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You Don't Need More Time. You Need More Life. 

How often do we tell ourselves we'll do it someday?

When life settles down. When the kids are older. When we have more money. When work isn't so busy. When we feel ready.

The problem is, while we're waiting for someday, life is happening now.

In this episode, I'm talking about how easily we can slip into autopilot — moving through the days, fulfilling all the roles we carry as parents, partners, friends, professionals and carers, while somewhere along the way becoming a backseat passenger in our own lives.

And somehow, without us even noticing, martyrdom ends up behind the wheel.

I want to help you change that.

I'm introducing you to something I've created called The More Life List™ — not a bucket list of things to do before you die, but a reminder of all the things you're still here to live.

It's completely free to create at whymindsetmatters.com. There are five simple prompts, delivered one at a time, and when you're finished you'll receive your own personalised More Life List™ to download, keep or share.

And importantly, I'm not asking you to hand over your details to get it. No email gate. No phone number. No catch. I simply want you to take a couple of minutes to stop and ask yourself what you actually want from this one red-hot crack at life.

But creating the list is only the beginning.

I'm also introducing the 30-Day More Life Challenge™ inside my free Resilience Mindset online community on Skool — 30 days of simple, practical and implementable actions designed to help you step out of autopilot, reclaim your agency, bring a little more main-character energy to your own life and intentionally put more life into the days you already have.

Because we spend so much time trying to add more days to our lives.

Maybe we need to spend a little more time asking:

How much life am I putting into my days?

You don't need to completely change your life.

You don't need to wait until Monday.

You don't need everything to be perfect.

And you certainly don't need to wait for your life to fall apart before you decide to truly live it.

All we ever really have is now.

So perhaps the question isn't “How do I find more time?”

Perhaps it's:

What am I still saying “someday” about — and what would happen if I started today?

Create your free More Life List™ at whymindsetmatters.com, then come and join me inside the free Resilience Mindset community on Skool for the 30-Day More Life Challenge™. https://www.skool.com/why-mindset-matters-6748

You don't need more time. You need more life.

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A Little Life Update & 2 FREE Gifts for YOU!

In this episode, I’m sharing a little of what has been happening behind the scenes—and two free gifts I’ve created for you.

Why Mindset Matters has always been about more than simply thinking positively. It is about understanding the power of our thoughts, learning how to meet ourselves honestly in the moments that change us, and choosing to live intentionally alongside everything life has asked us to carry.

I know that listening to a podcast can sometimes feel like sitting on the other side of a conversation, so I wanted to create a space where that conversation could continue—a place where we could connect, learn, reflect and grow together.

My Why Mindset Matters online community is completely free to join. Inside, you will find conversations, resources, workshops and support designed to help you strengthen your mindset, reconnect with yourself and create more life in your days.

As my first gift to you, members of the community can access the complete audiobook of Resilience After Great Loss: Learning to Live and Grieve Simultaneously for free. You will find it inside the Classroom section of the community, divided into individual chapters so you can listen at your own pace and return to the parts you need most.

My second gift is a complimentary 30-minute one-to-one coaching session with me for the first five people who reach out and tell me they heard about it through this podcast episode.

This session is an opportunity for us to slow things down, look at what may be keeping you stuck and create some clarity around what you need next. There is no obligation—just a genuine opportunity to experience what it feels like to be supported, seen and coached by me.

Whether you are moving through grief, rebuilding after something that changed you, feeling disconnected from yourself, or simply know you are ready to live with greater intention, I would love to welcome you into this space.

Join the free Why Mindset Matters community:
https://www.skool.com/why-mindset-matters-6748

Connect with me or claim one of the five complimentary coaching sessions on Instagram:
@eslanalower

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When you reach out, make sure you mention that you heard about the session through the podcast.

Thank you for listening, for being part of this journey and for allowing me the privilege of being part of yours.

Here’s to adding more life to our days—because all we ever really have is now.

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The GRACE Method Is Here | Announcing My Resilience Mindset Workshop

In today’s episode, I’m sharing something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes—and something I’m incredibly proud to finally announce.

My Resilience Mindset Workshop is officially here.

