WHET NIE?!

Let’s talk about something real for a second…Why do people get into relationships already leading with what they won’t do?Like… before anything even has a chance to grow, it’s ‘I’m not doing this,’ ‘I’m not going for that,’ ‘I’m not changing this.’ And then later on, you’re sitting there wondering why it didn’t work out.

It’s confusing to me.Because yeah! Boundaries matter! Standards matter! I’m not saying lose yourself for anybody. But at the same time… what are you actually bringing to the table besides a list of restrictions? A relationship is give and take. That doesn’t mean overextending yourself, but it does mean you have to be willing to show up. To try. To meet somebody halfway sometimes.

You can’t build something while standing ten steps back, guarding everything. And I think a lot of people don’t even realize it… they lead with protection instead of intention. You’re so focused on what you’re not about to do, that you never stop and ask yourself, what am I willing to do? How am I showing up when things get uncomfortable?

And if you’re not willing to bend at all… then what are we really doing? You’re not building anything! you’re just keeping your distance with company. So maybe that’s the real question… Are you actually ready for a relationship… or are you just protecting yourself from one?

In the past, we’ve had conversations centered around the negative sides of relationships. The pain, the lessons, the things that didn’t go right. But growth requires honesty… and accountability.

Today, I’m doing something I haven’t done before. After putting in the work and doing some real self reflection, I want to formally apologize to a ex. Not just in words, but in understanding.

This episode is about acknowledging the good, the love that was real, the moments that mattered, and the ways that relationship helped shape the person I am today. Some of those lessons came easy, others came hard. Some may look like wins, others like losses but all of it had purpose. Because at the end of the day, every experience, every connection, every chapter… played a role. And for that, it was all worth it.

The episode where receipts are ignored, lies are doubled down on, and everybody acts confused like you didn’t see what you saw. We’re talking cheating with confidence, denial with a straight face, and the wild choice to stay after the disrespect hits its peak. Gaslighting, fake apologies, “that’s not what happened” energy, and the emotional circus that keeps people stuck. It’s petty. It’s toxic. It’s painfully relatable. And somehow… we’re still here. 🎙️🤡

Join me as I recount the adventure of traveling from Florida to Texas. A journey filled with unexpected detours, memorable moments, and the lessons learned along the way. 

Have You Ever Been the Cheater… or the Cheated?

Let’s be real! almost everyone has been touched by cheating in some way. Tonight, we share opinions, experiences, and perspectives on infidelity, loyalty, and relationships. No judgment, just honest talk about mistakes, lessons learned, and how cheating changes people forever.

In this episode, we dive into the frustration of dealing with people who always make plans, promise to show up, swear they’ll be on time… but never follow through. They confirm, they reassure, they say “I’m on the way,” yet somehow they’re always late, cancel last minute, or disappear altogether. We talk about the emotional toll that kind of inconsistency takes. How it shifts from disappointment to exhaustion, from giving chances to finally being over it.

Is it just poor time management, or is it disrespect? At what point do you stop making space for people who never show up when it matters? Let’s get into accountability, boundaries, and knowing when to stop waiting on empty promises.

In today’s world, traditional relationships are being redefined. With the rise of polyamory, open relationships, threesomes, and even sex-positive communities, it’s worth asking, is monogamy still the end goal? Or has it become an outdated ideal that no longer fits modern love and desire? 👀

In this episode of The WHET NIE Podcast, we dive into one of the spiciest and most complicated questions in relationships: what happens when your partner asks for a threesome? We talk about the emotions, boundaries, and expectations that come with the request. How would you feel if it came up, and what would be your response? From the excitement and curiosity to the potential challenges and insecurities, we unpack the dynamics of mixing love, trust, and desire. Tune in for an open and honest conversation about intimacy, communication, and whether or not a threesome belongs in your relationship.

This week on WHET NIE?!, I’m tackling the tough topic of ending a friendship that drains you. Done being nice and sweeping shit under the rug. You’ve never truly been a real friend. You’re a weird BITCH and this is GOODBYE.

Ever notice how birthdays and holidays bring out the long lost friends/scandals. This episode jumps into the mixed bag of emotions that come with those reconnects, and then it touches on the saying, "God gives his hardest battles to his strongest warriors." We unpack the idea of strength, struggle, and the moments when you just want to throw in the towel."