In this episode of 2 Dads Gen X Edition, we dive into the raw and hilarious reality of dating after divorce, rejection, and rebuilding your confidence as a single individual. “Shot Down but Not Out: Dating Confidence After Rejection” takes an honest look at what it means to put yourself back out there, deal with the sting of being turned down, and still find the courage to keep going. From the struggles of online dating apps to the awkward first dates, we bring the humor, honesty, and real talk that every MAN can relate to. Whether you’re navigating loneliness, starting over after a breakup, or just trying to figure out how to date again without losing your sanity, this conversation will remind you that you’re not alone. Women who want a better understanding of what men really face in the dating world will also gain valuable insight into the male perspective.
00:00 - Introduction 
05:34 - Rejection as a Teenager vs Now 
18:38 - Cal Weaver Transformation 
28:03 - Mentally Switching from Fuckboy/Jumpgirl to wanting something meaningful. 
35:38 - Once you get over being reject, life gets easier. 
40:27 - Finding your puzzle piece! 
44:54 - Conclusion 
Rebuilding confidence to date again—especially after a breakup, divorce, or long pause—takes time, but it’s absolutely possible. Here are some practical steps you can take: 
1.Work on yourself first – Focus on your health, hobbies, and passions. When you feel good about who you are, that energy naturally shows up when dating. 
2.Shift your mindset – Instead of thinking, “I need to impress them,” think, “Do they align with me?” That small switch takes pressure off and builds self-assurance. 
3.Practice small wins – Start by talking to people casually (at the gym, coffee shop, or work) to get comfortable being social again. Confidence builds through repetition. 
4.Learn from the past, don’t live in it – Take the lessons from your last relationship but don’t carry the baggage forward. You’re not the same person you were back then. 
5.Update your look and vibe – A small style change, haircut, or fitness routine can make a big impact on how you feel. 
6.Surround yourself with support – Good friends who encourage and uplift you help reinforce confidence. 
7.Take baby steps – Don’t jump straight into serious dating if you’re not ready. Try casual coffee meetups or apps where conversation comes first. 
8.Be kind to yourself – Confidence doesn’t come from perfection; it comes from accepting your flaws and still showing up as you are.
Crazy, Stupid, Love - Cal (Steve Carell) and Emily have the perfect life together living the American dream...until Emily asks for a divorce. Now Cal has to navigate the single scene with a little help from his professional bachelor friend Jacob (Ryan Gosling). 1 h 53 min 2011 PG-13