I discuss Adam Grant's book Give and Take and how it helped me better understand the difference between takers, matchers, and givers—especially the kind of giver who thrives without losing themselves. I reflect on how I used to only help people if it helped me, how prison forced me to rethink that, and how writing one blog post in 2008 changed everything. I also explore why giving without boundaries can be dangerous, and why learning to say no matters more than most people realize.