"You need community. You can't do this alone." It's the advice people get often — so you find a group, you lean on your friends, maybe you start dating before you're ready. And some of it helps. A little. But feeling less alone isn't the same as getting better, and most people never learn the difference until they've worn out the people who love them.

This season walks through the book 10-Week Divorce Recovery: The Proven Step-by-Step Roadmap, one chapter at a time — the same method that's helped people let go and move on for more than 40 years.

In this episode, meet Jon, who drove to a support group desperate for help and got YouTube videos instead; Brad, who leaned so hard on his friends he could feel them start to pull away; and Kevin Van Liere's own ten months in a relationship that helped him survive but never let him heal. The thread connecting all of them: community, curriculum, and structure still aren't enough on their own. What actually moves people from stuck to free is trained facilitators who show you how to do the work, proven methods, real accountability, and a group doing it alongside you — the difference between Jon at 15 and Jon at 90.

If you've been leaning on everyone around you and still feel stuck, start here.

Find out where you actually are. Take the free Divorce Recovery Scorecard — 30 questions, five minutes, instant results. It's the same baseline we use to measure real progress. You'll hear scores come up throughout this season, so get yours and follow along: Rebuilders.net/drs

Join us at Phoenix Live. Free, live — real people at every stage of divorce recovery, doing the work together. Come just to listen the first time. Save your spot: Rebuilders.net/phoenix-live

And when you're ready to walk through the full process start to finish, it comes three ways — online from anywhere, in person with a local group, or as a week-long immersion retreat.

If this episode helped, follow the show so the next chapter finds you — and if you know someone going through a divorce, send it their way. It might be exactly what they need right now.

When your marriage ends, everyone says the same thing: get a good lawyer. So you do. And the meter starts running. But here's what nobody warns you about — the legal system can process your paperwork, but it can't heal a single thing that's actually broken. And if you're a mess while it's happening, the paperwork gets very, very expensive.

This season walks through the book 10-Week Divorce Recovery: The Proven Step-by-Step Roadmap, one chapter at a time — the same method that's helped people let go and move on for more than 40 years.

In this episode, meet Dave — a sharp manufacturing executive who still burned through three lawyers, two mediators, eighteen months, and fifty thousand dollars before it was done — and Sarah, who spent over $100,000 fighting battles that were never really about the money. Kevin Van Liere breaks down the two opposite ways unprocessed emotion drives up the cost of a divorce (fighting for everything, and giving it all away), why "being nice" doesn't buy the peace you're hoping for, and why the people who come out whole are the ones who heal while they negotiate — not after.

If you haven't signed anything yet, this is the episode to hear first.

Find out where you actually are. Take the free Divorce Recovery Scorecard — 30 questions, five minutes, instant results. It's the same baseline we use to measure real progress. You'll hear scores come up throughout this season, so get yours and follow along: Rebuilders.net/drs

Join us at Phoenix Live. Free, live — real people at every stage of divorce recovery, doing the work together. Come just to listen the first time. Save your spot: Rebuilders.net/phoenix-live

And when you're ready to walk through the full process start to finish, it comes three ways — online from anywhere, in person with a local group, or as a week-long immersion retreat.

If this episode helped, follow the show so the next chapter finds you — and if someone you know is going through this too, send it their way.

You've talked it through. You've journaled. You've analyzed every conversation, every text, every thing that went wrong. You understand exactly what happened — and you still feel terrible. Here's the hard truth: you can't think your way out of this one.

This season walks through the book 10-Week Divorce Recovery: The Proven Step-by-Step Roadmap, one chapter at a time — the same method that's helped people let go and move on for more than 40 years.

In this episode, meet Julie — smart, capable, used to solving any problem by reasoning it through — who spent months trying to think her way past a marriage that kept ending and restarting, with nothing to show for it but exhaustion. Kevin Van Liere unpacks why insight alone keeps you stuck, the real difference between talk therapy and structured recovery — and why the two work best together, not against each other — and how Julie's disentanglement score climbed from 25 to 75 in ten weeks. Not because she got smarter. Because she finally had a path.

If you've been circling the same questions for months, this is the one to start with.

Find out where you actually are. Take the free Divorce Recovery Scorecard — 30 questions, five minutes, instant results. It's the same baseline we use to measure real progress. You'll hear scores come up throughout this season, so get yours and follow along: Rebuilders.net/drs

Join us at Phoenix Live. Free, live — real people at every stage of divorce recovery, doing the work together. Come just to listen the first time. Save your spot: Rebuilders.net/phoenix-live

And when you're ready to walk through the full process start to finish, it comes three ways — online from anywhere, in person with a local group, or as a week-long immersion retreat.

If this episode helped, follow the show so the next chapter finds you — and if someone you love is going through this too, send it their way.

Everyone keeps telling you the same thing: give it time. Be patient. It gets easier. So you wait. But what if waiting is the very thing keeping you stuck — and quietly costing you more every year?

This season walks through the book 10-Week Divorce Recovery: The Proven Step-by-Step Roadmap, one chapter at a time — the same method that's helped people let go and move on for more than 40 years.

In this episode, meet Michael — five years past the affair that ended his marriage, still dragging what he called "divorce hell" everywhere he went, until his body finally forced the issue. And meet Denise, who waited three and a half years for time to heal a wound that only scarred over. You'll learn why grief and anger have no automatic "healing process" the way a bruise does, what rumination is actually doing to your brain, and the real price waiting extracts — at work, with your kids, on your health, and in the decisions you can't take back.

