In this episode of Burqah & Bikini, I’m joined by sex therapist Aashita Khanna to explore the complicated relationship South Asians have with sex. Why is so much sex... bad? And how do you even know if it is?

We unpack how South Asian women are taught (or not taught) about sex, pleasure, and their own bodies, and how these messages go wrong. We also talk about global misconceptions, the flawed sex education models that extend far beyond South Asia, and why they fail so many.

We dive into vaginismus, losing your virginity after marriage, and the crucial but missing step of sexual preparation. Most importantly, this episode teaches women not just that they can ask for better sex, but how to ask for it.

From understanding what pleasure and orgasm actually are, to breaking the silence around desire, this is a practical and empowering guide for women who’ve been told not to say no—but also never taught how to say yes.