Why 50/50 Doesn't Work: A New Model for Happier Relationships with Nate & Kaley Klemp

#43: Relationship experts Kaley and Nate Klemp, Ph.D., join Chris and his wife Amy to discuss how to create balance in a relationship. They explore why perfect equality is unrealistic, why you shouldn’t aim for fairness, how to share feedback with your partner without it turning into a fight, and how to sustainably maintain a life of radical generosity. 

Kaley and Nate Klemp are co-authors of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for A Happier, Stronger Relationship. It has been named as the Editor’s Choice pick by the New York Times. Kaley Klemp is a leadership development expert and Nate Klemp is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur who co-authored a New York Times Bestseller titled Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing. 

Full show notes at: https://allthehacks.com/8080-marriage-nate-kaley-klemp

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Connect with Kaley and Nate Klemp:

The 80/80 Marriage Book and Website

80/80 Marriage Instagram

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Full Show Notes

(00:11) Introduction: Kaley and Nate Klemp

(01:49) Transitioning from 80/20 to 80/80 Marriages

(04:14) The Challenge of Achieving Equal Relationships

(05:56) The Resentment Pitfall of Striving for Fairness

(09:08) Diverse Backgrounds, Diverse Marriage Experiences

(10:40) Embracing Radical Generosity in Your Marriage

(15:44) Weaving Appreciation into Routine

(17:21) Scheduling Appreciation: Authentic or Disingenuous?

(18:29) Making 80/80 Work Across Different Values

(22:41) Navigating Financial Partnership in Marriage

(26:51) Tools for Balancing Relationship Dynamics

(31:13) Evolving Responsibilities as Life Shifts

(33:52) Unconventional Outsourcing for Enhanced Family Life

(39:13) The Life Report Card Exercise: Intentional "Failure"

(40:33) Sustaining Radical Generosity Amidst Forgetfulness

(43:42) Managing Technology's Distraction in Partner Time

(50:37) Delaying for Increased Efficiency

(51:57) Aligning with Your Partner: Getting on the Same Page

(57:24) Unconventional Feedback Sharing with Your Partner

(1:01:16) Balancing Radical Generosity: Avoiding 100/100 Dynamic

(1:02:47) Crafting Meaningful Intimate Time Beyond Gimmicks

(1:08:07) Mindfulness for Open-Minded Relationships

(1:09:44) The Relationship Hack: Relationships as Tools

(1:10:19) Extending 80/80 Rule to Non-Romantic Relationships

(1:11:53) Connecting with Kaley and Nate Klemp Online

(1:12:43) Date Recommendations from Marriage Experts

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