Have you ever caught yourself reacting to someone, only to realize it wasn’t really about them at all? In this episode, we unpack the hidden ways our unprocessed emotions, past wounds, and old narratives spill over into the present. From snapping at our kids when we’re really stressed, to feeling invisible in relationships and assuming rejection where none exists, we explore how projection and triggers quietly shape our interactions.

We’ll dive into:

• What projection actually is (and why it’s often our past talking, not the present).

• Common triggers—abandonment, rejection, not feeling seen, worthiness—and how they show up in everyday life.

• How numbness, as Lori Gottlieb says, isn’t the absence of feeling but the overload of them.

• Practical “in-the-moment resets” you can use when you feel hijacked by big emotions.

• How to tell the difference between your baggage and someone else’s.

Why it matters:

When we slow down and ask, “Whose baggage is this anyways?” we stop letting our wounds run the show. We create space for healthier communication, repair, and self-understanding—whether with our kids, our partners, our friends, or even ourselves.

✨ Takeaway: You’re not broken for being triggered. Your body is remembering. But you have the power to pause, reset, and choose a new response.

🎙️ When Life Don’t Go As Planned

Episode Description:

In this raw and vulnerable episode, we sit down to unpack the grief that comes with unmet expectations — the dreams we had for ourselves, the milestones we thought we’d hit, and the reality of where life actually took us. From mourning our younger selves, to the loneliness that creeps in whether you’re single, a parent, or somewhere in between, this conversation gets real about depression, self-harm, and the heavy silence of “this wasn’t supposed to be my life.”

We explore the pain of feeling stuck, unseen, or “behind in life,” and why so many of us carry shame about where we are versus where we thought we’d be. But we don’t just stay in the pain — we talk about how to honor it, how to reframe it, and how to create hope even when it feels like your story went off track.

🔑 Key Talking Points:

1. The Myth of the Perfect Timeline

• Societal expectations about careers, marriage, family, and “success.”

• The guilt and shame of not hitting milestones “on time.”

2. Mourning Our Younger Selves

• Grieving the version of you that didn’t get to live the dream.

• Acknowledging the gap between who you imagined and who you became.

3. Loneliness in Different Stages of Life

• The loneliness of being single.

• The loneliness of parenting and feeling invisible.

• How both can coexist in different forms.

4. Mental Health Realities

• Depression, intrusive thoughts, and self-harm.

• How silence makes these struggles heavier.

• Recognizing when pain feels like identity.

5. Reframing & Healing

• Finding new meaning outside of the “plan.”

• Daily practices to reconnect with yourself.

• Choosing self-compassion over shame

🎧 Why Listen:

This episode is for anyone who has ever whispered, “This isn’t how I thought my life would turn out.” You’ll feel seen, validated, and hopefully a little lighter knowing you’re not the only one rewriting your story mid-chapter.

Liz was feeling under the weather, so we brought in a special guest Jessica’s son, Logan to help us dive into the wildest, most unhinged stories Florida has to offer. And y’all… Florida did not disappoint.

In this episode, we read the craziest Florida Man headlines that’ll make you laugh, gasp, and question humanity all at once. Some highlights include:

• Florida Man dressed as Chuck E. Cheese… arrested.

• Florida Man tries to get an alligator drunk. 🐊🍹

• Florida Man dressed as a clown busted for trespassing. 🤡

• Florida Man arrested for guzzling 25 gallons of used Burger King frying oil. 🍟

• Florida Man breaks and enters just to suck on the owner’s toes. 👀

• Florida Man dressed as a banana, arrested for… well, having his little banana out. 🍌

• Florida Man whips out his genitals when asked to pay for his dinner at a chicken wing place. 🍗

…And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

If you ever thought your state was weird, just remember: Florida exists, and it is a whole mood.

Get ready for laughs, disbelief, and a little bit of ‘why do humans exist?’ energy. You’ve been warned.

In this episode, Valerie officially hits her breaking point with the so-called “dating pool” spoiler alert: it’s not a pool, it’s a septic tank. She unpacks the parade of disasters that men keep marching into her life: the fixer-upper who drains her energy and leaves her guilty for walking away, the scam artist who love-bombed and gaslit his way straight into a wedding, the background lurker who turns every ‘hello’ into a sleazy pass, and the “respectable” one who can’t keep a conversation platonic to save his life.

Raw, unfiltered, and fed up, Valerie calls out how exhausting it is to crave genuine male companionship a friend to just hang out, eat snacks, watch a movie without it being twisted into something sexual. With humor, rage, and zero sugarcoating, she roasts the illusion men project versus the hot garbage hiding underneath.

This is Valerie at her realest: no holding back, no fake roses, just truth bombs and scorched earth honesty. Tune in for a crashout episode that proves one thing: the red flags aren’t just waving, they’re on fire.

Episode Notes: We Listen and We Don’t Judge

This week’s episode proves that sometimes truth is stranger (and wilder) than fiction. We open the vault to your listener stories—raw, unfiltered, and absolutely unhinged.

💍 “Best Friend’s Groom” – A forbidden fling that makes wedding season a whole different kind of drama.

💔 “A Sad Memoir to a Broken Relationship” – Heartbreak hits hard, but the healing (and the honesty) hits harder.

📱 “Uncle’s Notable Tinder Profile” – Married to your aunt but swiping like he’s single? We unpack the chaos of secret double lives.

🔥 “Self-Care Next to Your Man” – Let’s just say… sometimes personal pleasure isn’t all that private. We make it less awkward and way more relatable.

As always—we listen, we don’t judge. But best believe we laugh, cry, and side-eye right along with you.

