Why Perspective Matters

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A podcast about teaching queer women how to improve and strengthen their relationship with actionable steps, with me, yours truly as your coach.

Big Insights

What can dramatically improve the direction of my relationship right now? 

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You might be surprised to know its shifting perspective. Not so surprising, I know. 

But why do so many couples miss this step?

And that is what you're going to hear and learn about today. 

At the time of this recording, America and the world is still battling the corona virus and I hope that you and your loved ones are at home and are safe and healthy.  

I want to talk to you about this idea of finding a new perspective in a tough season. And new perspective in a tough season doesn't mean that we bend reality or lack empathy. It means we build positive strength amidst the uncertainty.  

And in juggling all of these thoughts, I began to look for ways to ascend out of the negative emotions that I was feeling amidst the panic of the pandemic and I knew the key that was going to get me there was shifting perspective despite what was happening around us.  

1. Ways to Ascend Out of Negative Emotions

Madison, a student from my Relationship Peace Academy, was full of pride, she was sure that she knew that her partner would never change. She was hurt by broken promises that her partner Jennifer didn't live up to. In this season, they were struggling together.

Because of how Madison felt, she was unable to work through tough conversations with Jennifer. She was dismissive and rude.

As a result, the relationship was on the rocks in a tough season.

She was seeing things through the perspective of her pain. She was seeing the relationship through her trauma. But that wasn't serving the growth of their relationship or Madison either.

How about you, have you ever struggled to see things from another perspective because you felt hurt or afraid to get hurt again? This is quite common and it happens to all of us.

Madison and Jennifer learned that perspective matters when they had to see things from each others perspective to heal. They had to shift perspective to see the position of each other so that they can grow more understanding and empathy in the relationship.

As a result, they are able to communicate and work through their problems together.

2. Create Big Momentum with Perspective Shifts

Perspective matters so much in the season, because your perspective shifts will create big momentum, create shared meaning, create commitment to shift paradigms and negative emotions and limiting beliefs that will move you out of toxic patterns, to understanding your sense of self, and can help move you into a committed season of relationship peace.

This commitment exists beyond your mood, regardless of your mood. Shifting perspective isn't  something that spontaneously happens, it requires commitment, determination and focus.

And when you know that perspective matters, you know what is going to serve you on a higher level, your relationship on a higher level.

3. Seek Out a Mentor

In this season, I want to offer guidance, motivation and inspiration on a new journey, about being honest about where you want to go. About what you're dealing with and about how you can shift if you're someone that wants to reconnect the synergy between you and your partner. If you're someone who wants to feel more joy, be happier and identify the patterns that are showing up in your life.  

If you're struggling with tough emotions in your relationship this season, seek out a mentor, someone that will help you identify what you're feeling and what you're struggling with and how to turn it around. In this series, 10 Perspectives to a Better Relationship, I will walk you through 10 Perspectives that will do just that and you will learn how to identify and shift perspective.     

And as a bonus, you can get my free training and accompanying workbook so that you work through and process in real time, and join my free community of queer women who are on the journey with you. You can join by going to here.

We as a community can encourage each other to be better together.

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