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- You Haven't Done Anything. You're Afraid You Will | Ep 78
You haven't done anything. But you're afraid you might.
Maybe you check your phone hoping a particular name shows up. Maybe you feel more like yourself in twenty minutes with someone else than you have in months at home. Or maybe you've crossed this line before, and you recognize where this goes.
In this episode, we'll cover what that fear is actually telling you, and why the pull toward someone else is rarely about her.
You'll hear:
- Why living like roommates leads to numbness, and why numbness doesn't stay put
- Why feeling alive with someone new feels like clarity, and why it isn't
- What a relationship with no history offers, and what it can't tell you
- What men who've strayed before need to know about rules, shame, and secrecy
- The stories that keep the door open, and a simple test that cuts through them
- Why the moment before you act is the moment you have the most choice
Join me live for a free webinar, "What She Stopped Saying," on Wednesday, November 11 at 1pm PT / 2pm MT / 3pm CT / 4pm ET.
Save your seat. https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
18 min - "Just Tell Me What to Do" (and Why It Backfires) | Ep 77
"Just tell me what to do. I'll do anything." You meant it. So why did she look more tired instead of relieved?
In this episode, we'll look at why that offer so often lands as more work for her, and what's missing when a man is doing more around the house but nothing between you is changing.
You'll hear:
- Why asking for a list leaves her holding the mental load
- The unspoken deal between chores and intimacy, and why it was never real
- Why "I can't read her mind" reveals who has been carrying the household
- What it means to finish a task through completion
- Why her trust depends on your follow-through over time, not one good week
- What real buy-in to a shared life looks like
I'm hosting a free live webinar on Tuesday, October 20 at 12pm PT / 1pm MT / 2pm CT / 3pm ET.
Save your spot here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
24 min - She Said Yes to Thursday. You Said Nothing | Ep 76
You scheduled sex so you wouldn't have to keep asking. Then the night came, you spent the day reading her mood, you waited for her to start, and nothing happened. Now it feels like proof that she doesn't want you.
In this episode we'll cover why scheduling sex so often fails to give men what they were hoping for. A schedule can offer predictability and take pressure off the other nights. It can't make you feel wanted, and it can't do the asking for you.
You'll hear:
- What a schedule is good for, and why it only works if she agreed freely
- How watching her mood all day talks you out of the evening before it starts
- Why waiting for her to initiate hands her a job she never agreed to
- What happens when a missed night has to be made up, or gets dropped without a word
- Why sex has become your main route to feeling close, and what's missing
I'm hosting a free live webinar on Tuesday, October 20 at 12pm PT / 1pm MT / 2pm CT / 3pm ET.
Save your spot here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
20 min - The Advice That Told You to Stop Caring | Ep 75
Somebody finally told you it wasn't your fault. Stop chasing her. Be more dominant. Don't text back right away. Let her wonder where you are.
For a lot of men, this kind of online advice arrives at exactly the moment they feel most rejected, and at first it feels like relief. In this episode, we'll cover why that advice is so convincing, what it gets right about self-respect, and why the tactics built on it usually leave men colder and lonelier in their marriages than before.
You'll hear:
- Why pulling back to get her attention is the same deal as doing more to earn it
- What her response to your distance usually means (and why it doesn't last)
- How contempt can creep in when you start seeing her as someone to manage
- The difference between withholding and refusing to abandon yourself
- A simple test for whether what you're doing is self-respect or a tactic
I'm also hosting a free live webinar on October 7th at 3:00pm MT
(2:00pm PT / 4:00pm CT / 5:00pm ET).Save your spot here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
21 min - You Thought She Wanted You in Better Shape | Ep 74
You got in shape. You changed your body with real discipline. And at home, almost nothing changed.
When a wife pulls away physically, many men decide the problem is attraction, and the gym becomes the fix. It's measurable, it's private, and it doesn't require a difficult conversation. But in long-term marriages, desire is rarely about how he looks. It's about how it feels to be with him.
In this episode, we'll cover why the body made so much sense as a target, what she's actually responding to, and how to keep the discipline while changing where you point it.
You'll hear:
- Why getting fitter without any change at home isn't proof you're unattractive
- How effort with an expectation attached starts to feel like pressure to her
- Why your training hours may be leaving her feeling more alone
- What the gym might be protecting you from
- Why outside attention feels so good when you're lonely at home, and why that deserves your honesty
- How to apply the discipline you already have to emotional presence at home
I'm also hosting a free live webinar on October 7th at 3:00pm MT
(2:00pm PT / 4:00pm CT / 5:00pm ET).Join me live, I'd love to have you there: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
21 min - Stop Asking If You're Normal | Ep 73
Is it normal to barely have sex in marriage? In this episode, we'll cover why a real, credible statistic about married couples still can't answer that question for you, and why chasing that number can quietly work against you, both with your wife and with yourself.
