In this honest and humorous episode from the Gen X dads of 2 Dads GenX Edition, we dive into the real challenges of parenting through divorce, with a focus on putting the kids first and leaving the drama behind. From navigating tough custody conversations to staying present for your children during emotional transitions, we share raw stories, lessons learned, and practical tips every father—and co-parent—can use. Whether you're newly separated, deep in the divorce process, or supporting someone who is, this video offers insight into the male perspective with empathy, laughter, and zero sugarcoating. Join us as we explore how to be a steady, loving parent in the storm, and why your kids deserve nothing less.
00:00 - Introduction
04:16 - Open and honest communication with you children
18:54 - Maintain a routine and stability with collaborative effort with both parents
28:50 - Build that relationship with your kids, fostering a healthy relationship and trust.
42:17 - Self Care as a Parent
55:46 - Conclusion
Helping children transition through divorce.
Navigating a divorce with children is a challenging experience, but prioritizing their well-being throughout the process can significantly ease their adjustment. Here are key strategies to support children through this transition:
1. Open communication Explain the situation clearly and simply, based on the child's age and maturity. Reassure them that the divorce is not their fault and that both parents will continue to love and care for them. Encourage them to express their feelings, whether sadness, anger, confusion, or worry. Listen actively and validate their emotions, letting them know their feelings are normal and acceptable. Be honest about changes in living arrangements and routines, but avoid unnecessary details or blaming the other parent.
2. Maintain stability and routines Establish consistent routines and expectations across both households. This helps children feel secure and reduces anxiety during a time of change. Prioritize maintaining familiarity in their lives as much as possible, such as keeping them in the same school and extracurricular activities. Develop a clear and consistent parenting plan that outlines schedules, routines, and rules for both homes.
3. Foster a positive co-parenting relationship Work collaboratively with your ex-spouse to prioritize your children's needs. Focus on what's best for the children, not your past relationship issues. Communicate respectfully and calmly, ideally using written methods like emails or co-parenting apps to avoid conflict in front of the children. Present a united front to the children on important decisions and rules, even if you disagree privately. Avoid speaking negatively about the other parent in front of your children.
4. Seek professional support if needed Don't hesitate to seek professional help for yourself and your children if they are struggling significantly with the transition. Counseling or therapy can provide tools and strategies for coping with emotions, building resilience, and navigating the new family dynamics. Consider family therapy or co-parenting counseling to improve communication and cooperation between co-parents.
5. Be patient and reassuring Remind children often that you love them unconditionally and that the divorce is not their fault. Be patient with their emotional ups and downs. Healing takes time, and it's normal for them to experience a range of emotions as they adjust. Model healthy coping mechanisms for your own emotions, showing your children how to deal with sadness, anger, or frustration in a constructive way.
By focusing on these strategies, you can help your children navigate the emotional challenges of divorce and create a supportive environment where they can feel loved, secure, and resilient throughout the transition.
