Have you ever worked for someone who knew your numbers… but didn’t know you?

They knew your deadlines, KPIs, and calendar — but not what it cost you to keep producing. And at some point, you stop feeling supported and start feeling watched.

In this episode of Just Human, Jay Boykin sits down with John R. Miles (author of Passion Struck) to unpack the difference between being managed and being seen accurately — and why “mattering” is the foundation of performance, loyalty, and psychological safety at work.

You’ll learn:

• Why micromanagement vs leadership feels so different in the body
• How performance culture quietly erodes self-worth and work performance
• What it means to build “self-mattering” before you can feel seen by others
• Why frontline managers are the hidden engine of engagement (or disengagement)
• A practical leadership shift: “eyes on, hands off” + commander’s intent
• How great workplaces connect roles to mission so people feel valued — not measured

If you’re a leader, founder, or manager who wants high performance without grinding people down — this conversation will change how you run 1:1s, how you give feedback, and how you build culture people don’t want to leave.

💡 One takeaway to try this week: start noticing the “yellow doors” — the small moments where a micro-choice can increase trust, connection, and energy on your team.

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📘 Learn more about John: John R. Miles | Official Website of the Award-Winning Author

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Ever “listened” so well you deserved a trophy… and still got in trouble?
Let’s fix that with 6 simple listening practices that work at home and at work.

Most of us confuse hearing with listening. Hearing is audio. Listening is connection. And when listening breaks down, relationships get tense, distance grows, and at work you get the same messy conversations on repeat—plus rework, resentment, and escalation.

In this episode of Just Human, Jay Boykin shares practical, repeatable listening skills you can use immediately—no therapy speak, no fluff. You’ll learn how to make people feel accurately understood, reduce conflict, and create clarity that actually moves things forward.

Timestamps / Key Takeaways

• 0:01 Why “hearing” isn’t listening
• 7:20 The office bridge: how bad listening creates rework
• 9:05 #1 Comfort vs solutions (what do they need?)
• 12:12 #2 Mirror the last 3–5 words
• 15:50 #3 Name the emotion (validation ≠ agreement)
• 17:31 #4 “What did I miss?” summary
• 19:44 #5 Ask one deepening question
• 21:02 #6 Close the loop with action
• 26:09 Bonus: the phone-down pro tip

If this helped, subscribe, hit like, and comment: Which one practice are you running for 7 days?

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Pressure doesn’t build character — it reveals your patterns. And if you don’t know your patterns, you’ll repeat them… and call it a “leadership style.”

In this episode of Just Human, Jay Boykin breaks down self-awareness as a leadership advantage — not as a soft idea, but as a practical skill that protects your decision-making under stress, builds trust, reduces workplace drama, and improves psychological safety so your team performs faster and more confidently.

🔥 Key takeaway: Your team can handle high expectations. What they can’t handle is unpredictability.

Try this today:
Write one sentence: “When I feel ___, I will ___.”
That tiny adjustment can change how people experience your leadership.

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Most New Year’s resolutions collapse by the end of January—and it’s not because you’re weak. It’s because resolutions have no structure. In this Just Human episode, Jay Boykin breaks down the difference between a resolution, a goal, and a system, and teaches a practical Goals → Systems framework that helps business owners and corporate professionals build habits that survive real life (even when your calendar gets full).

You’ll learn why “get healthier” and “be more productive” fail when they stay vague, why perfection is a terrible strategy for consistency, and how to build simple systems with a schedule, trigger, tracking, and accountability. Jay also shares the mindset shift that makes progress inevitable: Goals tell you where you’re going. Systems tell you what you do this week.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The 4 reasons New Year’s resolutions fail (vague, all-or-nothing, identity-free, system-less)
• The simple definitions of resolution vs goal vs system
• The 5-step Goals → Systems method:
  1. Pick one meaningful outcome
  2. Convert outcomes into process goals (inputs)
  3. Build the system (cadence + trigger + minimum standard)
  4. Track inputs with a simple scorecard
  5. Do a weekly review (the CEO move)
• How to handle common obstacles: “I don’t have time,” “I fell off,” “I need motivation”
• The rule that keeps you consistent all year: Never miss twice

Best quotes:

• “A resolution is an intention. A goal is a target. A system is the bridge.”
• “Your minimum standard keeps you in the game when life gets loud.”
• “Motivation comes and goes. Design stays.”

If you’re serious about better habits, better leadership, and better business results in 2026, don’t chase hype—build a rhythm.

✅ Action step: Write one goal and one system that makes it real. Pick your minimum standard, and schedule a 15-minute weekly review.

Subscribe for weekly episodes on business, leadership, and personal growth—and share this with someone who needs a reset that actually sticks.

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 In this episode of Just Human, I sit down again with ultra-marathoner and combat Marine Tyler Herman to explore what it really means to be tough.

Tyler recently attempted the URA 100, one of the hardest 100-mile mountain races in the world. After nearly 50 miles and 16,000 feet of climbing, his race ended with three letters: DNF (Did Not Finish). But what happened in those miles and the decision to stop is a powerful lesson in resilience, vulnerability, and redefining success.

We talk about:
🏔 The moment self-doubt hit harder than the physical pain
🏔 How his crew carried belief for him when he couldn’t carry it himself
🏔 The difference between pain and injury, and why stopping can be the bravest choice
🏔 Why failure can sometimes be the very thing we need to grow

This conversation isn’t just about running. It’s about leadership, community, and the human side of toughness.

💡 If you’ve ever faced setbacks in business, family, or life, Tyler’s story will remind you: toughness isn’t about being unbreakable. It’s about being fully human in the climb.

