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CONFIDENCE- WAS I BORN SHY
Today I have a pretty cool topic to share with you, and that is a myth that has been thrown around by almost everyone that I know, and that is the shy gene. In my previous video I shared with you the five ways that we acquire, low self-confidence, low self-esteem and where shyness comes from.
And so nowhere in there was there a shy gene because that doesn’t exist and so I want to debunk this myth. So what I’m trying to tell you is that it’s not true. You were not born with a shy gene. You acquired shyness from your parents, your school, all of those different things that we talked about in the previous video, but it is not true.
But what happens is that, when you tell yourself that you’re shy, you’re basically doing an affirmation. For most of you that don’t know what an affirmation is, it’s basically what you tell yourself over and over and over and over and then you actually begin to believe it.
Now the thing about affirmations is that it can be used for positive and for negative. If you tell yourself, I am confident. I am confident. I am confident, and you just say that a lot throughout the day, you actually begin to believe it. Once you believe it, it becomes who you are.
So biggest lesson that I could tell you today is that, in order to change your beliefs, the only way to do that is through affirmations, through affirmations, we can change the way that we think. So instead of telling yourself, ‘I am shy’, you want to tell yourself, ‘I am confident. I am confident. I believe in myself. I am a winner.’
You say those throughout the day, and it’s not going to happen in one day, but if you do this every single day, and replace the negative affirmations that you’ve been telling yourself, with that positive one, you will begin to change your mindset, your belief system.
So I want you to think about for a moment when you say, ‘I am shy’. If you think about what happens physiologically, you become like, ‘I am shy. I am shy,’ like you drop. Your confidence drops. Your physicality drops. You at that moment cannot be productive because our mind controls our body, our emotions, everything. So when you limit yourself by saying a negative statement, you have depleted not just your mind but your physicality.
You can’t run faster when you say a negative thing to yourself, but then try this, tell yourself, ‘I am confident. I am confident. I believe in me. I am a winner.’ You will see yourself physically believe it more. You will have the physicality straight. You will puff your chest out. You will become more confident in that moment and you could actually, if you wanted to, run faster and do things better because you just changed your physicality and your mindset to be confident, to be alive, to believe in yourself.
And so the biggest take away from this video is, be careful what you tell yourself. The bible says, ‘life and death is in the tongue.’ So be careful what you tell yourself because with the words that you tell yourselves becomes your belief, your subconscious minds adapted. So your belief adapts it and then you become what you say.
If you think about it for a moment, think about your everyday thoughts and ideas of yourself. That’s basically a total sum of your life. If you’re not confident it’s because you tell yourself you’re not confident. If you’re not organized because you tell yourself you’re not organized. But if you’re good at something, think about those thoughts that you put towards that. You probably tell yourself positive things. ‘Oh, I’m good at this,’ or ‘I’m good at that,’ and so you must learn to mess with…hack your brain. to help you to do what you want it to do.
So I’ll leave you with that. There is no shy gene. You were not born shy. You are a winner and you must act, and tell yourself that every single day.
