In Her Era

Why Rest Feels Like Failure for High Achievers with Psychotherapist Chloe Cassidy


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If slowing down makes you feel guilty, restless when you’re not producing, or like rest somehow makes you “less than”… his episode will feel like someone finally put words to what you’ve been carrying.

In this episode, I sat down with Chloe Cassidy, an accredited mental health social worker, psychotherapist for high achievers and founder of Mind Care Avenue. What started as a conversation turned into a mini therapy session (for me, and probably for so many of you listening too).

We unpack the emotional weight that high-achieving women hold behind the scenes, the perfectionism that shapes our identity, the unspoken grief we often avoid, and the constant pressure to always be “on.”

Chloe also opens up about her personal story of loss, what it taught her about slowing down, and how she's learning to soften. It’s raw, powerful, and a reminder that healing doesn’t happen by pushing through, it happens when we pause and feel.


We Cover:

  • What’s really behind perfectionism and high achievement and how it stems from childhood patterns.
  • Why rest often feels “wrong” for high performers and how to start giving yourself permission to slow down
  • Why romanticising the little moments in life (coffee rituals, decompression walks, candlelit dinners) is essential
  • Simple micro habits that help regulate your nervous system and rebuild emotional safety
  • Why letting people in — even in small ways — can change everything


Because here’s the truth: just because you can carry it all, doesn’t mean you have to.

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In Her EraBy Monique Took