In honor of Men’s Mental Health Month, we sat down together, not just as coach and pastor, but as two men who’ve walked through fire and lived to talk about it.

This isn’t a highlight reel. It’s the stuff we usually keep buried.

We talked about the father wounds we’ve both carried. The pride that keeps men from asking for help. The pressure to perform. The pain we pack down because the world expects us to hold it all together. We talked about what it’s like to lead, to break, to heal, and to come back different.

But this isn’t just for men.

If you’re a woman who loves a man, your son, your husband, your brother—this will help you understand what he might not be able to say out loud. We talk about how women can help carry the load, not by fixing it—but by seeing it.

This episode is a conversation between brothers. A look at the spiritual war behind the silence. And a reminder that wholeness isn’t about perfection, it’s about letting God touch the places we’ve tried to survive without Him.

This episode wasn’t planned; it was poured out.

What started as a cultural deep dive turned into a vulnerable, in-the-moment conversation about father-son dynamics, emotional weight, and what it means to walk through a season where your heart is under construction.

Dillon opens up about the reality of carrying responsibility while being reshaped internally. Pastor Jamie steps in not as a host, but as a spiritual father, helping guide the conversation from performance to posture.

This isn’t a motivational episode. It’s an honest one.

In this episode:

• Why father wounds and spiritual fathering shape how we lead and receive
• How to keep your heart soft when life tries to harden it
• What it means to lead from sonship, not survival
• The real cost of correction, accountability, and trust
• Navigating seasons where your heart feels like it’s being pruned, not praised

Quote to remember:
"God doesn’t just fix your fruit. He cuts at the root."

If you’re in a season where you feel raw, responsible, and still being rebuilt, this conversation is for you.

What happens when your calling collides with your content?

In this brutally honest episode, Dillon and Pastor Jamie unpack the psychological, spiritual, and cultural cost of living online, especially for those trying to lead with integrity in a world built for performance.

This is more than a critique of social media. It’s a call to reclaim voice, vision, and spiritual authority in a culture obsessed with visibility.

In this episode:

• The pressure to be seen, even when you’re not okay
• Why real transformation doesn’t go viral, and why that matters
• The fine line between using your voice and losing yourself
• How to recover spiritually from content fatigue and cultural overstimulation
• The difference between real influence and branded noise

Quote to remember:
"The algorithm doesn’t care about your soul. God does."

If you’ve ever felt like your voice was being shaped more by the feed than by the Father, this one will hit.

This one’s not clean. It’s not polished. It’s real.

In this episode, Dillon opens up about the parts of his life that have cracked wide open spiritually, emotionally, and relationally over the last year and invites Pastor Jamie to speak into those raw places as a spiritual father.

Together, they explore what it means to lead while still healing, to confront the gap between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming, and to receive correction from someone who loves you enough to call it out.

This isn’t a highlight reel. This is a behind-the-scenes confession of the cost of transformation.

In this episode:

• What broke Dillon this year, and why it needed to
• How to lead others while still bleeding internally
• Spiritual fathering, blind spots, and what God might be pruning
• Jamie’s journey with physical discipline and why it’s spiritual too
• The hidden pressure of performance in Christian leadership

Quote to remember:
"You can’t lead well if you won’t bleed honestly."

If you’ve ever felt like you’re still becoming, still breaking, still being rebuilt, this episode is a lifeline.

What does it really cost to change?

Dillon and Pastor Jamie cut through the noise of modern culture to talk about the real cost of growth, leadership, and spiritual authority in a world addicted to performance and perfection.

This isn’t a Good Friday sermon — it’s a spiritual reckoning wrapped in cultural commentary.

From the epidemic of obesity and dopamine addiction to the collapse of authentic masculinity, this episode peels back the layers of distraction, compromise, and emotional numbness we’re all swimming in.

Topics include:

• Why the “high value man” trend is just unresolved trauma with better lighting
• The difference between aesthetic fitness and actual healing
• Why most people want resurrection without the cross
• How to lead when you’re still bleeding
• The spiritual war happening in your algorithm

Quote to remember:
"Everything’s allowed, nothing is healed. That’s not grace — that’s chaos."

If you’ve ever felt caught between the man you used to be and the one you’re becoming… this episode is for you.

