Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men

By Alisa Stoddard

Struggling to fix the distance in your marriage - even though you’ve tried everything?

You’re not alone. This podcast is for high-achieving men who want more intimacy, better communication, and a stro... more

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How many episodes does Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men have?

The podcast currently has 73 episodes available.

Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men episodes:

September 11, 2026What You're Really Asking For | Ep 72
You keep hinting. She keeps not picking up on it. Underneath both of your frustration is a question neither of you has said out loud: what are you really asking for?
In this episode, we'll cover why hinting instead of asking directly creates more distance than it avoids, and why so many men confuse wanting sex with wanting to feel chosen. You'll hear why getting a yes doesn't always resolve the loneliness it's supposed to fix, and a simple structure for asking plainly instead of circling the question for years.
What you'll hear:
Why hinting reads as pressure, not subtlety, to her
The real difference between wanting sex and wanting her
Why she probably already knows what you want, and why that's part of the problem
A simple structure for asking directly, called the CLEAR Ask
Why non-sexual connection often matters more to her than the act itself
I'm also hosting a free live webinar on September 23rd at 2:30pm MT
(1:30pm PT / 3:30pm CT / 4:30pm ET).
Join me live, I'd love to have you there: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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17min
September 04, 2026Right or Happy | Ep 71
There's a window, ten to twenty seconds, where your body decides what happens next in an argument, before you're even aware you're reacting. This week we'll cover what's actually happening in that window, why explosion and shutdown are the only two exits most men were ever taught, and what specifically hijacks that window before you get a real choice.
Why the 15 seconds before you explode or shut down are physical, not just emotional
Why white-knuckling your reaction isn't the same as regulating it
Why you might feel compelled to correct her version of events, and what's underneath that
What actually interrupts the pattern toward explosion, and toward shutdown
I'm hosting a free live webinar on September 10th at 2pm PT / 3pm MT / 4pm CT / 5pm ET.
Join me live, I'll send the details soon.

Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
I'd love to have you there.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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19min
August 28, 2026The Moment Before You Explode or Go Quiet | Ep 70
There's a moment right before you explode or shut down where your nervous system decides the conversation isn't safe. Most men never see that moment, only what comes after it.
In this episode, we'll cover:
What's actually happening in your body in the fifteen seconds before you react
Why explosion and shutdown are the same pattern wearing different clothes
How childhood experiences can wire conflict to fear of abandonment, and why that's true for almost every man
Why the origin of this pattern stops being an excuse once you're in midlife
How your dysregulation affects her body, not just the conversation
What actually interrupts the pattern in the moment
I'm hosting a free live webinar on September 10th at 2pm PT / 3pm MT / 4pm CT / 5pm ET.
Join me live, I'll send the details soon.

Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
I'd love to have you there.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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20min
August 21, 2026She's Still Watching for the Old You | Ep 69
He said the wrong thing at dinner. Nothing big, just a flash of impatience. But she saw it, and weeks of steady change seemed to disappear from how she looked at him.
If you've done real work to change how you show up and it still feels like she's watching for the old version of you, this episode is for you.
We'll cover:
Why one hard moment outweighs weeks of consistency in her mind
The difference between white-knuckling change and actually becoming someone different
Why not feeling acknowledged for your effort is a real cost
What it means if her full trust never completely comes back
How to hold a change that no one has validated yet
I'm hosting a free live webinar on September 10th at 2pm PT / 3pm MT / 4pm CT / 5pm ET.
Join me live, I'll send the details soon.

Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
I'd love to have you there.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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16min
August 14, 2026Living in the Gap | Ep 68
Why Do You Need Her to Notice You've Changed?
You've been doing the work. Staying calm when it used to wreck you. Catching the old reaction before it takes over. And she still looks at you like she's waiting to see if it's real. This episode is about the hardest part of that process, the stretch where you keep showing up differently and nothing outside of you confirms it.
We'll cover:
Why real change often gets no visible reaction, and why that doesn't mean it isn't working
Why so many men need their wife to confirm their growth, and what that request actually asks of her
A specific, practical shift for knowing you did the work, without needing her to tell you
What happens to men who never learn to source this for themselves
If that's where you are, join me live August 20th, 11am PT / noon MT / 1pm CT / 2pm ET, for a free webinar. Save your seat at alisastoddard.com.
Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration

