Have you ever worked for someone who knew your numbers… but didn’t know you?

They knew your deadlines, KPIs, and calendar — but not what it cost you to keep producing. And at some point, you stop feeling supported and start feeling watched.

In this episode of Just Human, Jay Boykin sits down with John R. Miles (author of Passion Struck) to unpack the difference between being managed and being seen accurately — and why “mattering” is the foundation of performance, loyalty, and psychological safety at work.

You’ll learn:

• Why micromanagement vs leadership feels so different in the body
• How performance culture quietly erodes self-worth and work performance
• What it means to build “self-mattering” before you can feel seen by others
• Why frontline managers are the hidden engine of engagement (or disengagement)
• A practical leadership shift: “eyes on, hands off” + commander’s intent
• How great workplaces connect roles to mission so people feel valued — not measured

If you’re a leader, founder, or manager who wants high performance without grinding people down — this conversation will change how you run 1:1s, how you give feedback, and how you build culture people don’t want to leave.

💡 One takeaway to try this week: start noticing the “yellow doors” — the small moments where a micro-choice can increase trust, connection, and energy on your team.

👉 Learn more about Jay’s work: www.jayboykin.com
📘 Learn more about John: John R. Miles | Official Website of the Award-Winning Author

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