Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men

By Alisa Stoddard

Struggling to fix the distance in your marriage - even though you’ve tried everything?

You’re not alone. This podcast is for high-achieving men who want more intimacy, better communication, and a stro... more

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The podcast currently has 64 episodes available.

Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men episodes:

July 10, 2026She's Changing. Do You Still Fit? | Ep 63
Why Is Your Wife Suddenly Pulling Away or Changing in Midlife?
If your wife has started saying no to things she used to just do, spending time in the other room, or making plans that don't run through you first, something real has shifted. This episode is about understanding what that shift actually means.
We'll cover:
Why midlife brings real change for a lot of women, and why it usually has little to do with the marriage
Why her independence can feel like rejection even when it isn't
The quiet fear many men carry about being left behind, and why it isn't proof of anything
What it actually looks like to meet the woman she's becoming instead of holding onto who she used to be
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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14min
July 03, 2026Why Her Feedback Shuts You Down | Ep 62
Most men handle hard feedback at work without much trouble. But when their wife says something critical, a wall goes up almost instantly. This episode is about why that happens, what it costs, and what it quietly communicates to her over time.
We cover:
Why her feedback feels like an attack even when it isn't
What she is actually saying underneath the surface complaint
How the defensive reflex trains her to stop being honest
The difference between being a partner and being a soft place to land
What it actually looks like to receive feedback without shutting down
If you have ever walked away from a hard conversation feeling unfairly criticized while she walked away feeling more alone, this episode is for you.
Join me for “What She Stopped Saying” - a free 30-minute webinar on July 8th.
Register at Live Webinar | Open Call Registration
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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22min
June 26, 2026Why Trying to Listen Harder Isn't Working | Ep 61
You've tried to listen better. You wait longer, stay calmer, stop interrupting. And she still says she doesn't feel heard.
This episode names what's actually happening in that gap.
Most men were taught that listening is about behavior. But behavior isn't what creates the experience of being heard. Until you understand the difference, you can keep improving your technique and still leave her feeling alone in the conversation.
This isn't a how-to episode. No active listening steps. No reflective language techniques. Just an honest look at why the effort isn't landing, what's getting in the way, and why the gap between you has less to do with skill than with what stopped feeling safe a long time ago.
In this episode:
Why listening harder and actually hearing her aren't the same thing
What she means when she says she doesn't feel heard
How problem-solving and self-protection interrupt real presence
Why men who've felt dismissed themselves often can't stay open enough to hear her
What changes when the experience of being heard finally shifts
Join me for “What She Stopped Saying” - a free 30-minute webinar on July 8th.
Register at Live Webinar | Open Call Registration
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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21min
June 19, 2026She Noticed. She Still Didn’t Soften. Here’s Why. | Ep 60
When something finally breaks through, most men mobilize. They start doing more, handling more, showing up at a volume they’ve never sustained before. And then she doesn’t respond the way they expected. Or she tells them to slow down. And it makes no sense.
This episode is about why flooding the zone with effort after a wake-up call often creates more confusion, not less - and what the difference actually is between performing change and becoming different.
We’ll cover:
Why the scramble after a hard conversation isn’t the same as change
What she’s actually communicating when she says “do something for yourself”
Why her nervous system takes longer to update than his effort level
What genuine, sustainable change actually looks like from the inside

If you’re trying harder than you ever have and still feel like you’re missing something, this episode names what that something is.
Join me for “What She Stopped Saying” - a free 30-minute webinar on June 24th.

