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Why It’s So Hard to Move On , And It’s Not Your Fault


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This episode is based on research from social psychology and neuroscience, including studies by Helen Fisher on romantic rejection, Eisenberger on social pain, and research on attachment, rumination, and self-concept after breakups

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  • Neural correlates of romantic love and rejection
    Fisher, H. E., Brown, L. L., Aron, A., Strong, G., & Mashek, D. (2010).
    Reward, addiction, and emotion regulation systems associated with rejection in love.
    → Shows brain activation similar to addiction and craving after breakup.
  • Neural pathways for social and physical pain overlap
    Eisenberger, N. I. (2011).
    The neural bases of social pain: Evidence for shared representations with physical pain.
    → Explains why heartbreak literally “hurts.”
  • Attachment insecurity and breakup adjustment
    (2023 study on attachment, coping, and breakup distress)
    → Shows anxious/avoidant attachment → more depression/anxiety after breakup.
  • Self-concept clarity after romantic breakup
    Slotter, E. B., Gardner, W. L., & Finkel, E. J. (2010).
    Who am I without you? The influence of romantic breakup on the self-concept.
    → Breakups reduce identity clarity → more emotional distress.
  • Rumination and psychological distress after breakup
    Nolen-Hoeksema, S. (2000+) + later breakup studies
    → Repetitive thinking increases depression and slows recovery.
  • Facebook surveillance and breakup recovery
    Marshall, T. C. (2012).
    Facebook surveillance of former romantic partners.
    → Checking ex online = more distress, less healing.
  • Self-compassion and emotional recovery after separation
    Sbarra, D. A., et al.
    → Self-compassion predicts better emotional adjustment after breakup.
  • Expressive writing after breakup study
    Lewandowski, G. W. (2009)
    → Writing focused on growth/meaning helps recovery.

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