Have you ever caught yourself reacting to someone, only to realize it wasn’t really about them at all? In this episode, we unpack the hidden ways our unprocessed emotions, past wounds, and old narratives spill over into the present. From snapping at our kids when we’re really stressed, to feeling invisible in relationships and assuming rejection where none exists, we explore how projection and triggers quietly shape our interactions.

We’ll dive into:

• What projection actually is (and why it’s often our past talking, not the present).

• Common triggers—abandonment, rejection, not feeling seen, worthiness—and how they show up in everyday life.

• How numbness, as Lori Gottlieb says, isn’t the absence of feeling but the overload of them.

• Practical “in-the-moment resets” you can use when you feel hijacked by big emotions.

• How to tell the difference between your baggage and someone else’s.

Why it matters:

When we slow down and ask, “Whose baggage is this anyways?” we stop letting our wounds run the show. We create space for healthier communication, repair, and self-understanding—whether with our kids, our partners, our friends, or even ourselves.

✨ Takeaway: You’re not broken for being triggered. Your body is remembering. But you have the power to pause, reset, and choose a new response.