Born from lived experience, deep reflection, and years of personal healing and integration, this workshop brings together everything I teach through my GRACE framework—a resilience mindset approach designed to help you navigate grief, loss, trauma, and life’s inevitable challenges with greater awareness, intention, and trust in yourself.

This is not about avoiding pain or pretending life hasn’t changed you.

It’s about learning how to live and grieve simultaneously.

To understand the untapped resilience you already carry.

To reclaim your story, move forward with intention, and recognise that while life may knock you off your feet… you have the capacity to rise again.

Inside this episode, I share:
• Why I created this workshop after losing my daughter, Rylee
• The belief that resilience is something we all have access to
• Why I intentionally priced this workshop for affordability—not as a reflection of its value, but to make it accessible
• Why this self-paced online format allows anyone, anywhere in the world to access this work
• The importance of immersion and personal responsibility in creating transformation
• Why I waited until I truly embodied the resilience I teach before launching it

The GRACE Method includes:
• Ground in Gratitude
• Reclaim Your Story
• Allow Duality
• Create Intentional Living
• Embody Resilience

Join the free Resilience Mindset Community
Whether or not you plan to enrol in the workshop, you’re warmly invited to join my free Resilience Mindset community on Skool—a space for connection, support, and ongoing conversations around healing, grief, mindset, and growth.

This is also where the workshop is hosted, and where the upcoming audio version of my book, Resilience After Great Loss: Learning to Live and Grieve Simultaneously, will be available.

Join here: https://www.skool.com/why-mindset-matters-6748

Interested in attending in person?
A waitlist is now forming for future GRACE retreats and in-person workshop experiences.

If you’d like to be kept updated, please reach out via the Skool community or connect with me on Instagram.

Thank you for being here.
Thank you for trusting me with your time.
And thank you for continuing to choose yourself—even when life feels heavy.

I truly believe everything in life is a lesson or a gift… sometimes both.

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Season 3 Episode 1 : Self-Sabotage, Safety & Saying Yes to Life

In the very first episode of Season Three of Why Mindset Matters, I open up about something I’ve realised I’ve done for most of my adult life — pulling back from the very things I say that I want.

Recording from beautiful Tasmania, I share the story of almost cancelling this trip and the pattern of self-sabotage, fear, and nervous system protection that showed up in the lead-up. What I’ve come to understand is that sometimes it’s not that something is wrong or out of alignment — it’s that our nervous system mistakes the unfamiliar for unsafe.

After years of living in fight-or-flight through childhood trauma, grief, loss, and survival mode, I now have the awareness to recognise when fear is trying to disguise itself as logic. This episode is about what happens when we stop letting old wounds dictate our future and start choosing expansion, joy, connection, and life anyway.

I talk about solo travel, healing through therapy and neurofeedback, learning to embody resilience instead of just teaching it, and the importance of questioning the narratives we adopt about safety, love, happiness, and what we believe we deserve.

If you’ve ever found yourself sabotaging opportunities, doubting yourself right before something beautiful, or talking yourself out of the very life you desire, this episode is for you.

Because sometimes the only thing standing between us and the life we want… is the story we tell ourselves right before we step into it.

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Season 2: Episode 8 - Unfiltered Grief: Why We Need to Stop Censoring the Conversation

This episode comes straight from the heart. I’m diving into a topic that’s been weighing on me for a little while — the way we’ve started to censor how we talk about grief, loss, and especially suicide. If we are not careful it will become less about connection and more about correctness. And the truth is, when we start policing language, we risk silencing the people who are already hurting the most.

I talk about how phrases like “committed suicide” or even “trigger warning” have become taboo — and how that kind of censorship often comes from people outside the arena, not those living in it. When I’m forced to stop and think about finding the “right” words, it disconnects me from the raw, authentic truth of my experience — and that’s exactly what helps others feel less alone.

This episode is about bringing the humanity back to the conversation. It’s about letting grief be messy, real, and unfiltered — because pretending it’s anything else only adds to the pain.

Because when we speak truth — even when it’s uncomfortable — we make it safe for others to do the same.

