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Why Trying to Listen Harder Isn't Working | Ep 61
You've tried to listen better. You wait longer, stay calmer, stop interrupting. And she still says she doesn't feel heard.
This episode names what's actually happening in that gap.
Most men were taught that listening is about behavior. But behavior isn't what creates the experience of being heard. Until you understand the difference, you can keep improving your technique and still leave her feeling alone in the conversation.
This isn't a how-to episode. No active listening steps. No reflective language techniques. Just an honest look at why the effort isn't landing, what's getting in the way, and why the gap between you has less to do with skill than with what stopped feeling safe a long time ago.
In this episode:
Join me for “What She Stopped Saying” - a free 30-minute webinar on July 8th.
Register at Live Webinar | Open Call Registration
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/
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By Alisa StoddardYou've tried to listen better. You wait longer, stay calmer, stop interrupting. And she still says she doesn't feel heard.
This episode names what's actually happening in that gap.
Most men were taught that listening is about behavior. But behavior isn't what creates the experience of being heard. Until you understand the difference, you can keep improving your technique and still leave her feeling alone in the conversation.
This isn't a how-to episode. No active listening steps. No reflective language techniques. Just an honest look at why the effort isn't landing, what's getting in the way, and why the gap between you has less to do with skill than with what stopped feeling safe a long time ago.
In this episode:
Join me for “What She Stopped Saying” - a free 30-minute webinar on July 8th.
Register at Live Webinar | Open Call Registration
🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast
💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/