The Lighten Up Project

Why High Performers Struggle with Intimacy — and How to Fix It


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Former professional Muay Thai fighter Hannah Dalby spent a decade in the ring before discovering that success in one area of life doesn't automatically translate to another. Now a somatic practitioner and founder of Human Integration, she helps high-achieving leaders release the unconscious triggers driving their relationship patterns — trading reactivity and disconnection for real presence, intimacy, and connection.

What You'll Hear

  • Why Hannah walked away from fighting for Australian titles to save the business she and her father built — and what she discovered in the space that fighting left behind
  • How Human Integration developed almost by accident: what started as physical recovery work began dissolving addictions, healing relationships, and launching new businesses
  • Why so many high performers succeed at work but struggle with intimacy — and how "doing" becomes a lifelong avoidance of feeling
  • The real difference between control and true emotional regulation, and why forced play is just another item on the to-do list
  • What actually happens in the body during a Human Integration session — and why getting the charge out matters more than understanding where it came from
  • The surprising overlap between Hannah's somatic work and Malcolm's improv training — both get people out of their heads and back into honest, unscripted presence
  • One simple pattern-interrupt you can use today: pause and ask your body what it's actually feeling
  • Hannah's answer to what true connection really requires — becoming present with yourself first

Resources Mentioned on this Episode

- Integration Gap Assessment — Hannah's free AI-powered tool to help you identify your relationship patterns; visit integratedaf.com

- The Jungle — Hannah's business website: thejungle.net.au

- Follow Hannah Dalby on Instagram for more on Human Integration and somatic work

- Learn more about Malcolm's work at the World Laughter Organization™

Featured Guest:

If you are a high performer, founder or leader who has built success in business but keeps finding yourself stuck in the same relationship patterns, reacting from triggers you cannot control, or feeling more disconnected at home the more you achieve at work, you will love this episode. Hannah Dalby is a Human Integration Facilitator, CEO of The Jungle, and former professional Muay Thai fighter who spent a decade competing professionally before developing Human Integration, a precise somatic process that identifies and releases the unconscious triggers driving relationship patterns at the root. A decade clean, she works with leaders and founders globally to help them experience the intimacy, safety and genuine connection that their external success has never been able to buy them.

Connect with Hannah:

Website: https://thejungle.net.au/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recoveryjungle/

https://www.instagram.com/hannah.dalby

https://www.instagram.com/intothejungle_podcast/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@IntoTheJungle-HannahDalby

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Meet the Host: Malcolm Grissom

Malcolm Grissom, affectionately known as "The Stand-up C.E.O.," is a team-building and employee engagement expert. Malcolm, an award-winning actor, comedian, International speaker, and best-selling author, masterfully blends humor, improv, and business acumen to enhance team dynamics and profitability. As a certified laughter leader, he leverages the power of positive psychology and his social work background to create engaging, results-driven experiences. Whether inspiring executives, strengthening teams, or energizing audiences, Malcolm’s unique approach fosters connection, creativity, and success. His ability to transform corporate culture with humor and insight makes him a sought-after speaker and consultant.

Follow Malcolm:

Website: malcolmgrissom.com

Facebook: facebook.com/malcolmgrissom

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/malcolmgrissom

Stressed, stuck, or leading on autopilot? It’s not a motivation problem—it’s a connection problem. Malcolm’s weekly virtual improv classes boost engagement, collaboration, and retention—all while having fun. Register now for a complimentary month: https://malcolmgrissom.thrivecart.com/everyday-encores/

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