Why Do I Do This? with Johnny Lawrence

Why do we assume other people don't value us—even when there's no evidence they don't?

In this episode, I explore how our self-worth shapes the way we interpret other people's behaviour, and why insecurity can make us feel rejected, judged or unworthy when the reality may be very different.

I share practical tools including reality testing, positive interaction tracking and reparenting your inner child to help challenge old stories and build a healthier relationship with yourself.

Because the way you believe other people see you often begins with the way you see yourself.

Takeaways

👉 Your self-worth shapes how you interpret others.

👉 Assumptions aren't always facts.

👉 Reality testing can challenge rejection stories.

👉 Old wounds can shape your relationships today.

👉 Your past doesn't determine your worth.

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The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

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Why do we sometimes react in ways that don't even feel like us?

In this episode, I explore the ego and why it can have such a powerful influence over the way we think, behave and respond to change.

I unpack why the ego isn't necessarily something to destroy, but a protective part of us often driven by fear, insecurity and the need to feel safe. 

We explore why it becomes louder when we're vulnerable or going through significant change, and how self-awareness can help us recognise when we're reacting from fear rather than responding from who we really are.

Because your ego isn't your enemy.

But you need to know when it's in the driving seat.

Takeaways

👉 Your ego often acts from fear.

👉 The ego is a protection mechanism, not the enemy.

👉 Vulnerability challenges the ego and creates growth.

👉 Self-awareness helps you respond rather than react.

👉 Authenticity begins when you understand your ego.

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The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

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Why do we feel ashamed of parts of ourselves we shouldn't have to hide?

In this episode, I sit down with elite performance coach and trauma specialist Annalie Howling to explore shame, authenticity, trauma and the journey towards becoming unapologetically yourself.

We discuss the difference between shame and guilt, how childhood experiences can shape the way we see ourselves, and why societal expectations can leave us feeling like we're not enough.

Annalie also shares the journey behind her book Unapologetic, while we explore truth, relationships, self-acceptance, healing and why you don't need anyone else's approval to live an authentic life.

Because shame tells you to hide.

Healing gives you permission to be seen.

Takeaways

👉 Shame makes us question our worth.

👉 Shame and guilt are not the same.

👉 Childhood experiences can shape adult patterns.

👉 You don't need approval to be yourself.

👉 Healing means learning to live without shame.

To purchase your copy of Unapologetic by Annalie Howling, tap the link below.

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The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

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Why do I feel like a fraud when I'm actually succeeding?

In this episode, I get personal about imposter syndrome and why even successful, capable people can feel like they're not good enough.

I explore why imposter syndrome often appears when we're stepping outside our comfort zone, how fear can disguise itself as inadequacy, and why admiring the people around us can sometimes make us question ourselves.

But what if that feeling isn't proof that you're an impostor?

What if it's proof that you're evolving?

Takeaways

👉 Imposter syndrome is often a sign of growth.

👉 Fear can disguise itself as inadequacy.

👉 Comparing yourself to others can distort your self-worth.

👉 Discomfort often comes with pushing your limits.

👉 Don't let self-doubt stop you becoming who you're capable of being.

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The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

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Why do we keep doing things that we know are holding us back?

In this episode, I explore where self-sabotaging behaviours come from and why they may have less to do with wanting to fail, and more to do with wanting to feel safe, comfortable and familiar.

I unpack the cycle of self-sabotage, the role of fear and the inner critic, and why waiting for motivation can keep you stuck. 

Most importantly, I explore how self-awareness, accountability and making different decisions can help you break the pattern.

Because you don't need to feel ready to change.

You need to decide.

Takeaways

👉 Self-sabotage often comes from seeking comfort.

👉 Awareness helps you recognise your patterns.

👉 Ownership gives you the power to change.

👉 You don't need motivation to take action.

👉 Discomfort and decisions create change.

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The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

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Why can happiness, trust and connection feel so difficult when you've been through difficult experiences?

In this episode, I sit down with David Smith for a deeply honest conversation about trauma, emotional regulation, relationships, faith and personal growth.

We explore how our past experiences can shape the way we see ourselves, love, trust and even happiness, and why real healing requires more than simply understanding ourselves; it requires accountability, acceptance and changing our behaviour.