We'll cover:
- What the actual research says about how often married couples have sex today
- Why a national average can't tell you anything true about your specific marriage
- How that number gets weaponized in arguments, or turned inward into shame about your body
- The real questions worth asking instead: whether you actually talk to her, whether you still see her, whether effort at home has become a transaction, whether you're relying on her memory instead of your own
You'll hear why the question was never "am I normal," and what to ask instead.
I'm also hosting a free live webinar on September 23rd at 3:00pm MT
(2:00pm PT / 4:00pm CT / 5:00pm ET).Join me live, I'd love to have you there: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
16 min - What You're Really Asking For | Ep 72
You keep hinting. She keeps not picking up on it. Underneath both of your frustration is a question neither of you has said out loud: what are you really asking for?
In this episode, we'll cover why hinting instead of asking directly creates more distance than it avoids, and why so many men confuse wanting sex with wanting to feel chosen. You'll hear why getting a yes doesn't always resolve the loneliness it's supposed to fix, and a simple structure for asking plainly instead of circling the question for years.
What you'll hear:
- Why hinting reads as pressure, not subtlety, to her
- The real difference between wanting sex and wanting her
- Why she probably already knows what you want, and why that's part of the problem
- A simple structure for asking directly, called the CLEAR Ask
- Why non-sexual connection often matters more to her than the act itself
I'm also hosting a free live webinar on September 23rd at 2:30pm MT
(1:30pm PT / 3:30pm CT / 4:30pm ET).Join me live, I'd love to have you there: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
17 min - Right or Happy | Ep 71
There's a window, ten to twenty seconds, where your body decides what happens next in an argument, before you're even aware you're reacting. This week we'll cover what's actually happening in that window, why explosion and shutdown are the only two exits most men were ever taught, and what specifically hijacks that window before you get a real choice.
- Why the 15 seconds before you explode or shut down are physical, not just emotional
- Why white-knuckling your reaction isn't the same as regulating it
- Why you might feel compelled to correct her version of events, and what's underneath that
- What actually interrupts the pattern toward explosion, and toward shutdown
I'm hosting a free live webinar on September 10th at 2pm PT / 3pm MT / 4pm CT / 5pm ET.
Join me live, I'll send the details soon.
Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registrationI'd love to have you there.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
19 min - The Moment Before You Explode or Go Quiet | Ep 70
There's a moment right before you explode or shut down where your nervous system decides the conversation isn't safe. Most men never see that moment, only what comes after it.
In this episode, we'll cover:
- What's actually happening in your body in the fifteen seconds before you react
- Why explosion and shutdown are the same pattern wearing different clothes
- How childhood experiences can wire conflict to fear of abandonment, and why that's true for almost every man
- Why the origin of this pattern stops being an excuse once you're in midlife
- How your dysregulation affects her body, not just the conversation
- What actually interrupts the pattern in the moment
I'm hosting a free live webinar on September 10th at 2pm PT / 3pm MT / 4pm CT / 5pm ET.
Join me live, I'll send the details soon.
Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registrationI'd love to have you there.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
20 min - She's Still Watching for the Old You | Ep 69
He said the wrong thing at dinner. Nothing big, just a flash of impatience. But she saw it, and weeks of steady change seemed to disappear from how she looked at him.
If you've done real work to change how you show up and it still feels like she's watching for the old version of you, this episode is for you.
We'll cover:
- Why one hard moment outweighs weeks of consistency in her mind
- The difference between white-knuckling change and actually becoming someone different
- Why not feeling acknowledged for your effort is a real cost
- What it means if her full trust never completely comes back
- How to hold a change that no one has validated yet
I'm hosting a free live webinar on September 10th at 2pm PT / 3pm MT / 4pm CT / 5pm ET.
Join me live, I'll send the details soon.
Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registrationI'd love to have you there.
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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About Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men
From the publisher's feed
Struggling to fix the distance in your marriage - even though you’ve tried everything?
You’re not alone. This podcast is for high-achieving men who want more intimacy, better communication, and a stronger emotional connection with their wives.
I’m Alisa, a certified relationship coach for men. I help husbands stop chasing sex and start creating real connection.
Each week, you’ll get straight-talking, practical advice to help you feel more respected, appreciated, and connected at home. Whether you’re dealing with emotional disconnection, constant tension, or feeling unwanted - this podcast will help.
You don’t need to walk on eggshells.
You need a better way forward.
And I’ll show you how.