Trauma chips away at your stability and sense of self, undermining self-worth and often starting in your childhood into adulthood. This trauma can also impact a person into adulthood as they experience feelings of shame and guilt, feeling disconnected and unable to relate to others, trouble controlling emotions, heightened anxiety and depression, anger. Sometimes you have to step back and ask, Who hurt me? How long am I going to allow this hurt to affect me? Where can I go from here?