your thoughts spiral. You start asking questions you can't stop replaying:

Did I matter? Was I enough? Was I replaced?

In this episode, we unpack what's actually happening when your ex moves on — and why the pain isn't really about them dating.

You'll learn:

• Why their new relationship triggers abandonment, insecurity, and grief • The difference between bridge collapse and structural defect • Why dating fast doesn't automatically mean healed • How identity gets entangled with being chosen • The real indicator of whether you've truly let go

We walk through a structured recovery path — Thinking → Feelings → Identity → Relationships — so you can understand exactly where you are in your healing process.

This episode isn't about suppressing emotion. It's about understanding activation — and rebuilding from strength instead of survival.

If you've ever felt destabilized by your ex moving on, this conversation will help you see what's unfinished — and how to move forward in a grounded, powerful way.

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The Divorce Support PodcastBy Kevin Van Liere