In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros pick up where the last episode left off and go deeper into the real role self-awareness plays in relationships. Part two unpacks why most people believe they are self-aware, why that belief is often misplaced, and how that blind spot quietly fuels conflict, disconnection, and stalled growth. The conversation centers on honesty, responsibility, and the unseen patterns shaping how couples communicate and relate. 

If you care about building a stronger partnership, this episode will challenge how you see yourself inside the relationship. Listen closely, then decide whether comfort or clarity guides your next move.

Show notes:
(1:50) Why self-awareness matters most
(3:40) Most people overestimate awareness
(5:25) Only a few are truly self-aware
(9:28) Green, yellow, red self-check
(13:59) You meet others at yourself
(16:09) Three pillars of self-awareness
(21:26) How awareness improves happiness
(24:24) Outro

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 Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they confront a relationship dynamic that quietly creates imbalance, frustration, and emotional fatigue. They introduce a simple awareness framework that helps make sense of what often feels confusing or hard to name, offering clearer language for what is actually happening beneath the surface. Emilia and Alan challenge familiar stories around responsibility, respect, and emotional labor, while presenting a sharper way to recognize what is healthy and what slowly drains connection.

If you have ever felt like effort is uneven, or growth feels one-sided, this episode will shift how you see both yourself and your relationship. Press play and choose clarity over comfort.

Show notes:
(2:32) Green, yellow, red awareness test
(4:01) When helping turns into resentment
(6:17) Why is it not your responsibility
(11:29) Respect as the real divider
(15:22) Money, power, and self-worth
(17:43) Clear signs of low self-awareness
(20:53) Outro

Episode Reference:
Fair Play documentary - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt15857800/

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What if the missing spark in your relationship is not romance, but shared passion?

In this episode, Emilia and Alan challenge the quiet habits that slowly disconnect couples over time. Drawing from years of coaching conscious couples worldwide, they reveal why engagement, shared energy, and meaning matter more than chemistry alone.

This conversation is for partners who want more than comfort, more than routines, and more than coexistence. It is about building a relationship that stays alive, aligned, and intentional. Do not wait for passion to return. Choose it, practice it, and let it change everything.

 Show notes:
(2:15) Why shared passions shape relationship health
(4:12) Engagement Vs. Zoning out together
(7:10) Admiration, inspiration, and attraction
(10:46) The power of me, you, and we
(16:44) Why passion fades in long relationships
(19:33) How to reconnect with real passions
(21:21) Turning passion into a weekly practice
(25:27) Outro

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In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros draw from years of real-world experience coaching couples, hosting live events, and guiding individuals through relationship challenges. They center on a truth that often goes unspoken. Men’s struggles do not happen in isolation. This brief, impactful conversation is for conscious couples and singles who want deeper connection, stronger communication, and relationships that feel emotionally safe.

Rooted in lived experience, the episode explores how men’s mental health, vulnerability, and internal pressure quietly shape trust, intimacy, and partnership. Press play, listen closely, and let this conversation shift how you relate to the people you love.

Show notes:
(2:02) The missing male role model problem
(4:41) Mental health stats men avoid sharing
(7:14) Why men struggle with vulnerability
(8:55) Pushing too hard leads to a breakdown
(11:43) Simple language that creates connection
(14:33) Why men want deeper conversations
(17:50) How self-awareness shapes intimacy
(19:09) Outro

Digital Asset:
The Top 3 Things Men Struggle With in Their Relationship

Learn more about:
Books for Babes gives children hope and possibility by putting meaningful stories in their hands. When we give a book, we give a future – GoFundMe donation link:
https://www.gofundme.com/f/books-for-babes-annual-fundraiser-2025

The “Next Level Hope Foundation” creates meaningful experiences for kids growing up without a father figure and builds a positive, supportive community around them.
To support this event, you can donate here: https://gofund.me/5c6abcf7f

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they challenge the idea that love alone makes a relationship work. This conversation is for conscious couples and singles who feel stuck in repeating patterns or carrying more emotional weight than they should. It points to the unseen factor that shapes trust, safety, and lasting connection, without spelling it out. 

If you want a relationship that feels grounded, steady, and real, this episode will shift how you think about love and responsibility. Press play and decide how you show up in love.

Show notes:
(2:05) Getting off relationship autopilot
(3:24) Why self-improvement matters first
(5:19) What conscientiousness really means
(9:32) Four pillars of conscientiousness
(12:48) Emotional maturity Vs. Age
(15:06) Why low conscientiousness hurts love
(19:24) Sleep, empathy, and responsibility
(23:52) How to address partner behavior
(26:05) Who you would bet on long-term
(31:29) Outro

Learn more about:
Books for Babes gives children hope and possibility by putting meaningful stories in their hands. When we give a book, we give a future – GoFundMe donation link:
https://www.gofundme.com/f/books-for-babes-annual-fundraiser-2025

The “Next Level Hope Foundation” creates meaningful experiences for kids growing up without a father figure and builds a positive, supportive community around them.
To support this event, you can donate here: https://gofund.me/5c6abcf7f

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Do you ever feel pulled between family expectations and the relationship you’re trying to build? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan talk about what happens when couples stop following old family rules and start choosing what truly supports love, growth, and emotional safety. You’ll learn how “old world” patterns keep partners stuck, why the holidays trigger so much stress, and how stepping into a “new world” together can strengthen communication, alignment, and connection.

