Why is Everyone Yelling?

Nefertiti Austin is the mother of two, Professor and the author of memoir Motherhood so White: A Memoir of Race, Gender and Parenting in America. Her work has appeared in the “New York Times”, “Washington Post”, “Huffington Post”, “MUTHA”, “Gen Medium”, and many other publications.

Nefertiti adopted both of her children through the foster care system and she shares a little about that process in this episode but goes into further detail in her book. We also talk about her experience raising a black son as a single mother as well what parents of white children can do to come along side her and her children to be allies.

You’re going to want to go pick up her book “Motherhood so White” after this conversation!!

Photo Cred: Bobby Quillard

What we talked about:

6:50- Why she decided to write her memoir “Motherhood so White”

10:15- How she describes herself as a mom

12:30- Being raised by her grandparents and how that has changed her parenting

15:15- When she realized that she wanted to adopt and what the adoption process looked like

20:45- Meeting her son for the first time

22:15- The response that she got from family and friends when she decided to adopt as a single mother

25:30- What she does to ensure that her kids have male role models in their life and building a community around them

29:45- What it means to her to look back at her childhood and her parent’s involvement in the Black Power Movement

32:50- Her message to a single black woman who wants to adopt

34:45- Her hardest transition in motherhood

36:50- What parents of white children can do to walk alongside parents of black children and be supportive

41:50- Her hopes that her book brings about more resources for black mothers

45:15- The most important message that she hopes people take away from her book

47:05- End of podcast questions

Connect with Nefertiti: 

Nefertiti Austin

Motherhood So White 

Nefertiti on Instagram

Nefertiti on Twitter

Books we discussed: 

The Alchemist 

The Wisdom of Florence Scovel Shinn

A Mother for Choco

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Zoie Hoffman from Hoffman Tutoring Group joins the podcast today to talk about goal setting and tips for helping kids with homework without the chaos. If we’ve learned one thing this year it’s that having kids home for virtual school is a challenge. Zoie gives us some tangible ways we can help our kids have a positive experience with homework.

Zoie is also the mother of 7 month old twins so she shares a little bit about what it was like to become a first time Mom to TWO babies at once in the middle of a pandemic.

I hope you all enjoy this conversation with Zoie Hoffman!

What we talked about:

3:00- Introduction to Zoie and her passion for the work that she does

8:00- Giving birth to twins and moving during the pandemic

16:50- Setting goals with your kids

26:45- How Zoie evaluates what type of tutoring each child needs

31:05- When a third party tutor can be helpful for your child

32:35- When you should be checking your child’s grades and how to appropriately use online grade portals

37:15- Giving your kids responsibility and authority in their schoolwork

40:15- The benefits of being an online tutor during the pandemic and how the pandemic has affected her business in general

47:00- Avoiding stress and frustration while helping your kids with homework

54:25- The typical age that most students come into tutoring

55:40- End of podcast questions

Show Notes: 

The Happiest Kids in the World – How Dutch Parents help their kids and themselves

Shh! We Have a Plan – Chris Haughten

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Hoffman Tutoring Group

Hoffman Tutoring Group on Instagram 

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Ralphie Jacobs is a positive parenting expert and shares “life changing parenting truths” through her courses over at Simply on Purpose and through her wildly popular instagram. She is the mother of four and has a big passion for arming parents with powerful parenting skills that will change your home.

In this episode we talk about being a safe parent and what that means, families having different boundaries – there is no one right way, and the most important take away from this episode in my opinion is that we can’t “fix” our kids but we can take charge of our own behavior and that’s where it all starts.

I hope you learn something and enjoy this conversation! Please consider leaving us a rating and review on itunes or wherever you are listening if you do enjoy it and share it with a friend!

What we talked about:

4:30- Introduction to Ralphie and what she does with Simply on Purpose

8:20- What it means to be a “safe parent”

14:40- The reason why children might still misbehavior even with positive parenting implemented in the home

20:05- Doing the work now and implementing positive parenting now can make it easier for the future

23:50- Parenting teenagers

25:45- The changing role of a parent

27:45- Navigating a child’s disrespectful behavior

32:25- Parenting being all about the parent’s behavior

34:55- Why there’s been a shift in parenting in recent years

36:55- The importance of boundaries in parenting

41:30- When and how to introduce technology to children and setting boundaries around that

55:00- End of podcast questions

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Ralphie on Instagram

The Secrets of Happy Families

Where Happiness Lives

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Lisa Graft is a beautiful soul who will encourage you to be exactly who YOU were created to be unapologetically. I knew when I sat down with Lisa that I would leave the conversation filled up with energy to pursue motherhood the way I was meant to. We all have different skills and passions and are wired totally different and there is no room in our hearts and minds for comparing ourselves to any other parent who you might consider to be a “supermom” or dad.

We also talk about making sure we are continuing to pursue our passion and identity outside of motherhood which feels really important considering one day all of these kids are going to be out of the house and we’re going to need to know what we love outside of mothering or fathering them.

I hope you enjoy this conversation with Lisa as much as I did. Know that my life is different than yours and Lisa’s life is different with mine and yours and we all have our own stuff. In this episode Lisa and I light heartedly talk about some of the mundane “hard” and some of the “hard” hard.

What we talked about:

4:25- Introduction to Lisa Graft

9:40- Unmet expectations after childbirth and Lisa’s experience postpartum

15:15- Lisa’s experience with pre-partum depression

18:15- What Mother of the Year is

26:35- Guilt that may come up as a parent

35:20- Finding interests and passions outside of parenting and carving out time for yourself

38:30- Being open to ask for help

39:25- Finding those extra pockets of time in your schedule to do things that you enjoy

43:35- The community that Lisa is building and exciting things that she has coming up

48:20- End of podcast questions

Show Notes:

Lisa’s Website

I am Mother of the Year Podcast

I am Mother of the Year Facebook Group

Loving our Kids on Purpose – Danny Silk

Dear Boy – Paris Rosenthal

Dear Girl – Paris Rosenthal

Wherever you Go my Love will Find You – Nancy Tillman

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Dr. Christia Brown joins me on the show to talk about raising kids free of gender and ethnic bias.

She is an author, researcher, and professor of Developmental Psychology. She is also the Director of Center for Equality and Social Justice at the University of Kentucky. She earned her Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology at The University of Texas at Austin.

Her research focuses on how children develop gender and ethnic stereotypes, how children understand gender and ethnic discrimination, and how discrimination and stereotypes affect children and teens’ lives. As part of her research on  discrimination, she also examines the perpetration and acceptance of sexual harassment and how children understand politics, public policies, and societal inequalities.

She is the author of Parenting Beyond Pink and Blue, and co-edited the Wiley Handbook of Group Processes in Children and Adolescents. She has a forthcoming book, Unraveling Bias: How Prejudice Has Shaped Children for Generations and How to Break the Cycle.

What we talked about:

3:10: When Dr. Christia Brown began studying gender stereotypes

6:55- How when we treat girls and boys differently based on gender, their brain actually develops differently

17:25- The importance of not separating boys and girls

23:05- Body image issues in young girls and where it can stem from

28:40- What we can do for young kids to ensure they don’t take on gender stereotypes

35:45- Teaching kids at a young age to be anti-racist

38:10- The importance of talking with kids often and asking them what stereotypes they see

47:20- Respectfully correcting relatives or others close to the child when they encourage gender stereotypes

51:05- End of podcast questions

Show Notes:

Parenting Beyond Pink and Blue

Be the Bridge

Teaching Tolerance

Embrace Race

The Hate You Give

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