Having It A.L.L.

Who Are You When No One Is Watching?


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The self improvement game is, many times, a public one. Spiritual, physical, mental and emotional self work can all be done in the open or with a group of people. And with group meditation and yoga and other similar things really taking off these days, one could buy into the idea that self improvement is a public act. 


But there's something so much more important than the things we're DOING to improve our relationship to our selves, others and life, and that's who we're BEING. 


I've talked about Doing vs Being on the podcast before, but today's topic takes it a degree further. Today I'm going in on the question: Who are you when no one is watching?


So, I ask YOU -- when you're alone, in your secrecy, with no one watching and no one holding you accountable except for yourself, who are you? How do you treat yourself? What allowances do you give yourself? What language do you use to describe yourself and those around you?

The way you answer those questions reveals more about your true state of being than other more outward displays of wellness. 


It's said that you have between 40,000 - 60,000 thoughts per day. If you were to categorize each as a LOVING thought or FEARFUL thought, what would your ratio be?


What you'll hear in this episode:

  • How my secret self was exposed recently, and the consequences of my seeing the truth
  • The self talk that contributes to us playing small
  • The costs of not doing what you say you will do

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