Why do we do things we know aren’t right for us? In this episode, Lesa Koski shares personal stories—from a disastrous snorkeling trip to an icy ski fall—to explore midlife mindset, intuition, and why ignoring our inner knowing leads to unnecessary pain.Using her S.O.U.L. self-coaching method, Lesa walks through how stillness, surrender, and aligned decisions help women over 40 stop fighting themselves and start living with more clarity. This episode is especially helpful for women navigating divorce, boundaries, people-pleasing, or major life transitions who want to make choices that actually feel right.
Timestamps(00:00) Welcome + why the New Year feels like a reset
(03:40) The question that won’t leave us alone: why do we go against ourselves?
(07:20) The Hawaii snorkeling story (red flags we ignored)
(15:10) The icy ski fall + ignoring inner knowing
(24:30) How people-pleasing overrides intuition
(30:40) Using the S.O.U.L. Method before making decisions
(39:00) Purpose vs. obligation: when sacrifice is aligned
(48:10) Divorce Clarity 40+ community invitation

Key TakeawaysIgnoring inner knowing often leads to unnecessary suffering
People-pleasing can override intuition
Stillness reveals what we already know
Alignment feels different than obligation
Purposeful sacrifice brings peace, not resentment

Guest BioLesa Koski is a former family law attorney turned mediator, divorce coach, and mindset coach. She helps women over 40 navigate divorce, midlife transitions, and emotional overwhelm with clarity, faith, and grounded tools. Lesa is the host of Doing Life Different and creator of the S.O.U.L. Method™.
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8. Divorce Clarity 40+ Community

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