Episode Summary

What’s really behind the piles, the closets full of “someday” items, or the boxes of gifts we don’t love but still keep? Professional organizer and coach Kathy Vines, Certified Professional Organizer®and host of Surfing the Quicksand shares the framework she uses with clients, book readers, and her Clever Girl Organizing Challenge community: looking at your stuff, systems, and habits.

You’ll hear how family dynamics, stories we tell ourselves about our belongings, and values in conflict (like guilt over gifts) can keep us weighed down. Kathy breaks down some of the most common barriers to letting go, from “I might need it someday” to “this reminds me of who I used to be.”

This episode is a primer for the organizing and decluttering conversations Kathy will revisit throughout the podcast, designed to help midlife women live more intentionally, lighten their load, and finally feel at home in their homes.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The three root causes of disorganization: stuff, systems, and habits.
• How tospot some triggers for when the stuff has you stuck.
• Why guilt (especially around gifts) keeps so many of us stuck.
• The hidden ways identity and “aspirational” items weigh us down.
• Simple questions to ask yourself before keeping“I might need it someday” stuff,“just in case.”
• How values in conflict (when two strong beliefs are mutually exclusive indecisions)shape your clutter.

Resources & Mentions

• Kathy’s Book: Clever Girl’s Guide to Living with Less: Break Free from Your Stuff EvenWhen Your Head and Heart Get in the Way https://amzn.to/4oTUQp2

• The CleverGirl Organizing Challenge (annual program) https://www.clevergirlorganizing.com/2026-clever-girl-organizing-challenge/

Call to Action

If this episode got you thinking about your own stuff, systems, or habits, share your thoughts in the YouTube comments or tag Kathy on Instagram. And don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes on decluttering, productivity, and navigating midlife changes