In this episode, I’ll be talking about Engaging Your Husband in the Process. In last week’s episode-episode 27, I spoke about two marriage truths to remember and  3 steps you needed to take to begin.  If you haven’t listened to that episode, it will help to go back to that first. You can find that at http://reviveyourmidlifemarriage.com/27.

 So let me give the two things you can do before you engage your husband in the process. 

 Journal Your Thoughts Your Thoughts and Feelings.

  I do this all the time when I know I’m facing a meaningful conversation with someone. It will help you to get your thoughts flowing and help you to unload your mind. You are just untangling your thoughts and getting all the emotions out on paper. 

 I often get blank paper and start writing whatever comes to my mind. I don’t worry about it making sense to anyone. It is just free writing. It allows me to make sense of what is going on internally. 

 Do this as many times as you need to. Each time you do this, you’ll have more things revealed to you.  

 Here’s the next thing to do before engaging Your husband

 Let go of the Outcome 

 That stinks, I know. When I do A, then B should happen, right? However, the worst thing you can do is be attached to the Outcome. We are not omniscient beings. No one knows how things will work out.  When dealing with another human being, we deal with a different perspective, a different set of beliefs, and a distinct personality. We don’t know the outcome or how we will be received.  The only thing we can do is plan and execute and allow it to unfold.

What happens when we’re are attached to the Outcome is that we have expectations that may or may not be met. When things don’t exactly go as planned, we are disappointed and can start that stinking thinking, This is how it always is. We will never be able to work things out. I give up.

 We empower ourselves when we are willing to take calculated risks and face challenges head-on- even bumps in the road along the process.

Whenever I bring something to a conversation with someone, I make a plan by choosing my words wisely, getting my emotions under control, and telling myself that I am doing this for me no matter what happens. I am doing my best.

Now to Engaging Your Husband in the Process

Here is where it gets tricky, right? But, if you have journaled your feelings and thoughts, so they aren’t jumbled and let go of the outcome, you’ll be in a better space. 

For complete show notes to this episode, you can go to
http://reviveyourmidlifemarriage.com/28