What if the real reason men struggle in relationships has nothing to do with love and everything to do with emotion? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the hidden forces that keep men guarded, silent, and disconnected from their own feelings. You’ll hear why women often carry the emotional load, how empathy can backfire, and why emotional safety, not strength, creates real intimacy. This isn’t about blame. It’s about truth, awareness, and the kind of growth that rewrites what it means to love and be loved.

Show notes:
(2:14) Empathy Vs. “Man-keeping”
(5:38) Why women do the emotional work
(7:13) Men judge their own growth
(9:03) Masculinity and early conditioning
(14:44) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(16:14) Why does emotion feel unsafe for men
(18:57) Status, ego, and the gym
(20:18) What’s under male frustration
(25:40) Look strong Vs. Get strong
(27:29) Outro

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