We sat down to figure out why we keep not doing this podcast. What happened instead was better.

In this episode we get into urgency versus consistency — why chasing urgency is just hitting yourself against a wall and thinking the wall will move, and what might actually unfold if you showed up instead. We talk about healing your younger self through the people right in front of you — what it looks like to pour love into a childhood memory by washing your toddler's sheets at midnight and meaning it. We get into being triggered by your kids not because of anything they're doing wrong, but because of the age you were when everything went wrong for you. We talk about not knowing how to receive love when your filter for what love looks like is broken. About recovery getting lonelier the higher you climb, and why that's not a sign you're failing. About afformations versus affirmations — why your brain responds to a question completely differently than a statement. And about havening, which we had both forgotten about until we needed it.

We also fight briefly about what to name you. Potties was proposed. Potties was rejected. We're still working on it.

This one started as an exploratory conversation and turned into something real. We think there's something in it for you — whether you're in recovery, in a marriage that's hard right now, or just tired of feeling like you're the only one who doesn't have it together.

You're not. We promise.