Why Tho

As usual, there are heavy topics to talk about. Julius Jones, Kyle Rittenhouse, and Ahmaud Arbery has us talking about the difficult, painful reality of sons in America. That led us to boundaries, and what we are, and are not going to fight about at the Thanksgiving table.

Also, what we are saying no to, code words and signs that it's time to go, and the things that are bringing delight to us right now. (Please order 10m blow dry brush here: https://amzn.to/3l8eRJ7

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And of course, we shared our anti-turkey Thanksgiving meal plans. Remember, most of you are adults. You're in control of your life and relationships. You're a powerful person. Make decisions toward sanity and generosity. Happy anti-turkey day!

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We know the holidays can be challenging. Right alongside peppermint mochas, target trips, and annual traditions, there is often stress, financial pressure, and relationship issues. This series will help you navigate some of these challenges.

Today’s episode we tackle:

Why you shouldn’t eat everything at the potluck (people’s kitchens can’t be trusted)

What to gift the host of a holiday party (and a question to ask in case someone is in recovery)

Exercising your agency (no is a complete sentence + go late, leave early)

Hilarious letters from kids to God (https://www.boredpanda.com/children-write-letters-to-god/)

Two delightful films to make you LOL

We’ll be back next week, with more on dealing with difficult emotions, family dynamics, and dialing down the end of a LONG YEAR.

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Friendship makes life worth living. When people are in our corner and when relationships are healthy, we experience greater joy and peace. But when our friendships need to change, or end, or get honest to move forward, it gets complicated.

Andi Andrew joins us today to talk about the root of our complicated connections, how our family of origin impacts the way women relate to women, and what to do when a friendship needs to change.

Check out Andi’s new book, "Friendship, It’s Complicated" https://andiandrew.com and say hello on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andiandrew/

Liturgies have sustained the saints for eons and today we learn how in this pandemic world we can do the same. Kayla Craig addresses why liturgies matter, who they are for, how they transform us, and why we need them. Don't miss out on this gem of an episode!

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Hey there Why Tho listeners, instead of trying harder, let's talk about trying softer with therapist and author Aundi Kolber.

Aundi walks us through what it looks like to examine how we process trauma and what we can do about it. As we walk into the holiday season, this is a must listen if you know you may be triggered by places or people that make you want to run for the hills.

For more about Aundi's work, check her out on Instagram @aundikolber. For her latest guided journal or to learn more about her best selling book, visit https://aundikolber.com/books/

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Enjoy our last week in our Throwback Thursday series: Why Heaven is All Around Us Tho.

A global pandemic doesn't really feel like heaven, but we're encouraging you to really look and see the goodness of God. Jesus often said, "The kingdom of heaven is at hand..." In the midst of economic difficulty, oppressive rulers, racism, sexism and more, he pressed people to see that heaven is right here, right now, all around us. No matter how dark, how fearful, how lonely, we are not alone, and there is beauty, and dare we say, joy to be found.... But not in Tiger King. So y'all stop watching that garbage! Or at least message us with an explanation, please.

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#tbt to our top downloaded episodes of Why Tho! Old friends and new, these episodes offer humor, wisdom, and practical hope for you. In celebration of our third birthday we’re revisiting the archives to see how far we’ve come and thank you for being part of the Why Tho Fam!

Enjoy our Throwback Thursday fave all about cheese boards! Cheese boards are a ministry and we'll tell you what makes our so mouthwatering.

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#tbt to our top downloaded episodes of Why Tho! Old friends and new, these episodes offer humor, wisdom, and practical hope for you. In celebration of our third birthday we’re revisiting the archives to see how far we’ve come and thank you for being part of the Why Tho Fam!

Body image impacts women everywhere. Our culture is obsessed with image. From magazine covers to social media ads to the groups we belong to, we're receiving implicit and explicit messages that the sum total of our value is in our pants size, our lack of wrinkles, our hair, and skin color.

In this episode, Tiffany and Ashley talk about their experiences with body image (name calling, shame, eating disorder, and more). Plus, we'll provide helpful tools to help you overcome negative body image and share how to lean into a more holistic perspective of our emotional, spiritual, relational and physical well-being. We can resist the cultural norms and stop reducing ourselves to what we look like so we can celebrate who we (and others) are!

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People lie, cheat, gossip, act wild, don't do what they said they would do, ghost us like they have lost their minds, and we still keep them in our lives! WHY THO?

Maybe it's because we fear the consequences, or repercussions of changing the boundaries in the relationship. We fear the loss of connection, or the rumor mill, or that a potential opportunity will be taken if we hold people accountable for their actions. We fear rejection and loneliness, and we also can be so afraid that people we love the most won't ever change, that we'll be stuck in the crazy cycle forever.

In this episode, we learn why we need to stop making excuses for people so that our relationships are loving and meaningful, instead of scary and manipulative. No relationship is perfect, but we don't have to stay in transactional, dysfunctional relationships - we can work through our character flaws with the right people, who are also working through theirs.

Time to get off the crazy cycle, and say BYE THO to people who have no intention of actually loving us. #byetho #whytho Who needs this podcast? Share it with them!

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#tbt to our top downloaded episodes of Why Tho! Old friends and new, these episodes offer humor, wisdom, and practical hope for you. In celebration of our third birthday, we’re revisiting the archives to see how far we’ve come and thank you for being part of the Why Tho tribe!

Why are we so scared to quit what needs to be quit? Sometimes we forget that it's not just about what we are walking away from, but what we are walking into. There's an expansive world of choice and love out there, and the microcosm of our moment (especially if the job, relationship, mentor, employer, pastor, etc. is unhealthy or unsustainable) can make us feel like if we leave the world will end. Will quitting mess with our calling? Will we miss God? Will we have any other opportunities? Do we have what it takes to navigate the unknown?

Here's why quitting could be the best decision you ever made tho: You can build a life you love one step at a time. This episode will help you make an exit plan, dream bigger, and recognize unsafe people and places so you can say, bye tho, with honor and grace.  

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