Drop the Mask - For Nice Guys and People Pleaser

Why Always Giving Is Slowly Poisoning Your Relationships - (Nice Guy Myth #1)

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What if being the “nice guy” is what’s keeping you stuck?

Today we’re talking about one of the most common Nice Guy patterns: Giving more than you get. On the surface, it looks kind and selfless. But underneath? There’s often a hidden contract — an unspoken expectation that others should return the favor.

The problem is, no one else knows about this contract. So you give, and give, and give… and when nothing comes back, resentment grows. I’ve been in this situation. It’s exhausting, and it’s not who you truly!! are.

This episode is about bringing awareness to that false pattern — so you can step out of it, and move closer to the truth of yourself.

🗡️ Weekly Quest:

👉 When getting a compliment next week, or someone wants to invite you for something, just say "thank you" and observe what thoughts and emotions come up for you!

🪞 Reflective Questions:

  1. How do I define my worth -- and is it tied to what I do for others?
  2. How do I feel when I receive without giving anything in return?
  3. What would a balanced exchange of giving and receiving look like in my closest relationship?
  4. When was the last time I gave more than I truly wanted to, and how did I feel afterwards?
    5. If any of this resonates, I’d love to hear your reflections — drop a comment on YouTube, or send me a DM on Instagram.

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    Drop the Mask - For Nice Guys and People PleaserBy Frederik Herre