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Ep13 Why Do I Care?
Hello and Welcome to the Way of the Emotional Warrior Podcast. My name is Kai Ehnes and today we will be answering the question of Why do I care?
Great question. Periodically I check in with this notion. I mean really, does it matter? What does caring get you?
Should you stop caring if you don't get the validation you want from the outside world?
What if it's closer than that and your friends don't acknowledge you enough?
What if it's closer than that and your family does not meet your emotional needs?
Where are you supposed to get emotional comfort from to care?
How do you fulfill that yearning for belonging that eludes us so easily? It does make it easier on one hand not to care.
Does caring come from outside oneself?
Much of our life is spent interacting w the outside world. It makes sense that one would begin to look for answers there. Religion and institutional belief structures fall into that external category. There is even talk about a personal relationship w God but even that is external.
There is nothing wrong with seeking the answers outside of yourself but there is a block to fully experiencing what all these external relationships actually have to offer. What is that block? The block is that experiencing from the outside blocks your emotions. Im sure you have hear of being “emotionally available.” There you go. You are not available when you live in the external.
Hm…now what.
It is actually obvious but oh so hard to do. It starts inside of you. The real work is within you. The real battles even wars are within yourself. All the stacking of emotions and experiences create a veil that stops us from seeing that it all starts from within us.
It appears that to some degree we have the ability to choose. If that is so where do you mentally go to base your choices on? Some people love science, others love logic. Some just let things happen on a whim. Yet there are those who simply follow what the mainstream says to do. So how do you choose? Pro and con lists? Do you search online but unknowingly get results of Confirmation bias? Trial and error?
Is it possible that we have an internal guidance system? Is there a space inside each of us that knows truth? Most everything I have mentioned here comes from thought and the brain. Is there a better place to look?
My journey has taken me to the heart. It has been studied by the Heartmath institute extensively. Their studies show how integral the heart is in our lives. The heart has “brain cells” that live in an unbiased world. They propose something called heart-mind coherence which is to settle into your heart space and then to let the brain entrain itself to the heart’s rhythm. What emerges with this daily practice is a more relaxed human rhythm that allows for emotional availability and a fuller life experience.
The veil of doubt or right vs wrong, does not exist in the heart. The illusion does not reside there. The constant back and forth by the brain does not happen there.
You know when you almost instantly know something but then wait a bit and find yourself thinking about it and now questioning everything so much so that you can not take action or second guess everything you do? That is you living in the brain. This agitation is the nature of the brain because there are 3 levels of the brain functioning simultaneously to give you input.
Peace and calm is found in the heart. It is the place where that primal intuitive truth comes from. It is where you can have real relationships. It is the portal where love can enter but more so emanates from. That yearning for completion is settled there. It is birthplace of an Emotional Warrior.
When you come from the heart space you care. First you care about yourself. Not the ego version of YOU but the true human you. The care you give and show yourself is simply the nurturing of that treasure house called your heart. Once that fills up with energy...
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By Kai Ehneswww.kaiehnes.com
Ep13 Why Do I Care?
Hello and Welcome to the Way of the Emotional Warrior Podcast. My name is Kai Ehnes and today we will be answering the question of Why do I care?
Great question. Periodically I check in with this notion. I mean really, does it matter? What does caring get you?
Should you stop caring if you don't get the validation you want from the outside world?
What if it's closer than that and your friends don't acknowledge you enough?
What if it's closer than that and your family does not meet your emotional needs?
Where are you supposed to get emotional comfort from to care?
How do you fulfill that yearning for belonging that eludes us so easily? It does make it easier on one hand not to care.
Does caring come from outside oneself?
Much of our life is spent interacting w the outside world. It makes sense that one would begin to look for answers there. Religion and institutional belief structures fall into that external category. There is even talk about a personal relationship w God but even that is external.
There is nothing wrong with seeking the answers outside of yourself but there is a block to fully experiencing what all these external relationships actually have to offer. What is that block? The block is that experiencing from the outside blocks your emotions. Im sure you have hear of being “emotionally available.” There you go. You are not available when you live in the external.
Hm…now what.
It is actually obvious but oh so hard to do. It starts inside of you. The real work is within you. The real battles even wars are within yourself. All the stacking of emotions and experiences create a veil that stops us from seeing that it all starts from within us.
It appears that to some degree we have the ability to choose. If that is so where do you mentally go to base your choices on? Some people love science, others love logic. Some just let things happen on a whim. Yet there are those who simply follow what the mainstream says to do. So how do you choose? Pro and con lists? Do you search online but unknowingly get results of Confirmation bias? Trial and error?
Is it possible that we have an internal guidance system? Is there a space inside each of us that knows truth? Most everything I have mentioned here comes from thought and the brain. Is there a better place to look?
My journey has taken me to the heart. It has been studied by the Heartmath institute extensively. Their studies show how integral the heart is in our lives. The heart has “brain cells” that live in an unbiased world. They propose something called heart-mind coherence which is to settle into your heart space and then to let the brain entrain itself to the heart’s rhythm. What emerges with this daily practice is a more relaxed human rhythm that allows for emotional availability and a fuller life experience.
The veil of doubt or right vs wrong, does not exist in the heart. The illusion does not reside there. The constant back and forth by the brain does not happen there.
You know when you almost instantly know something but then wait a bit and find yourself thinking about it and now questioning everything so much so that you can not take action or second guess everything you do? That is you living in the brain. This agitation is the nature of the brain because there are 3 levels of the brain functioning simultaneously to give you input.
Peace and calm is found in the heart. It is the place where that primal intuitive truth comes from. It is where you can have real relationships. It is the portal where love can enter but more so emanates from. That yearning for completion is settled there. It is birthplace of an Emotional Warrior.
When you come from the heart space you care. First you care about yourself. Not the ego version of YOU but the true human you. The care you give and show yourself is simply the nurturing of that treasure house called your heart. Once that fills up with energy...