Ever sit down to relax and immediately think of something you should be doing instead?

Yeah, me too.

If resting makes you feel twitchy, guilty, or like you're somehow falling behind, this episode is for you.

We’re talking about why relaxing feels so hard—especially for women who’ve been conditioned to associate their worth with productivity. I’ll share why rest doesn’t always feel safe, how hustle culture wired us to earn downtime, and what it actually takes to start reclaiming rest (without spiraling into guilt or shame).

This isn’t about fancy self-care routines or a perfect wind-down strategy. This is about unlearning the idea that you're only valuable when you're doing. Let’s begin to believe that being is enough.

In this episode, I talk about:

* Why so many of us feel anxious when we try to rest

* The cultural and personal conditioning that makes rest feel “unproductive”

* My own experience with rest guilt (and what helped shift it)

* Practical ways to start reclaiming rest without shame

* Reflection questions to gently explore your relationship with rest

✨ Reflection Questions:

* What comes up for me when I try to rest?

* Where did I learn that productivity = worth?

* What kinds of rest actually feel good and nourishing to me?

* What would change if I believed rest wasn’t something I had to earn?

🌿 Ready to create a slower, more intentional life that feels good to live in?I have three 1:1 coaching spots open this summer inside Love Your Life.Together, we’ll simplify your days, make space for what matters, and help you stop feeling like you’re always behind.

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Thanks for being here, and remember: you don’t need to do more to be enough. You already are.

xo, Xuan

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