Episode Title: Red Flag or Reasonable

This week, things got real as we played a spicy game of “Red Flag or Reasonable” — diving into situationships, friendships, and everything in between. We didn’t hold back. From emotionally unavailable men to texting etiquette, we’re calling it like we see it (and defending the chaos when necessary).

We also recapped our recent vacation — the good, the wild, and the drama we didn’t see coming. Let’s just say… certain people showed their true colors and we’ve got thoughts. Buckle up for laughs, opinions, and a few jaw-dropping moments.

Unhinged Memoirs – EPISODE: “Liz Left Us Alone… and This Happened”

She called out sick. We called in chaos.

Episode Summary:

With Liz out sick, Jessica and I took the mics — and absolutely no notes. What was supposed to be a chill catch-up turned into an accidental comedy show featuring chaotic tangents, heartfelt moments, and way too much oversharing. From vacations we haven’t taken yet to jobs we low-key hate, unexpected hospital visits, and love lives that deserve their own Netflix specials… this episode has it all.

Topics Covered:

• 😷 Liz is sick and we’re unsupervised — pray for us

• 🏖️ Vacation dreams, packing disasters, and chaotic travel energy

• 💼 Work rants, career confusion, and “maybe I’ll quit next week” talk

• 💘 Love life delusions, updates, and delulu diaries

• 🏥 Jessica’s hospital story (yes, there were laughs)

• 🧠 Deep thoughts mid-tangent we did not expect

• 😂 Tangents. So many tangents.

Vibe Check:

Unfiltered. Hilarious. A little dramatic. 100% authentic friendship chaos.

Unspoken: The Weight Men Carry

Episode Theme: Men’s Mental Health

Guest Co-Host: Eric

🎧 Episode Overview:

In this powerful and necessary conversation, the Unhinged Memoirs crew welcomes special guest and cohost Eric to break down the emotional battles men often fight in silence. Titled “Unspoken: The Weight Men Carry,” this episode explores the unique mental health struggles men face—especially when society tells them to be strong, stoic, and silent.

We dive into the stigma around vulnerability, why emotional suppression isn’t strength, how childhood messaging shapes emotional habits in men, and what healing can actually look like when men feel safe enough to open up. With a Special Guest Eric.

🧠 Topics Covered:

• How toxic masculinity and “man up” culture impact mental health

• The unspoken emotional pressure men carry (provider roles, silence, pride)

• Barriers that keep men from seeking help

• Eric’s personal experiences and insight into emotional suppression and release

• Why “being the strong one” often leads to emotional isolation

• Ways we can create safer spaces for men to be vulnerable

• The role of friendships, romantic partners, and community in a man’s healing

• Breaking generational patterns and redefining strength

🎙️ Episode Title: Who Gave us Microphones?!

You know those arguments that literally don’t matter? The ones that start with, “Be honest… do you think cereal is soup?” and end with full-blown chaos? Yeah, that’s this episode.

Join us this week as we spiral into the most ridiculous rapid-fire debates — no research, no logic, just strong (and possibly unhinged) opinions. From hot dog theory to why we’d absolutely survive a bear attack (spoiler: we wouldn’t), we’re serving up big laughs, petty arguments, and zero resolution.

It’s loud. It’s unfiltered. It’s completely off the rails.

So grab your popcorn (or is it just spicy cereal?), and get ready to hear us passionately defend things that shouldn’t matter this much.

Some of the chaos includes:

• If you vegans are fighting is it still considered beef?

• If your pets could talk what do you think they would say?

• If two mind readers are reading each others mind, whose mind are they really reading?

• Is I'm a lot to handle a Warning or a compliment?

Drop your own hot takes in the comments — but be warned: we will debate you.

🎙️ Attached AF: Why You Love the Way You Do

Episode Summary:

Ever wonder why you send that 2 am text… or shut down emotionally the minute things get real? In this episode of Unhinged Memoirs, we’re getting Attached AF, breaking down the four attachment styles, with a raw, hilarious deep dive into the three insecure ones (because let’s be honest, that’s where the spice is). Expect laughter, brutally honest confessions, and some real “a-ha” moments about how your past might still be dating for you.

🔹 Segment 1: The Banter Before the Breakdown

We kick things off with updates on our chaotic lives, a few unhinged banter questions (yes, someone did say their love life is like a fast food slogan), and then tease the emotional rollercoaster to come. Spoiler: there’s yelling, but it’s therapeutic.

🔹 Segment 2: WTF Is Attachment Theory?

We break down:

• What attachment theory is

• How it forms in childhood (yes, your dad issues are relevant)

• And how it shows up in everyday adult life: relationships, communication, ghosting, over-texting, and shutting down mid-argument.

🔹 Segment 3: Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearfully Feral

We put the spotlight on the three insecure attachment styles:

• Anxious Attachment: Why you cling, overthink, and spiral when they don’t text back.

• Dismissive Avoidant: Why you need space… like three years’ worth.

• Fearful Avoidant (a.k.a. the spicy combo): Why you want love but also push it away loudly.

Each host shares their own style, stories, and moments where their inner child took the wheel (and drove off a cliff).

🔹 Segment 4: From Messy to Secure AF

We talk tools.

Like:

• Autosuggestion and reparenting practices

• Attachment-style-specific healing tools that have worked in real life for each of us

• How we’re working on loving without fear, and connecting without chaos

🛠️ Listener Tools Mentioned:

• Daily affirmations tailored to your attachment style

• Self-regulation hacks for when you’re spiraling

• Journaling prompts and reparenting rituals

• Our brand new 7-day attachment healing tracker (available on our socials & website!)

💬 Ready to feel seen?

Whether you’re anxious, avoidant, somewhere in the messy middle, or finally on the secure journey, this one’s for you.