If this conversation resonates with you I’d love to invite you into my free online community — Why Mindset Matters on Skool — a space where like-minded souls come together to grow, heal, and speak openly.
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And if my work, podcast, or book has positively impacted you or someone you love, it would mean the world if you’d take a moment to share your experience. Your feedback is greatly appreciated
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Season 2 : Episode 7 - Go ALL IN on every day!

In this very special episode — my first ever guest interview — I sit down with Darcy from DRC Fit. Darcy’s story is one of resilience, strength, and the power of mindset. We talk about the tools and beliefs that have carried him through recovery from drug addiction and helped him keep moving forward after the heartbreaking loss of his mum to cancer. Darcy shares how he weaves mindset into everything he does, and why he sees it as the pivotal piece of any real success. This conversation is raw, honest, and full of wisdom about what it truly means to rise above challenges and keep showing up for yourself and your life.

If this conversation resonates with you I’d love to invite you into my free online community — Why Mindset Matters on Skool — a space where like-minded souls come together to grow, heal, and speak openly.
👉  https://www.skool.com/why-mindset-matters-6748

And if my work, podcast, or book has positively impacted you or someone you love, it would mean the world if you’d take a moment to share your experience. Your feedback is greatly appreciated
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Season 2 Episode 6: When You Just Don’t Have It In You

 In this episode, I open up about the days when you just don’t have it in you — when the weight of it all feels like too much and even the smallest steps forward feel impossible. I talk about my own experiences with emotional overwhelm, grief, and the pressure to keep showing up when your body and heart are asking you to slow down.

I share how learning to truly listen to my body, honour my nervous system, and give myself permission to pause became powerful parts of my healing journey. This conversation is about vulnerability, self-compassion, and remembering that sometimes the most productive thing we can do is rest.

From breakdown to breakthrough, I’ve learned that healing isn’t linear — it’s layered, messy, and deeply human. My hope is that this episode reminds you that you’re not alone, that the pause is powerful, and that even when it feels like nothing’s working out… it’s always working out.

If this conversation resonates with you I’d love to invite you into my free online community — Why Mindset Matters on Skool — a space where like-minded souls come together to grow, heal, and speak openly.
👉  https://www.skool.com/why-mindset-matters-6748

And if my work, podcast, or book has positively impacted you or someone you love, it would mean the world if you’d take a moment to share your experience. Your feedback is greatly appreciated
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Season 2 Episode 5 - When Mindset Meets Physiology: The Real Work of Healing

In this episode, I talk about the truth that while mindset really does matter — it isn’t everything. There are times in life, especially through grief and trauma, when we can be doing all the “right” things and still feel stuck, heavy, or disconnected. And that’s okay.

I share my own experiences of navigating deep loss and healing, and how I came to understand that real resilience isn’t about pushing through or bypassing our feelings — it’s about honoring them, alongside taking care of our physical and emotional wellbeing. Sometimes the body needs as much support as the mind does.

This conversation is an invitation to give yourself grace, lean into community, and remember that even in the midst of struggle, there is still beauty, growth, and life to be found.

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Season 2 Episode 4: Breaking the Silence - Why Talking About Our Pain Saves Lives

In this episode of the Why Mindset Matters podcast, I dive into the darkness so many people find themselves in before taking their own life — that silent, heavy space where it feels like no one else could possibly understand. I know that place, and I know how isolating it can feel. But I also know the power of breaking the silence. When we share our struggles, we not only create connection and understanding, we create hope. I open up about my own experiences with grief and mental health, and why having these conversations is so vital. 

My hope is that by speaking candidly, I can help normalize conversations around mental health and remind you that it’s okay to ask for help — because even in the darkest times, you are not alone.

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Season 2 Episode 3 : Perfectly Imperfect: Finding the Beauty in the Mess

In this episode, I dive into the messy, beautiful truth about imperfection and why waiting for everything to be “just right” can actually hold us back. I share honestly about my own journey with podcasting, the pressure I’ve felt to make things perfect, and the lessons I’ve learned about showing up authentically instead. Perfection isn’t where the magic is — it’s in the perfectly imperfect moments that shape us, teach us, and help us grow. This is about choosing intention over perfection, transforming pain into purpose, and finding beauty in the unpredictable ride that is life.

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