If everyone's been telling you to give it time, this is the episode that explains why that advice keeps failing you.

Find out where you actually are. Take the free Divorce Recovery Scorecard — 30 questions, five minutes, instant results. It's the same baseline we use to measure real progress. You'll hear scores come up throughout this season, so get yours and follow along: rebuilders.net/drs

Join us at Phoenix Live. Free, live, every week - real people at every stage of divorce recovery, doing the work together. Come just to listen the first time. Save your spot at Rebuilders.net/phoenix-live.

And when you're ready to walk through the full process start to finish, it comes three ways — online from anywhere, in person with a local group, or as a week-long immersion retreat.

If this episode helped, follow the show so the next chapter finds you — and if someone you know is going through this too, send it their way.

Welcome to the first episode. This season walks through the book 10-Week Divorce Recovery: The Proven Step-by-Step Roadmap, one chapter at a time — the same method that's helped people let go and move on for more than 40 years.

In this opening episode, Kevin Van Liere shares the story that started it all: the day his wife moved out, the months he spent barely functioning, and the moment he found a structured path forward that changed everything in ten weeks. You'll also meet others who were exactly where you are now — different ages, different situations, same way through.

If you're in the thick of it right now, start here.

Find out where you actually are. Take the free Divorce Recovery Scorecard — 30 questions, five minutes, instant results. It's the same baseline we use to measure real progress. You'll hear scores come up throughout this season, so get yours and follow along: rebuilders.net/drs

Join us at Phoenix Live. Free, live, every Tuesday — real people at every stage of divorce recovery, doing the work together. Come just to listen the first time. Save your spot at Rebuilders.net/phoenix-live.

And when you're ready to walk through the full process start to finish, it comes three ways — online from anywhere, in person with a local group, or as a week-long immersion retreat.

If this episode helped, follow the show so the next chapter finds you — and if someone you love is going through this too, send it their way.

When your ex starts dating someone new, it can feel devastating — even if the relationship ended months ago.

Your chest tightens. Your thoughts spiral. You start asking questions you can't stop replaying:

Did I matter? Was I enough? Was I replaced?

In this episode, we unpack what's actually happening when your ex moves on — and why the pain isn't really about them dating.

You'll learn:

• Why their new relationship triggers abandonment, insecurity, and grief • The difference between bridge collapse and structural defect • Why dating fast doesn't automatically mean healed • How identity gets entangled with being chosen • The real indicator of whether you've truly let go

We walk through a structured recovery path — Thinking → Feelings → Identity → Relationships — so you can understand exactly where you are in your healing process.

This episode isn't about suppressing emotion. It's about understanding activation — and rebuilding from strength instead of survival.

If you've ever felt destabilized by your ex moving on, this conversation will help you see what's unfinished — and how to move forward in a grounded, powerful way.

Life after divorce can feel confusing and heavy—not just because the relationship ended, but because your nervous system and your mind can get stuck in a repeating loop: overwhelm → numbness → rumination → panic → reactivity.

In this episode, we break down what's actually happening in that "Divorce Doom Loop," why it's so common in the weeks and months after a breakup or divorce, and how it quietly impacts everything else—your decisions, your energy, your work, your health, and even the legal and financial complexity of the divorce itself.

You'll also learn a simple "dashboard" framework for understanding the four pillars of divorce (emotional, legal, financial, and parenting if kids are involved), and why turning down the emotional dial reduces the strain on the other pillars.

If you've ever thought, "Why am I still feeling this?" we'll talk about why grief and anger don't disappear when paperwork is signed—and what it actually takes for those emotions to loosen their grip.

Next step: If you want clarity instead of guessing, take our free self-test to measure where you are right now across Relationships, Identity, Feelings, and Thoughts—and use it as a scorecard to track real progress over time.

Free Self-Test: https://rebuilders.net/self-test-ers?utm_source=lifeafterdivorce_podcast

When a relationship ends, people are told a lot of things: "Just give it time," "stay busy," "be strong," "you'll get over it."

But if you've been through divorce—or supported someone who has—you know that advice often falls flat.

In this episode, we take a clear, grounded look at how people actually experience divorce, where they tend to look for help, and why so many well-meaning solutions miss the mark. We talk about the invisible emotional load of divorce, the difference between being "functional" and being truly okay, and why structure and support matter more than willpower.

You'll learn:

• Why divorce affects sleep, focus, and decision-making even when people "seem fine"

• Where people most often turn for help—and why those paths don't always work

• The myths that keep people stuck longer than necessary

• What real recovery looks like (and what it isn't)

• How to think about healing in a way that's practical, measurable, and humane

Whether you're going through a divorce yourself, supporting someone who is, or simply trying to understand what actually helps during one of life's hardest transitions, this conversation will give you a clearer map forward.

Take the Self Test here

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When someone you care about is going through divorce or separation, you might feel stuck. You want to help—but you're afraid of saying the wrong thing, taking the wrong side, or making it worse.

In this episode, Kevin from Rebuilders International shares what actually helps, based on what people in our programs say they need most from friends and family. You'll learn why divorce is like an emotional broken leg, why unsolicited advice usually backfires, and how to replace "why" questions with "what" questions that feel supportive instead of judgmental.

You'll also get simple, copy-and-paste check-ins that work better than "How are you?", plus the 7 best things you can do to help someone feel less alone while they heal.

Educational only. Not therapy or legal advice. Learn more at Rebuilders.net.