Why is it So Hard?

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Dating apps were supposed to make meeting people easier. Instead, somehow we ended up with six unanswered texts, unsolicited photos, forced sexual tension, and people acting like a match came with unlimited access to your time, attention, and body.

This week, Lizzie and Nash dig into why dating apps make otherwise reasonable people lose their damn minds. They talk about the pressure guys feel to stand out, response-time anxiety, the difference between attraction and actual chemistry, and why moving fast isn’t the problem—moving faster than the other person is. Lizzie shares a dating experience with a woman that went from exciting to exhausting in less than two days, and they get into bisexuality, dating women as a woman, kink, sexual compatibility, consent, unsolicited pics, and the strange way constant messaging can manufacture intimacy before you’ve even met. 

And because this is Why Is It So Hard?, they also bring it back to ENM: respecting existing relationships, handling boundaries without turning them into a crisis, and remembering that being sex-positive, kinky, bisexual, or non-monogamous does not make someone universally available. A match means curiosity. It does not mean access. 

Maybe just say hello first.

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Dealing with society if you are ENM can be a tough, especially when others have intention of listening or opening their mind. 

Lizzie and Nash tackle some of the obstacles and "what if" situations on this episode!

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One kiss that felt like lightning. Compersion on fire. Then the most respectful “hugs only” text the next morning.

We unpack the whiplash, next-day panic, clean boundaries, and why a polite no doesn’t cancel the hot yes.

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Stop pretending sex is always a cinematic masterpiece. This week, Lizzie and Nash are ditching the dignity to dive into the full-body, face-reddening mistakes nobody wants to admit.

From the vault of listener-submitted chaos:

• "Nacho Tits": Why you should always check the label on the "whipped cream" can.

• The "Sex Intern": How to handle a threesome when you realize you're just the lighting technician.

• Siri Cockblocks: When Apple’s fall detection ruins the roleplay.

• The "Man Gravy" PSA: A list of words that should be banned from the bedroom forever.

Whether you've headbutted a headboard or "sneeze-orgasmed," this episode is your reminder that awkward sex is still sex.

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Menopause and perimenopause don’t “ruin” relationships. They expose the ones built on autopilot, entitlement, and zero emotional skill. In this Nash-only solo, I’m talking straight to the guys: what’s actually changing, why you’re probably taking it personally, and how to stop turning your partner’s body into your crisis.

We get into the real stuff: sleep getting wrecked, mood shifts, why pressure kills desire, why comfort matters more than your ego, and how resentment and the mental load can quietly torch intimacy. We also talk about practical, medically responsible options (yes, lube counts, stop being fragile), when it’s time to talk to a clinician, and how to keep sex hot without making it feel like homework.

No soft-focus lectures. Just a blunt relationship reality check for men who want to stay connected and keep the heat alive through this chapter.

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This isn’t your grandma’s holiday special.

It’s December 23rd, the whipped cream’s already warm, the mistletoe’s hanging low, and Lizzie & Nash are going all in on why holiday sex hits harder, dirtier, and more necessary than ever.

We’re talking:
– Thighs trembling under Christmas lights
– Tinsel in places that should not sparkle
– Coffee-fueled couch rides, candy cane weaponry, and orgasmic exhale
– Why sex in December isn’t just relief — it’s rebellion

Plus: glitter in your ass, cleanup sex, listener emails from the edge, and the unholy power of “don’t move.”

This is the gift that leaves bruises.

Listen now.

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Initiating sex shouldn’t feel like defusing a bomb, but for most couples, it does. In this brutally honest, funny, and insanely hot episode, Lizzie & Nash rip apart the myths around “waiting for the right moment” and show you why the spark dies when nobody makes a move.

They dig into rejection fear, gender-role nonsense, long-term desire, and how to initiate without sounding like an awkward Victorian ghost. Plus: real listener fantasies that prove boldness is a damn turn-on.

Short version?
Stop waiting for magic.
Start creating heat.

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In this brutally honest, hilarious deep dive, Lizzie and Nash unpack one of the most uncomfortable truths of modern love: what does happiness actually look like when your partner is dating someone else? Spoiler — it’s not hearts, rainbows, or BuzzFeed-level quizzes. It’s emotional cardio, messy self-awareness, and an ongoing practice in radical honesty (with a side of fries).

From the first date jitters to jealousy spirals, from rebuilding trust after dumb rules to figuring out what “privacy” really means, they take you inside their ethically non-monogamous marriage with unfiltered humor and zero pretense. You’ll laugh, cringe, maybe cry, and definitely re-think everything you’ve been told about love, ownership, and emotional security.

Featuring listener emails that hit way too close to home, this episode is for anyone who’s ever asked: Could I handle that?The answer? Maybe. But only if you’re willing to talk, laugh, and do the emotional squats.

Grab your partner, your snack of choice, and your sense of humor — this is Why Is It So Hard at its raw, real, relationship-redefining best.

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Lizzie and Nash break down what ethical non-monogamy really means—beyond the rumors and the stereotypes. They dig into communication, trust, jealousy, and the difference between freedom and chaos. It’s honest, funny, and real: a conversation about love without ownership and desire without shame.

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Toys don’t ruin the moment—they amplify it.

In this raw, no-BS episode, Lizzie and Nash go deep on the art of introducing sex toys into partnered play without making it awkward, clinical, or cringe. They break down the myths, tackle insecurities, and show you how toys can become your dirty little secret weapon for next-level pleasure.

Expect hot takes, personal confessions, dirty laughs, and straight-up truth bombs about how to buzz, thrust, and vibe without losing connection.

Because the only thing more satisfying than an orgasm... is one that rocks both your bodies.

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