Anger is one of the most visible emotions men are "allowed" to have.

In this episode, we unpack how anger often masks deeper emotions like depression, overwhelm, fear, and low self-esteem. Using a listener letter, we explore why so many men say “I’m not angry, I’m just frustrated,” while the people around them experience something very different.

We dive into:

• The difference between anger vs. frustration
• Why men feel a false sense of urgency when their character is questioned
• How performance, perfectionism and pressure of being a provider fuel emotional shutdown
• Why anger becomes a tool for control and protection
• How trauma teaches men to survive through reactivity
• What it looks like to build a strong sense of self without defensiveness

This episode isn’t about excusing harmful behavior, but about understanding it well enough to change it.

If you’ve ever been told you have an “anger problem,” felt constantly misunderstood, or noticed that your emotions only show up as irritation or rage, this conversation is for you.

When men shut down, blow up, or run from their feelings altogether, it isn’t just a personal issue, it’s a public health concern.

In this extended trailer for Season 2, we pull back the curtain on how men hide low self-esteem and how it often shows up as anger, avoidance, productivity, and escape. 

This season explores how those patterns don’t stay contained within the individual, they spill into relationships, families, workplaces, and entire communities. We take a deep dive into anger as a mask, numbness as survival, cultural pressure to “hold it together,” and the loneliness that hides in plain sight.

If Season 1 was about starting the conversation, Season 2 is about naming what men are really carrying and learning how to set it down, for their own well-being and for the people who love them.

What happens when the people who raised you never learned how to show up emotionally?

In our season 1 finale, we open up about our own relationships with our parents (spoiler alert: it's complicated), and the grief, the guilt, and the surprising relief that can come with finally choosing yourself.

We dive into the rise of no-contact relationships among young adults, the impact of emotionally immature parents, and what it means to demand healthy boundaries when your family never modeled them. We explore the spectrum of differentiation (from helicopter parenting and enmeshment to complete cutoff) and how to find peace somewhere in between whether you're low-contact, still going home for the holidays, or not speaking at all.

We unpack what it means to reparent your inner child, navigate family estrangement, and grieve a parent who is still alive… and still unable to meet you where you are. This conversation is for anyone who's ever left a family gathering and wondered, "maybe I'm not the problem?"

Resources:

• Gentle Parenting Reimagined by Dr. Paul Sunseri
• Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

This episode closes out our relationship series. We’ll be back January 2026 with a Season 2 deep-dive on covert male depression. In the meantime, catch up on episodes you missed, share this season with someone who needs it, and join the conversation over on TikTok @broingpains.

The "perfect" family having a mom, dad, 2.5 kids, and a white picket fence was basically a post-WWII fantasy. Today, most families look a lot more blended than nuclear, and that comes with a unique mix of beauty and chaos.

This episode, we unpack what makes blended families both challenging and deeply human. From step-parent boundaries and gendered expectations around discipline to the hidden resilience that comes from growing up in complex family systems, this episode dives into the learning and grief that shape modern families.

We even break down Structural Family Therapy and read a heartfelt listener letter from a stepdad navigating what it means to be a “real” father.

Is the kink community part of the non-heteronormative world, or its own lane entirely? 

This week, we unpack what counts as “sexual deviance,” why ethical non-monogamy isn’t just a free-for-all, and how the Six Pillars of Polysecurity could actually save any relationship.

Featuring Jessica Fern’s Polysecure, the Gottmans’ Sound Relationship House Theory, and one big question: are you really committed to your partner, or just staying faithful out of security?

What do healthy friendships look like as an adult? In this episode, we dive into the world of friendship: why it gets harder to make new friends as we age, what healthy connection actually looks like, and how genuine curiosity can transform the way friends show up for each other.

We also unpack the male loneliness epidemic, and how societal expectations make it harder for men to build & sustain community.

Backed by insights from The Top Five Regrets of the Dying and The Good Life (the world’s longest study on happiness), we explore how friendship isn’t just nice to have, it’s essential for a long, happy, healthy life.

Top 5 Regrets of the Dying: https://bronnieware.com/regrets-of-the-dying/

The Good Life: https://the-good-life-book.com/

This episode is part droppin’ gems, part toolkit, and all about communication. 

We dive into the history of attachment styles and how our earliest bonds with our primary caregivers shape the way we connect with romantic partners today. 

We wrestle with the age-old debate: should you go to bed angry or stay up to hash it out? Plus, we explore Imago couples therapy, the hot take that men are more “efficient” communicators than women, and whether ghosting is avoidance or straight-up emotional immaturity.

Imago Couples Therapy: https://imagoworks.com/the-imago-dialogue/steps/

Every couple has disagreements, but the real issue isn't money, chores, or snooping. Underneath it all is one core question: do we share the same values?

In this episode, we break down the most common relationship struggles. From household roles and money dynamics to privacy vs. trust, they all tie back to values. Using tools like the Gottmans’ “Love Maps,” we explore how couples can stay curious about each other, navigate differences, and figure out what’s a solvable conflict vs. what’s a non-negotiable.

If you’ve ever wondered, “is this a deal-breaker, or just something we can work through?”…this episode is for you.

Infidelity isn’t just about broken vows, it’s about culture, psychology, and the messy ways we define love and commitment.

In this episode, we dive deep into the uncomfortable but necessary conversation about cheating. From Carlos’ childhood where infidelity was normalized, to the psychology of why men cheat, we’re pulling back the curtain on one of the most taboo relationship topics out there.

We explore:

• Is emotional cheating worse than physical cheating?
• How wealth, power, and machismo shape infidelity
• The hidden psychology of unmet needs and betrayal
• Insights from The State of Affairs by Esther Perel and Eight Dates by John Gottman
• The big question: is sex a “need”… or just a desire?

If you’ve ever questioned what counts as cheating, why it happens, or whether relationships can truly recover, this episode will challenge what you thought you knew about love and loyalty.

Watch Esther Perel’s full TED Talk on infidelity here: https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved

Is divorce really the worst-case scenario—or is staying in the wrong relationship worse? 

In this episode, we explore the cultural, religious, and emotional weight of divorce. From “starter marriages” to the myth of staying together for the kids, we unpack why the shame surrounding divorce often does more harm than good. 

We also talk about the viral Ariana Grande & Cynthia Erivo “holding space” moment, the effects of calling it quits and why we need to stop pretending it's not a big deal.

For those curious about how childhood experiences shape our beliefs about relationships, we introduce the ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences quiz) — a simple but powerful tool to better understand the long-term effects of trauma, including how we approach love, conflict, and letting go. 

Take the ACE quiz here: https://americanspcc.org/take-the-aces-quiz/