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WHY AM I SO SHY, THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL

Hey guys, Randy Arias here. Today I want to talk to you about, where does shyness come from? A lot of us are dealing with shyness and lack of self-confidence and lack of self-esteem and anxieties. But we don’t know where any of that even came from. So I want to share with you the top five places that we acquired our shyness from. And so I’m going to share them with you now and then I’m going to break them down really quick.

Society has made us to become who we are. So that’s why we’re shy. Our parents, school teachers, and the media. Also, some of us are born hyper sensitive and so that’s the fifth one. Now let’s talk about each one separately.

First, Society is constantly telling us to go with the flow, to follow the leader. To not get in trouble, and so by doing that we lose our self-identity. And so we start to become someone we’re not, hence we become shy. So that’s the biggest reason with society that while we’re shy.

Secondly, it’s your parents. When you were born you were not shy. You weren’t born into the world shy. You didn’t know what to be shy about. So if you look at a kid or a child, you would see that they’re actually very happy, very upbeat, there’s nothing that could bring them down. They are hyper; they are very excited because they have no limits to their lives. And so from there as a parent we tell our kids don’t do this, don’t do that, act like a grown up. Now what does that mean, act like a grown up? Act sad and miserable, exactly. And so that’s why our parents without even meaning to make us shy. They make us, not confident in ourselves because they start to kill it little by little. So that’s number two.

Thirdly, I’m sure when you were in middle school some of the kids made fun of you. It happens to every one of us. And so that’s a big thing guys. When you are in middle school or high school or just school period, you look at your teacher as the person with authority. And what are they always telling you, rules. Don’t do this, don’t do that. And then when you are a little different, some of the kids make fun of you. So you, in order to avoid that, you become someone different. You do things differently to fit in. And so again you lose your identity. So that was, that’s another one.

Fourth, of course mass media. The media is huge. If you watch TV, it’s constantly telling you how to live, how to think, what to drive, what to eat. And so, for example, it’s always talking about losing weight, losing weight, losing weight, right. And so what does that tell you? That if you’re overweight, you’re different. And so if you’re an overweight person watching the TV telling you this, now you start to become self-conscious. Now you start to believe that there’s something wrong with you. And so there starts to drop your self-esteem, your self-confidence and so that’s how it hurts us guys.

Fifth, is being hyper sensitive. You know some of us are just born sensitive. Doesn’t mean that you’re shy, just means that you’re sensitive to stimuli, to different things that happen. And so those people are actually more likely to deal with shyness, or those feelings. And so even if that’s your case, it’s not a big deal because the great thing about shyness and confidence is that we can actually change it. Alright I’m going to be sharing some more of that in other videos. But just to know that this is where your shyness came from, you were not born shy. You were not born with low self-esteem or low self-confidence. It was something that was taught to you but it’s not real because it’s just things that people have been telling you, or the media, your parents, kids in middle school. Where are those kids now? Exactly, they don’t exist, they are somewhere in life.

And so I just want to leave you with that. Hopefully once you understand where it comes from, it can help you to overcome those struggles.