Twenty-five episodes in, and Why Not Us has become more than just a podcast, it’s been a journey of faith, transformation, and deep conversations. In this special episode, Dillon and Pastor Jamie take a step back to reflect on the past seven months: the lessons learned, how they’ve grown, and how this show has impacted them and the community.

This is not just a recap. It’s a heartfelt thank-you to everyone who has tuned in, supported, and been part of this journey. It’s a moment to acknowledge how God has moved through these conversations and how this podcast has been shaping not just the listeners, but also the hosts themselves.

What We Covered:
❤️ The biggest ways we’ve grown – How these 25 episodes have shaped our faith, character, and mindset.
❤️ The unexpected lessons – The moments that convicted, challenged, and changed us.
❤️ How this podcast has become more than just a show – The community, the connections, and the deeper purpose behind Why Not Us.
❤️ Listener impact – The stories and feedback that have reminded us why we do this.
❤️ Where we’re headed next – What’s on our hearts for the future of the podcast.

Key Takeaways:
🔥 “Faith isn’t just something we talk about, it’s something we’ve been tested in through this journey.”
🔥 “We started this as a way to share, but the truth is, it’s transformed us just as much as our listeners.”
🔥 “This has been more than a podcast. It’s become a ministry, a community, and a calling.”
🔥 “If there’s one thing we want listeners to walk away with, it’s that faith is messy, growth is uncomfortable, but both are worth it.”

Listener Challenge:
What’s been your favorite episode or takeaway from Why Not Us so far? DM us or share it on social media and tag @The_WhyNotUsPodcast, we’d love to hear from you!

📢 Thank you for being part of this journey! If this podcast has impacted you, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs it.

Episode Summary:
Why do sports and competition hold such a powerful place in our lives? Dillon and Pastor Jamie dive into the deep connection between faith, competition, and personal growth in this episode of Why Not Us. Whether you're an athlete, a coach, or just someone who loves the game, this episode explores why competition is more than just winning. It’s about discipline, perseverance, and shaping character.

What We Covered:
🏆 Why competition is wired into human nature – Is the drive to win a good thing or a spiritual trap?
🏆 Biblical perspectives on competition – What does Scripture say about discipline, endurance, and sharpening each other?
🏆 The dark side of sports – When does competition become an idol, and how do we keep it in check?
🏆 How sports prepare us for life and faith – The lessons of teamwork, failure, and perseverance that go beyond the game.

Key Takeaways:
🔥 “Run in such a way as to get the prize.” – 1 Corinthians 9:24
🔥 Sports can be a tool for spiritual growth or a distraction from purpose, it’s all about balance.
🔥 The greatest competitors are often the most disciplined, not just physically but spiritually.
🔥 If your identity is tied to winning, what happens when the game ends?

Listener Challenge:
What’s one lesson from sports that has shaped your faith or character? DM us or share it on social media and tag @WhyNotUsPodcast.

Episode Description:

Does more money make us happier? Society tells us wealth equals success, but does that idea hold up biblically, scientifically, or anecdotally? In this episode, Dillon and Pastor Jamie summarize what Scripture says about money, the psychology of happiness, and personal experiences with financial highs and lows.

They explore:
💰 How money impacts happiness—fact vs. myth
📖 What the Bible says about wealth, greed, and contentment
⚖️ Why so many wealthy people still feel empty
🔑 How to shift from money-worship to financial stewardship

If you’ve ever thought, “If I just made more, I’d be happy,” this episode will challenge that belief and reveal what leads to fulfillment.

 1. Does More Money Actually Make You Happier?

• Studies show that happiness increases up to $75K a year—after that, it plateaus.
• The hedonic treadmill: Why people constantly chase more but never feel satisfied.
• Dillon reflects on his journey—making more money than ever, yet realizing it didn’t fix everything.

💡 Lesson: More money changes your problems but doesn’t necessarily solve the deeper ones.

2. What the Bible Says About Wealth & Contentment

• Matthew 6:24 – “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.”
• 1 Timothy 6:10 – “For the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil.”
• The Bible doesn’t condemn wealth, but it warns about idolizing it and making it your source of identity.
• Pastor Jamie shares insights on why wealth can create more anxiety, not peace, without the right foundation.

