Episode Summary

A personal training client once asked me why I’d bother to enter a race I knew I couldn’t win. For him, competition was all about the scoreboard. For me, it’s about something much deeper.

In this episode of The Aging Well Firefighter, I share three powerful race-day stories that reveal why I keep showing up for races I won’t win: to connect with others through shared experiences, empathy, and sometimes shared suffering.

Whether you’re an “age grouper,” a first responder, or just someone navigating life’s challenges, the real finish line isn’t the one with the timing mat - it’s the one we cross together.

Make sure to read this episode’s companion article, “Run, Salt, Run!”

Key Topics Covered

* Why racing isn’t always about the podium or the medal

* The power of connection in endurance sports and emergency services

* Story #1: Meeting Susan during a half marathon and the joy of “running in tribes”

* Story #2: “Coopetition” in a triathlon — helping a fellow athlete with pickle juice, even if it meant he beat me

* Story #3: My first 50-mile ultramarathon, the brutal heat, and the salty nickname that became a symbol of camaraderie

* How empathy, humor, and shared struggle build collective resilience

* The science of oxytocin and why social bonds reduce stress and improve performance

Memorable Quotes

“The real finish line, for me at least, is about connection — not just the competition.”

“People were meant to run in tribes…. We were meant to share experiences.”

“I could have finished faster, but I chose to stop and help. Seeing him succeed was a bigger win than any medal.”

“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”

Call to Action

Have you ever experienced a “coopetition” moment or found unexpected camaraderie in the middle of a challenge? I’d love to hear your story!

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Let’s keep building collective resilience—one story at a time.

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