Why do the same patterns keep showing up in your relationships—no matter how self-aware you are? In this episode, we unpack how dysregulation quietly shapes the way we connect, react, withdraw, and pursue. What looks like “overreacting,” shutting down, or conflict spirals is often your nervous system trying to protect you—not sabotage you. We talk about:

• How emotional triggers are formed (and why they feel so fast and overwhelming)
• The difference between reaction and response
• Why awareness alone doesn’t break the cycle
• What it actually takes to interrupt patterns in real time
• How regulation changes the way we experience love, conflict, and connection

This conversation isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about understanding what’s been running underneath—and learning how to work with it instead of against it.

About the Guest:
Laurie Proctor is a professionally certified coach, Internal Family Systems practitioner, Human Design coach, and certified Enneagram instructor who partners with individuals, teams, and organizations seeking healing and transformation. She is the founder of SOWThat (Self Others World), where her work centers on the belief that healing begins within and ripples outward to others and the world. Laurie holds multiple certificates in narrative-focused trauma care from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology and is passionate about helping people discover the treasures within that can change their lives—and the world.

Learn more about her work at sowthat.com. 


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Credits:
Echoes and Edges is Produced and Edited by: Stephen R. Sanders
Music Promoted by Envato
Echoes and Edges is a part of VividLivid Podcast Network - Where bruises speak and healing finds its voice.