David also shares his experiences of military life, therapy and emotional struggles, while we discuss the role of faith, humility and compassion in navigating difficult periods.

Because personal growth isn't just about becoming better for yourself.

It's about becoming better for the people around you too.

Takeaways

👉 Trauma can shape how we experience emotions and relationships.

👉 Self-awareness helps us understand our patterns.

👉 Healing requires accountability and action.

👉 Trust takes time, safety and consistency to rebuild.

👉 Growth requires humility, acceptance and compassion.

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The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

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Why can something that happened years ago still affect the way you think, feel and live today?

In this episode, I open up about my own experience of childhood trauma and share five steps that have helped me understand, process and heal from what I've experienced.

I explore why acknowledging your experiences matters, how creating a safe and supportive environment can help you heal, and why regulating your nervous system is so important when you've spent years living in survival mode.

I also explore how we can begin to rewrite the stories we've carried about ourselves and, ultimately, integrate our past without allowing it to define our future.

Because healing doesn't mean pretending it didn't happen.

It means learning how to live differently because it did.

Takeaways

👉 Acknowledging your experiences is the first step to healing.

👉 Stability and safety create the foundation for recovery.

👉 Trauma can leave lasting emotional imprints.

👉 Your internal stories can be rewritten.

👉 Healing means integrating your past, not being defined by it.

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The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

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Why is it so easy to believe in everyone else, but so difficult to believe in yourself?

In this episode, I explore what self-confidence really is, and why it's not something you're simply born with.

True confidence comes from self-trust. And self-trust is built every time you keep a promise to yourself, take action despite discomfort, and live in alignment with your values.

I explore how small, consistent actions shape your identity, why discomfort is essential for growth, and how keeping commitments to yourself can gradually change the way you see yourself.

Because confidence isn't something you find.

It's something you earn through the way you live.

Takeaways

👉 Confidence comes from self-trust.

👉 Keeping promises builds confidence.

👉 Small actions create lasting change.

👉 Your actions shape your identity.

👉 Discomfort is part of becoming confident.

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Why do we find it so difficult to ask for help when we need it most?

In this episode, I sit down with Kitty Alicee, co-founder of Counterpoise Wellness, to talk openly about trauma, recovery, therapy and the challenges of asking for support.

Kitty shares her powerful journey through mental health struggles and recovery, and how her experiences inspired the creation of Counterpoise, a multidisciplinary approach to making emotional and mental health support more accessible.

We explore why therapy isn't one-size-fits-all, how to find the right therapist, why small steps matter in recovery, and why asking for help isn't a sign of weakness.

Because sometimes taking control of your mental health starts with admitting you don't have to do it alone.

Takeaways

👉 Asking for help is a sign of strength.

👉 Recovery often starts with small steps.

👉 Trauma can shape how we experience life.

👉 Therapy isn't one-size-fits-all.

👉 You don't have to face mental health struggles alone.

If you would like to get in touch with Counterpoise Wellness, I invite you to use the link below:

https://counterpoisewellness.com/ 

Also, the code 'JOHNNY10' is now live, which offers you 10% off all therapy sessions with us.

Lastly, you can follow them on Instagram here;

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The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

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In this episode, Johnny Lawrence explores the chaos of life and introduces the powerful E.A.T. Philosophy: Effort, Attitude, and Truth.

He highlights how focusing on these three elements can help us reclaim control and find our way through tumultuous times.

He discusses how effort acts as a pathway to achieving our goals, while the right attitude is essential for navigating challenges.

Additionally, aligning with our truth is crucial for fostering stability and trust in ourselves and our relationships.

Johnny inspires listeners to embrace these principles, empowering them to find clarity amidst the overwhelming.

Takeaways

👉 Life can feel overwhelming with too many or too few options.

👉 The E-A-T approach helps in focusing on solutions.

👉 Effort, attitude, and truth are the three things we control.

👉 Effort is about intention and consistency, not perfection.

👉 Your attitude influences the outcomes you achieve.

👉 Truth provides stability and trust in oneself.

👉 Asking the right questions can lead to clarity.

👉 Living authentically leads to emotional freedom.

👉 Self-awareness is key to managing overwhelm.

👉 Applying the E-A-T approach can empower individuals.

Website

www.johnnylawrence.co.uk

The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

https://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin 

The Self M.A.D.E. Course

https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course