Why do marriages really fail? In this raw and honest episode, two divorced Gen X dads break down the real reasons relationships fall apart—from communication breakdowns to misunderstood love languages and the silent weight of emotional disconnection. With a mix of humor, experience, and vulnerability, we explore the most common mistakes men and women make in marriage, what we wish we had done differently, and how fatherhood, divorce, and healing have reshaped our views on love and partnership. Whether you're a husband, ex-husband, or just trying to understand the male perspective, this conversation sheds light on the truth behind failed marriages and offers insight for anyone seeking healthier relationships. Episode 2 of Marriage, Partnership and How to Survive!

00:00 - Introduction

04:13 - What are common mistakes in a marriage - COMMUNICATION

21:36 - No More Mister Nice Guy - taking advantage of your partners kindness.

23:05 - Prioritizing - Self, Partner, Kids

31:38 - Neglecting the US TIME

39:31 - Active Listening

41:33 - Conclusion

Guide to Active Listening

1. Pay Attention: Give your undivided attention: Focus on the speaker, minimize distractions, and make eye contact. Recognize nonverbal cues: Body language and tone of voice can provide valuable insights. Put aside your own thoughts and prepare for your response: Avoid formulating your reply while the other person is speaking.

2. Show That You're Listening: Use nonverbal cues: Nodding, smiling, and maintaining an open posture demonstrate engagement. Provide verbal cues: Use phrases like "uh-huh," "yes," or "I see" to encourage the speaker to continue. Reflect back what you've heard: Paraphrasing or summarizing helps ensure understanding and shows you're actively listening.

3. Provide Feedback: Ask clarifying questions: Don't hesitate to ask for more information or explanation if needed. Paraphrase to confirm understanding: Rephrase what you've heard to ensure you and the speaker are on the same page. Summarize periodically: Periodically summarizing the key points of the conversation can help track progress and ensure alignment.

4. Defer Judgment: Avoid interrupting: Allow the speaker to finish their thoughts before offering your own. Don't interrupt with counterarguments: Refrain from launching into your own perspective before fully understanding the speaker's.

5. Respond Appropriately: Be honest and open in your responses: Share your thoughts and feelings constructively. Avoid being judgmental or critical: Focus on understanding and respect the speaker's perspective. Offer support and encouragement: Create a safe space for the speaker to share their thoughts and feelings.