What’s more common is something quieter and harder to see.

Instead of staying emotionally engaged, many men shift into fixing mode. They manage logistics, handle responsibilities, and stay productive, believing closeness will eventually follow.

But fixing doesn’t create intimacy. It often replaces it.

In this episode, we talk about how emotional engagement slowly gives way to efficiency and avoidance, why “doing things together” feels like a breakthrough only after intimacy is already gone, and the relational skill most men were never taught.

This isn’t about date nights or doing more. It’s about understanding what happens when connection starts to feel risky, and why effort alone doesn’t bring intimacy back.

If you’ve been confused about how you ended up feeling distant in your marriage, this episode will help you see the pattern clearly and understand what’s actually missing.

In this episode, we cover:

Why fixing and productivity feel safer than emotional connection

How avoidance quietly replaces engagement over time

What the absence of shared experiences really signals

The skill most men were never taught about staying emotionally present

Why awareness alone doesn’t change this pattern

How to honestly assess where you may be stuck

If this episode helps you see yourself or your relationship more clearly and you want help understanding what this looks like in your marriage, you can book a call with me to get clarity on what’s happening and what would actually help.

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