Register at Live Webinar | Open Call Registration

🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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18min
June 12, 2026 It’s Not Just About Sex - You Want to Feel Wanted (Encore) | Ep 59
Before we get into today’s episode, I want to mention something happening next week.
On Wednesday, June 18th at 12:30 PM Mountain Time, I’m hosting a free webinar called What She Stopped Saying. Thirty minutes, live on Zoom. Bring your real questions about your relationship and get honest answers. If you’ve been listening and wondering what this looks like applied to your specific situation, this is the place.
Register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
In this short opening episode, I want to talk to the man who’s been carrying a quiet frustration.
The one doing his best - but still feeling like the intimacy is gone.
Maybe you’re barely having sex anymore.
Maybe conversations feel distant, shallow, or nonexistent.
Maybe you feel more like her roommate… or her employee… than her husband.
You’re not crazy for wanting more.
You’re not needy.
You’re not broken.
In this first episode, I’m laying the foundation for what this podcast is really here to help you do - and why it is possible to create more intimacy, trust, and connection, even if things have felt cold for a long time.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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11min
June 05, 2026Why Initiating Keeps Failing | Ep 58
If you've been initiating and getting nowhere, this episode explains why, and it's probably not what you think.
Most men were never told that desire doesn't work the same way for everyone. They've been measuring their wife's interest using a model that doesn't apply to her, reading her not-yet as a no, and pulling back in ways that make things worse. This episode breaks down what responsive desire is, why safety is the condition it needs to emerge, and what most men are doing that quietly shuts it down.
In this episode you'll hear:
What responsive desire is and why it's not a problem to fix
Why her no isn't always a no, and what misreading it actually costs
How safety gets built or eroded, and why her body keeps score
Why obligation sex is more damaging than most men realize
The difference between verbal and emotional communication
Why contributing at home doesn't automatically create desire
What actually shifts the conditions for intimacy to return
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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25min
May 29, 2026She Said She Loves Me But Isn’t In Love With Me | Ep 57
“I love you but I’m not in love with you.” If your wife said this to you, this episode is for you.
This is a clarity episode, not crisis management. It covers what she is actually saying when she uses those words, how she got there, and why the two most common responses men have, pursuing hard or going cold, both make things worse.
You will hear:
What “in love” actually means in the context of a long marriage, and why it is not about attraction
How emotional distance builds quietly over years without either person fully tracking it
Why sudden effort after this sentence often lands as confirmation of her fear rather than reassurance
What this moment is actually asking for, and why most men were never taught how to give it
What the path forward looks like, and why the work transforms the man regardless of the outcome
She said something true. The door is open. This episode is about what you do next.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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22min
May 22, 2026You’re About to Be Alone With Someone You Don’t Know | Ep 56
You built a life together. And somewhere in the middle of all of it, the two of you quietly stopped connecting. Not dramatically. Not with one defining moment. Just a slow drift that neither of you fully named.
If you are in your late forties or fifties and the kids are older or almost gone, this episode is going to land somewhere specific.
In this episode, we cover:
How disconnection starts long before it is visible, and what keeps it hidden
What busyness has been protecting you from noticing
The stories men tell themselves that keep the distance in place
What she has been experiencing while you were managing and providing
Why this particular moment in life feels so heavy when the marriage has thinned out
What is actually possible from here, and what it honestly requires
This is episode 56 in the Create More Intimacy podcast for men. Part of a four-part series on the deeper patterns underneath intimacy and connection.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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19min
May 15, 2026You Don't Know If It's Over. You Just Know You Can't Keep Going Like This | Ep 55
Most men don't say it directly. But somewhere underneath the exhaustion and the distance, there's a question that keeps coming back at 2am: is this actually over?
In this episode, we go into what that question is really asking - and why the answer looks very different once the tunnel opens up.
What you'll hear:
Why "is this over?" is almost never just about the marriage
What the phrase "I can't keep going like this" is actually telling you
Why wanting to go back to how things were leads to the same painful place
What looking honestly at leaving can reveal about the options you stopped seeing
The fear of infidelity, in both directions, and what it signals
What comes before the question gets answered
The path forward isn't backwards. It's through something you haven't done yet.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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21min
May 08, 2026She Doesn’t Want More From You. She Wants Something Different | Ep 54
You are doing a lot. You provide, you handle things, you show up. And somehow the marriage still feels empty.
In this episode, we break down why effort alone doesn’t create emotional connection - and what your wife has actually been waiting for that has nothing to do with how much you do.
You will hear about:
Why so many men unknowingly run their marriage like a transaction
Why doing more, giving more, and completing her list doesn’t produce closeness
What she experiences when effort keeps arriving but presence doesn’t
Why grand gestures and gifts fall flat even when they’re genuinely meant
What actually shifts when a man stops transacting and starts being present
Why the fear of not being enough keeps men stuck in the doing
If you have been giving everything and still feeling invisible, this one is going to name something you have been carrying for a long time.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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21min

FAQs about Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men:

How many episodes does Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men have?

The podcast currently has 64 episodes available.