Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they reveal why joint goals are the foundation of strong, fulfilling relationships. Together, they discuss surprising research that shows couples without goals or those who set them but never make progress, face lower life satisfaction and more conflict. Through real stories and client experiences, you’ll learn how goal setting transforms “me” into “we,” creating trust, alignment, and deeper love. Whether you’re just starting or years into your relationship, this conversation will help you design a future together instead of drifting apart.

Show notes:
(2:20) Only 3% have written goals
(7:17) The 10-year roadmap exercise
(13:55) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(15:20) Research on goal coordination & progress
(19:04) Couples with goals but no progress
(23:05) Joint goals as an orange flag warning
(26:51) Outro

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What’s the sneaky mistake most couples make without realizing it? In this week’s episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the one mistake most couples make that slowly pulls them apart. Through the concept of duality, balancing gratitude with frustration, individuality with togetherness, they share how conscious relationships thrive while others drift. Drawing from their 50th Relationship Talks event and the film Marriage Story, they illustrate how neglecting duality leads to resentment and disconnection. Listeners will gain practical tools, heartfelt stories, and a powerful framework for building a relationship rooted in truth, growth, and love.

Show notes:
(2:16) What duality really means
(5:57) How couples drift without awareness
(9:40) The shift from gratitude to frustration
(13:36) Why does everything have pros and cons
(16:28) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(20:23) Honoring individuality without losing “we”
(22:53) Integration Vs. Compromise in relationships
(26:07) Balancing gratitude and frustration daily
(28:34) Real work behind a fairy tale love
(29:06) The courage, humility, and vulnerability triad
(31:44) Outro

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In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, Emilia and Alan break down the three levels of quality time and why being intentional with your minutes matters more than ever. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, you’ll discover how to use time as an investment that strengthens connection, builds confidence, and shapes your future. Tune in today and learn how to make every moment count.

Show notes:
(3:16) Why devices hurt real connection
(5:20) Time as an investment in “we”
(10:24) The three levels of quality time
(12:54) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(15:37) Why intentional time makes you high value
(20:05) Everything in relationships should be by design
(25:24) Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this follow-up episode, they open the final chapter to a lasting connection. From the warmth of holiday traditions to the thrill of shared adventures, from the steady rhythm of money alignment to the tender art of conscious parenting, each moment becomes a thread in love’s enduring fabric. They show how mismatches can become meeting points, how conflict can grow roots of understanding, and how alignment can light the path forward. Whether single or walking hand in hand, this is a gentle map to a relationship that feels safe, fulfilling, and beautifully unshakable.

Show notes:
(2:01) Holidays as a relationship love language
(6:52) Practicing empathy and vulnerability
(9:39) Growing by learning together
(13:25) Prioritizing health and fitness
(15:45) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.
(17:05) Aligning on money and lifestyle
(23:05) Conscious parenting and caregiving
(31:27) Outro

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Are you loving your partner the way they need to be loved? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the 25 Conscious Love Languages, a powerful upgrade to the classic five. Through real stories, practical tools, and a playful back-and-forth, they help you spot where conflicts are coming from and how to better meet your partner’s emotional needs. Whether it’s quality time, deep conversation, supporting growth, or understanding trauma, this framework is designed to help you build a relationship that feels deeply aligned.

Show notes:
(5:11) The green-yellow-red framework
(8:13) What affirmation actually means
(12:10) Deep conversations Vs. Small talk
(13:17) Supporting your partner’s growth
(14:15) What it looks like to support goals
(17:17) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(20:03) Food as an emotional connector
(22:06) Rethinking sexual intimacy
(23:18) Understanding trauma, triggers, and shame
(31:07) Outro

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In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, Emilia and Alan share a story that shines light on how hidden insecurities can turn love into misunderstanding. They gently unpack the weight of personalization when we take things too personally and how it quietly shapes the way we connect. With warmth and wisdom, they offer three simple tools to shift from tension to tenderness. Whether you're caught in your storm or reaching for your partner’s hand, this episode is a soft place to land and a path back to clarity, compassion, and connection.

Show notes:
(1:51) When personal choices trigger conflict
(4:51) Insecurity at the root of reactivity
(7:02) What personalization really means
(9:25) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(11:11) The “me loop” that distorts reality
(16:04) Curiosity: the antidote to taking it personally
(18:03) Three tools to break the pattern
(19:48) Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s eye-opening episode, they unpack what emotional safety means and why it’s the foundation for connection, trust, and long-term love. Through personal stories, coaching insights, and a touching moment from The Vow, they reveal how past experiences, misattunement, and unhealed triggers can quietly sabotage your connection. You’ll learn what emotional safety looks like, how to recognize emotional danger, and what it takes to build a relationship where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued.

Show notes:
(3:18) The cost of hiding your true self
(5:26) How past relationships shape the present
(8:03) Real-life triggers in safe relationships
(11:07) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.
(14:39) The power of attunement in love
(19:50) What emotional safety truly looks like
(23:36) Outro

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Ever wonder why small comments turn into big arguments? In this powerful episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the four hidden shame responses that quietly shape how couples react, communicate, and connect. You will discover how blame, defensiveness, withdrawal, and self-criticism often stem from unconscious patterns and what to do instead. With relatable stories and expert insights, this episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to create emotional safety and deepen their relationship.

Show notes:
(2:22) How shame erodes relationships
(7:16) The four main shame responses
(12:38) Real-life examples of shame in action
(14:01) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(20:16) The difference between shame and accountability
(23:02) Coaching and creating emotional safety
(25:43) Outro

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Think your relationship struggles might be rooted in unspoken expectations? In today’s honest and deeply practical episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the unconscious beliefs that quietly sabotage connection. Like expecting your partner to “just know,” assuming passion will never fade, or believing they should meet all your needs. Through real stories and coaching insights, they help you spot and squash these hidden assumptions before they create distance. Whether you are preparing for marriage, moving in together, or navigating daily life as a couple, this conversation helps you shift the focus from fantasy to foundation.

Show notes:
(2:36) The hidden cost of unspoken expectations
(6:31) Why weddings aren’t about the couple
(12:01) Read my mind: The unfair ask
(16:46) Your partner can’t complete you
(19:33) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(21:17) Career conflicts and unrealistic demands
(25:37) The truth about passion over time
(28:49) Relationships require personal growth
(33:56) Expecting your partner to be everything
(36:20) Practical ways to reset expectations
(39:03) Outro

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___________________________

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this heartfelt episode, they reflect on the quiet truths that shape who we are and the sacred mantras that guide us through love’s ever-changing seasons. Sparked by a single question, Emilia and Alan uncover the core purpose of their relationship and invite you to do the same. Whether you walk beside a partner or journey solo as a conscious single, this episode invites you to listen inward, find the words that ground you, and use them as your compass in both life and love.

Show notes:
(2:17) The purpose of a relationship is growth
(5:11) Emilia’s one-word personal mantra
(10:22) Alan’s core mantra and essence
(11:04) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(13:02) Growth, truth, and commitment
(15:48) Grow together, not apart
(17:03) The GPS exercise for self-awareness
(19:56) Outro

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