Why Grief Makes You Feel Alone—Even in a Crowd Episode Description:

In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker explores the profound emotional experiences of loneliness, solitude, and isolation in grief. Sharon dives into the distinctions between these feelings and provides guidance on how to manage them effectively. Through personal insights and practical tools, she helps listeners embrace the balance between connection and introspection as they navigate their grief journey.

Key Points Discussed:

The Difference Between Loneliness, Solitude, and Isolation

• Loneliness: An emotional state where you feel disconnected, even when surrounded by others.
• Being Alone: A physical state where you are by yourself, often by choice.
• Isolation: A deeper form of solitude that can arise when solitude persists and leads to disconnection from others.

Why Grievers Retreat Into Solitude

• Many grievers isolate themselves because they need time to process their loss or because they feel unsupported by others.
• Hurtful comments, such as “Shouldn’t you be over this by now?” or “They wouldn’t want you to feel this way,” push grievers further into solitude.

When Solitude Becomes Harmful Isolation

• Prolonged isolation can lead to feelings of being forgotten, worthlessness, and intensified grief.
• Sharon explains how well-meaning but misguided advice can exacerbate a griever’s sense of disconnection, making them reluctant to share their feelings.

The Challenge of Reaching Out

• Grievers may struggle to ask for help or connection because they feel they’re burdening others.
• Sharon encourages listeners to try reconnecting with trusted friends or family members and not to shy away from expressing the need for companionship or support.

Technology and Social Media’s Role in Loneliness

• Social media can amplify feelings of loneliness when posts about grief go unnoticed or when grievers feel like their pain is dismissed.
• Sharon notes how online spaces can sometimes foster negative comparisons or further isolation.

The Healing Power of Connection

• Small steps, like asking for a hug or inviting someone over, can ease feelings of loneliness.
• Pets, such as dogs or cats, can provide comfort and companionship, though they are not replacements for human connection or the grief process.

Journal Questions for Reflection:

1. Do you feel more alone or lonely in your grief? What’s the difference for you?
2. Have you found yourself isolating? If so, why do you think that is?
3. What comments or actions from others have made you feel more disconnected?
4. Who in your life could you reach out to for support or companionship?
5. What activities or moments of solitude help you process your grief in a healthy way?

Conclusion:

Loneliness, solitude, and isolation are natural parts of grief, but they can become obstacles if left unaddressed. Sharon encourages listeners to identify their needs, seek connection, and balance introspection with support from others. Grief is a personal journey, but it doesn’t have to be walked alone.

Resources and Support:

• Join Grief Study Hall: Share your grief with others in a supportive environment every Tuesday at 1 PM CST.
• Four-Week Intensive on Grief: Process your grief deeply in this focused program.
• Grief Assessment: Schedule a personalized session with Sharon to better understand and navigate your unique grief.
• Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com
• Facebook Group: Join our community at Hope, Heal, Recover.
• Contact Us: Email Sharon at [email protected]

Thank you for listening! Join us next time as we continue to explore the emotional complexities of grief and healing.