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Feeling overwhelmed by stress at work or home? You’re not alone. In this episode of Just Human, Jay Boykin dives into those “pressure cooker” moments when our patience snaps and our brains go overdrive. From inbox overload to family chaos, Jay unpacks why our minds short-circuit under pressure, and how to reset before we react.

You’ll discover:
✅ Why stress hijacks your brain (hello, amygdala!)
✅ A simple 3-step reset: Pause, Ask, Clarify
✅ How emotional intelligence can help you stay steady under fire
✅ Why Mel Robbins’ Let Them theory might be the permission slip you need to reclaim peace

This isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being human. Jay shares practical tools for responding with clarity, empathy, and grace, whether leading a team, navigating relationships, or surviving a hectic Tuesday.

📌 Watch now and learn how to turn chaos into calm.

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Because being human comes first.

Music is more than sound—it’s memory, connection, and emotion wrapped into one. In this episode of Just Human, host Jay Boykin is joined by his brother, Jeff Boykin, for a heartfelt conversation about the role of music in their lives and how it connects us all.

From childhood memories of spinning vinyl in their father’s game room to the science of how music lights up the brain, Jay and Jeff explore how songs become the soundtrack to our human experience. They talk about the universal power of Michael Jackson and Whitney Houston, the revival of vinyl collections, and why music often feels like a shared language—whether in a firehouse, on a boat, or across cultures in Kenya.

You’ll also hear about Jeff’s unique “superpower” of matching life moments with perfect lyrics, and why music so often pulls us back into our most meaningful memories.

💡 Challenge of the week: Revisit a song that has profoundly impacted you, then share it with a loved one to spark reconnection.

Don’t forget to subscribe, share your favorite song in the comments, and check out the Just Human Vol. 1 playlist on Spotify! 
👉 https://open.spotify.com/playlist/370GaTscYjj0nnfY5jWQM2?si=63ed9864600f4b28

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What if you only had 4,000 weeks to live? The truth is… You probably do.

In this episode of Just Human, I explore what it means to live within our limits — and why that might be the best thing for us. Inspired by Oliver Burkeman’s book 4,000 Weeks: Time Management for Mortals, we’ll look at how time went from being something we experienced to something we relentlessly try to conquer.

You’ll learn:

Why productivity can trap you instead of freeing you

How to shift from “doing it all” to focusing on what truly matters

Practical tips to reclaim your time and live with more intention

Why your limitations might be your greatest gift

This isn’t about hacks or hustle. It’s about presence, purpose, and protecting your most valuable resource — time.

⏳ Key Topics:
00:00 – Intro: What it means to be Just Human
00:49 – The 4,000-week reality check
04:48 – How time became a commodity
10:42 – The trap of productivity
16:34 – Embracing limitations as a gift
21:27 – Choosing what truly matters
26:55 – Final reflections and challenge for you

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Summary 

In this episode, Jay Boykin explores the concept of time management through the lens of Oliver Berkman's book '4,000 Weeks: Time Management for Mortals.' He discusses the finite nature of our time, the productivity trap, and how embracing our limitations can lead to a more meaningful life. Boykin emphasizes the importance of prioritizing what truly matters and offers practical tips for managing time effectively, encouraging listeners to be present and mindful in their daily lives. 

Takeaways 

 We all wrestle with the same things in life. 

The average person has about 4,160 weeks to live. 

Productivity is a trap that creates more demands. 

We have lost touch with the true value of time. 

Our limitations are not problems to solve, but realities to embrace. 

Freedom comes from choosing what matters most. 

Not everything deserves our time and attention. 

Waiting for the perfect time is counterproductive. 

Accepting discomfort is part of the process. 

You can't do everything; focus on what truly matters. 

Keywords 

 time management, productivity, limitations, personal growth, purpose, efficiency trap, 4000 weeks, Oliver Berkman, mindfulness, presence 

Keywords:

human connection, social interactions, overcoming barriers, curiosity, personal growth, non-transactional relationships, podcast, Just Human, Thibaud Edwards, Jay Boykin

Summary:

In this episode of the Just Human podcast, host Jay Boykin speaks with Thibaud Edwards about his unique challenge of connecting with 100 people in 100 days. Thibaud shares his journey of overcoming personal barriers to communication, the importance of non-transactional relationships, and the surprising depth of conversations he experienced. The discussion emphasizes the value of curiosity in human interactions and the growth that comes from stepping outside of one's comfort zone. Thibaud reflects on the lessons learned from his challenge and his plans for future endeavors.

Takeaways:

The challenge of connecting with strangers can lead to personal growth.

Overcoming personal barriers is essential for effective communication.

Non-transactional connections can lead to deeper relationships.

Curiosity can replace fear in social interactions.

Many people are eager for genuine connections.

Social media can distort perceptions of individuals.

The majority of people are more similar than they appear.

Discomfort is often a precursor to growth.

Engaging with others can reveal unexpected insights.

The 100-day challenge format can be a powerful tool for personal development.

Sound Bites:

"I have to get out of this space."

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

"I absolutely love the 100-day format."

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Just Human Podcast

01:27 The Unusual Connection: Meeting Thibaut Edwards

03:41 Challenging Comfort Zones: The 100 People Journey

09:32 The Impact of Avoidance: Personal Reflections

12:36 Home Life and Family Dynamics

16:47 The Need for Connection: Insights from the Challenge

18:55 Responses and Conversations: Surprising Depths

22:02 Navigating Conversations: The Good and the Bad

27:05 Bridging the Gap: Overcoming Conversation Barriers

28:51 From Transactional to Relational: The Power of Genuine Connections

32:39 Embracing Discomfort: Growth Through Challenge

39:59 Curiosity Over Transaction: Transforming Interactions

46:52 Finding Common Ground: The Beauty of Diverse Perspectives

52:21 Looking Ahead: Future Challenges and Growth