Anger is one of the most visible emotions men are "allowed" to have.

In this episode, we unpack how anger often masks deeper emotions like depression, overwhelm, fear, and low self-esteem. Using a listener letter, we explore why so many men say “I’m not angry, I’m just frustrated,” while the people around them experience something very different.

We dive into:

• The difference between anger vs. frustration
• Why men feel a false sense of urgency when their character is questioned
• How performance, perfectionism and pressure of being a provider fuel emotional shutdown
• Why anger becomes a tool for control and protection
• How trauma teaches men to survive through reactivity
• What it looks like to build a strong sense of self without defensiveness

This episode isn’t about excusing harmful behavior, but about understanding it well enough to change it.

If you’ve ever been told you have an “anger problem,” felt constantly misunderstood, or noticed that your emotions only show up as irritation or rage, this conversation is for you.