💡 Lesson: Money is a tool, not a master—it can serve you, but it can’t define you.

3. The Wealth Trap – Why More Isn’t Always Better

• The loneliness of extreme wealth – Why many of the wealthiest people feel disconnected.
• The “more” problem – Every time you level up, your expenses, desires, and expectations do too.
• Personal stories about how wealth either helped or hurt well-being.

💡 Lesson: True contentment doesn’t come from more—it comes from meaning.

4. The Biblical Perspective on Money & Stewardship

• Money should be a tool, not a burden.
• The importance of giving and generosity, and why the Bible emphasizes helping others.
• Practical strategies for handling wealth without being consumed by it.

💡 Lesson: “Better is a little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and trouble with it.” – Proverbs 15:16

Episode Description:

In this powerful episode, Pastor Jamie takes the lead, guiding Dillon through a deep conversation about what it truly means to love, live with conviction, and trust the Holy Spirit’s direction.

Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a conviction, a choice, and a response to God’s call. But how do we know when we’re following our true purpose versus chasing fleeting emotions? Jamie shares wisdom on aligning with God’s will, recognizing Holy Spirit-driven relationships, and the dangers of making decisions based on feelings instead of faith.

If you’ve ever struggled with knowing when to let go, trust, or take action, this episode will challenge and encourage you.

Key Takeaways:

1. Love Is More Than Emotion - It’s Conviction and Alignment
   • The world tells us love is about passion and chemistry, but Scripture shows that love is an act of faith, sacrifice, and obedience.
   • 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 – “Love is patient, love is kind…”
   • The Holy Spirit attracts Holy Spirit - why we are drawn to people who align with our faith journey.
2. The Danger of Letting Feelings Lead Instead of Convictions
   • Why feelings are fleeting, but convictions guide us toward real purpose.
   • The problem with chasing worldly love, career success, or recognition without seeking God’s plan.
   • “The heart is deceitful above all things.” – Jeremiah 17:9
3. Recognizing When God Is Leading You vs. When You’re Leading Yourself
   • How to discern when God is removing someone or something from your life.
   • The difference between attraction and spiritual alignment - who is truly meant for you?
   • Romans 8:14 – “For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God.”
4. Surrendering to God’s Plan—Even When It’s Hard
   • Why surrendering our desires, relationships, and plans leads to more peace, not less.
   • How trusting the Holy Spirit shifts our focus from self to God’s greater vision.
   • Psalm 37:4 – “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.”

Episode Description:

The world is pushing for absolute equality between men and women, but is that really how God designed us? In this episode, Dillon and Pastor Jamie challenge the modern view that men and women should be identical in function, diving deep into biblical truth, history, and biology to understand their complementary roles.

We explain why chasing equality in function often leads to division, how modern policies have backfired by reinforcing gender differences, and why men are responsible for leading, protecting, and providing, not in dominance but in godly strength and service.

This is a powerful episode for men and women alike. It tackles one of the most controversial cultural issues with truth and conviction.

Key Takeaways:

1. God Created Men and Women as Equals in Value but Different in Role
   • Men were designed to lead, protect, and provide, while women were created to nurture, support, and bring wisdom.
   • Genesis 1:27 – “So God created man in his own image… male and female He created them.”
2. Chasing Equality in Function Often Leads to More Division, Not Unity
   • The Netherlands and Swiss studies show that the more freedom men and women have, the more they choose traditionally masculine and feminine roles.
   • Trying to force equality in outcomes erases our natural strengths instead of celebrating them.
3. Men Are Failing to Fulfill Their Biblical Duties
   • Many men today avoid responsibility, leading to a weak generation lacking direction.
   • 1 Corinthians 16:13 – “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.”
   • Higher testosterone is linked to following convictions over conformity, a biological and biblical call for men to stand firm.
4. Women’s Strength in Biblical Femininity
   • Biblical womanhood is NOT a weakness; Proverbs 31 paints a picture of a wise, strong, and capable woman.
   • Women’s power is in grace, wisdom, and faithfulness, not in trying to mirror men.

Quotes from the Episode:

• “Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come.” – Proverbs 31:25
• “A man who does not provide for his family has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” – 1 Timothy 5:8