With simple relationship frameworks and real client breakthroughs, this conversation shows you how to break generational cycles, create healthier traditions, and build a partnership that feels true to who you are becoming.

Show notes:
(2:44) Creating your own rule book
(4:10) Old world Vs. New world
(7:20) Butterfly metaphor for growth
(10:08) Family roles that shape us
(14:15) Choosing aligned traditions together
(22:16) Honest partnership conversations
(26:36) Books for Babes impact
(30:37) Outro

Digital Assets:
1. Alan, Emilia & Tucker 2019
2. The Growth Journey
3. Dysfunctional Family Roles
4. Family Roles - Dysfunctional to Functional

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The “Next Level Hope Foundation” creates meaningful experiences for kids growing up without a father figure and builds a positive, supportive community around them.
To support this event, you can donate here: https://gofund.me/5c6abcf7f

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In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros break down why long-term love changes over time, what really happens in the brain when partners start taking each other for granted, and the simple relationship practices that bring back connection, spark, and emotional safety. You’ll learn how small daily moments rebuild trust, strengthen appreciation, and create the kind of partnership that grows instead of fades.

If you want a relationship that feels supported, seen, and deeply alive, press play and let this be the moment you choose love with intention.

Show notes:
(2:01) Why the brain stops noticing your partner
(5:40) Mental subtraction and remembering early love
(7:20) Noticing small changes that rebuild connection
(11:48) How commitment trains the brain to stay curious
(15:16) The RAS and why goals help relationships
(20:15) Capturing “core memories” in tiny everyday moments
(24:39) The nightly gratitude practice that strengthens love
(29:32) Why internal beauty matters more than external trends
(31:37) Three habits for long-lasting connection
(36:03) Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they break down how emotional state shapes connection, timing, and the way couples show up for each other. They reveal why green, yellow, and red moods matter, how stress pushes partners into the “collision zone,” and why late nights and alcohol make everything harder. This episode is not about blame. It is about awareness, timing, and the simple shifts that protect love when it matters most.

If you want a relationship that lasts, start by mastering the moments that break most couples.

Show notes:
(2:08) The green-yellow-red awareness system
(6:29) What creates the “collision zone”
(9:29) How your nervous system signals danger
(11:57) Why alcohol makes hard moments harder
(13:20) Simple language to avoid conflict
(19:17) Nighttime fights and next-day fallout
(22:02) Checking your state as a team
(23:28) Outro

Digital Asset:
The Shared Language - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TKs_PSiMzfZGyNQFKI4OKzsFc48MA9zb/view?usp=drive_link

Referenced Research Articles:
https://www.google.com/url?q=https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5293605/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1764094977531479&usg=AOvVaw08OVyxCcj8z-LOtR2nH6on

https://www.google.com/url?q=https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi%3D10.1037%252Ffam0000227&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1764095121534954&usg=AOvVaw01XE6-0-LiIdNf0W7yGxLQ

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What if the real reason men struggle in relationships has nothing to do with love and everything to do with emotion? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the hidden forces that keep men guarded, silent, and disconnected from their own feelings. You’ll hear why women often carry the emotional load, how empathy can backfire, and why emotional safety, not strength, creates real intimacy. This isn’t about blame. It’s about truth, awareness, and the kind of growth that rewrites what it means to love and be loved.

Show notes:
(2:14) Empathy Vs. “Man-keeping”
(5:38) Why women do the emotional work
(7:13) Men judge their own growth
(9:03) Masculinity and early conditioning
(14:44) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(16:14) Why does emotion feel unsafe for men
(18:57) Status, ego, and the gym
(20:18) What’s under male frustration
(25:40) Look strong Vs. Get strong
(27:29) Outro

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In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros share the surprising truth behind what actually predicts long-term success in relationships, and the one thing partners must do to stay aligned for life. You’ll rethink how you set goals, communicate, and build your future together. Forget the fairytale. This is the science of staying in love for decades. Stay curious, stay conscious, and don’t just grow old together, grow better together.

Show notes:
(5:37) The study that shocked us
(9:01) 46% higher divorce risk explained
(10:28) Why missed check-ins matter
(11:47) How to create shared goals
(14:42) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(17:17) The power of time perspective
(22:20) Weekly “life optimization” meetings
(25:31) Calling your partner forward with humility
(29:05) Outro

Episode Reference:
The Effects of Lack of Joint Goal Planning on Divorce Over 10 Years -
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1yo796KxkvxeWrlo-KJgEjw1BzvVoZoln/view?usp=drive_link

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✨We do what we do best so you can do what you do best.
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