I'd love to have you there.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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19min
August 07, 2026Why She Still Doesn't Trust the New You | Ep 67
You've been showing up differently, calmer, more consistent, more present. And instead of trust, you're getting watched like she's waiting for the old you to show back up.
In this episode, we'll cover why trust doesn't arrive the moment you decide to change, and why she's testing you instead of believing you right away. You'll hear about the small, easy-to-miss moments that function as tests, why getting frustrated with her doubt often confirms it instead of resolving it, and what actually rebuilds trust after it's been damaged.
We'll cover:
Why her testing isn't evidence the change isn't working
The quiet, everyday moments that are actually her gathering evidence
Why defensiveness resets the clock she's keeping
What real trust-building looks like over time
How to recover when you slip, without losing the progress you've made
If that's where you are, join me live August 20th, 11am PT / noon MT / 1pm CT / 2pm ET, for a free webinar. Save your seat at alisastoddard.com.
Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration

I'd love to have you there.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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15min
July 31, 2026You Changed to Keep Her. That's the Problem | Ep 66
You've changed. So why doesn't she want you more?
In this episode, we'll cover why change driven by fear of losing her often backfires, and why eager, anxious effort can feel like pressure instead of progress. You'll hear why needing her to notice and confirm your growth quietly puts her in a role that kills desire, and what it actually takes to change in a way that doesn't depend on her approval.
Why “changing to keep her” creates resentment over time
The difference between proving and becoming
Why vigilance and desire can't coexist
What self-trust actually requires
I'm hosting a free webinar on Aug 4th where I'll walk through exactly what she needs to see from you after a mistake, and how to give her that without losing yourself in the process. It's at 2:00pm PT, 3:00pm MT, 4:00pm CT, and 5:00pm ET.
Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
I'd love to have you there.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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16min
July 24, 2026Why Sorry Isn't the Finish Line You Think It Is | Ep 65
You apologized. You meant it. And it's still sitting between you weeks later. In this episode, we'll cover why an apology feels like a finish line to most men and rarely feels that way to her, why old hurt resurfaces during arguments that seem completely unrelated, and what your defensiveness unintentionally confirms to her when she brings it up again.
We'll also talk about what's different when the mistake was an affair or a pattern of porn use, and what actually needs to happen for her to start believing real change has taken hold.
You'll hear:
Why an apology answers "what did you do" but not the question she's actually asking
What it means to let her see the internal work you've been doing, instead of assuming she already can
Why withdrawal and outbursts are often the same fear showing up differently
What consistent, repeated presence actually does that a single apology can't
I'm hosting a free webinar on Aug 4th where I'll walk through exactly what she needs to see from you after a mistake, and how to give her that without losing yourself in the process. It's at 2:00pm PT, 3:00pm MT, 4:00pm CT, and 5:00pm ET.
Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
I'd love to have you there.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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20min
July 17, 2026What Traction Actually Looks Like | Ep 64
You've been doing the work. Staying present instead of shutting down. Catching the old reaction before it takes over. And some part of you is still waiting for proof that it's actually working.
This episode closes out a series on the difference between performing change and actually becoming different. You'll hear:
Why real change rarely confirms itself the moment it happens
The difference between complying with what a marriage needs and actually participating in it
What she's genuinely watching for, and why it's rarely the big gestures
What it looks like when traction finally becomes visible
Why this isn't a finish line, and what the real test looks like once change starts to hold
Join me for a free webinar on July 21st to go deeper into this. Register Here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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18min
July 10, 2026She's Changing. Do You Still Fit? | Ep 63
Why Is Your Wife Suddenly Pulling Away or Changing in Midlife?
If your wife has started saying no to things she used to just do, spending time in the other room, or making plans that don't run through you first, something real has shifted. This episode is about understanding what that shift actually means.
We'll cover:
Why midlife brings real change for a lot of women, and why it usually has little to do with the marriage
Why her independence can feel like rejection even when it isn't
The quiet fear many men carry about being left behind, and why it isn't proof of anything
What it actually looks like to meet the woman she's becoming instead of holding onto who she used to be
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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FAQs about Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men:

How many episodes does Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men have?

The podcast currently has 73 episodes available.